db75 Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Just looking for a little input here. My Background: My ex and I officially broke up a bit over 2 months ago, we have been apart for 3 months(long story). We were together and living together for 3.5 years. The situation: Have an opportunity to go on a date/meeting with a woman early next week. She's nice, attractive...but a bit mental. Neither she or I want or are looking for anything serious right now. She's given me all indication that she's just looking to hang out and be intimate. She's been calling me a bit more than I'm comfortable with though. Basically, I'm just concerned I could be jumping back into the scene a little to soon. The pain from my ex is mostly gone. Sometimes I feel like it would be a good idea and would help me "rebuild myself" so to speak. This would be my first date since me and my ex parted ways so naturally I'm a bit nervous. Just wonder if there would be any harm in just meeting this woman in person or not, even if she is a little crazy? I know no one can make this choice for me, just looking for opinions and input. Thanks.
Age18Male Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 She probably just wants your D, go after her, it wouldnt hurt? If anything it would help take your mind off your ex. If not? oh well.. what do you have to lose if you have free-time.. go have fun?
KittenMoon Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Considering you dated and lived with your ex for almost 4 years, this sounds a bit quick, IMO. BUT, if YOU feel ready, YOU should do what feels right for you. What feels right?
Cheshire Cat Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 There are many degrees of craziness. If she is just crazy enough to keep surprising you in nice ways and to have brilliant and hilarious conversation with, she is probably worth meeting in person. If you smell a stalker or if she looks truly disturbed, find some excuse and cut contact with her. Dealing with a bunny boiler is a quite effective way to distract yourself from thinking about your ex, but it's not not usually a good idea overall.
dgiirl Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 What do you mean she's mental? Does she have a few loose screws? Why would you be with someone like that in the first place? You mentioned that she's already starting to call you too much. I think you are setting yourself up for pscyhoville. If you want to date, that's cool. But atleast choose someone who will be good for you. Not just anyone who shows up first at your door.
Author db75 Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 If you smell a stalker or if she looks truly disturbed, find some excuse and cut contact with her. Dealing with a bunny boiler is a quite effective way to distract yourself from thinking about your ex, but it's not not usually a good idea overall. That's sorta my concern in this matter. I don't know for certain that she's crazy, but she's certainly unique. I don't think I'd know for sure unless I actually met her. It's a little easier to guage "crazy" when you can actually read someones body language....the eyes especially. Thanks for your input though.
Author db75 Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 What do you mean she's mental? Does she have a few loose screws? Why would you be with someone like that in the first place? You mentioned that she's already starting to call you too much. I think you are setting yourself up for pscyhoville. If you want to date, that's cool. But atleast choose someone who will be good for you. Not just anyone who shows up first at your door. I think there may be some screws loose, but I'm a guy who's attracted to women who are a bit quirky. There is however a fine line between quirky and crazy, I'm really trying to figure which side of the line she's on. I figure if I do agree to meet her, then there's really no harm, no foul. Just a meeting, that's it. If I really get the impression she's crazy, then I figure I can just break contact with her afterwards....that's what I would hope anyway.
Cheshire Cat Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 That's sorta my concern in this matter. I don't know for certain that she's crazy, but she's certainly unique. Drop euphemisms - no need to be politically correct when deciding whether meeting in person someone who could be mentally disturbed. Why would you call her unique? Is there anything specific she said that triggered this impression? Anyway, if you are in doubt, I'd say stay away from her. Expecially since she is already calling you more often than you'd be confortable with.
Author db75 Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 Drop euphemisms - no need to be politically correct when deciding whether meeting in person someone who could be mentally disturbed. Why would you call her unique? Is there anything specific she said that triggered this impression? Anyway, if you are in doubt, I'd say stay away from her. Expecially since she is already calling you more often than you'd be confortable with. Well at any rate thanks for your input. After another conversation with her this afternoon I'm am now confirming her as crazy. I'm running away from this one and quickly at that. Thanks again to everyone for their replies.
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