fishtaco Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 So I broke the ice with this woman. Hung out with her (group situation) tonight, at the end of the night ended up chatting with just her right outside the club. But I didn't realize the time was right for getting her number until it was too late... I always do that, say goodbye too soon, then afterwards I realize what I should have done. Well, all is not lost I hope, I'll be hanging out with her again next week (another group situation). I'll get her number then. Hopefully she'll give me one week worth of slack. Hmm.. in fact, there's a party happening this Saturday... I wonder if I can get the organizer of the party to invite her. I know people that have her number, but it's not cool unless I get it from her directly.
Cheshire Cat Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 I wonder if I can get the organizer of the party to invite her. I'd get her number first. Never get someone you are interested in invited to a party unless she is going to the party with you - or at least knows it was you who got her the invitation!
Author fishtaco Posted October 8, 2006 Author Posted October 8, 2006 Thanks for the tip... I ended up getting sick anyway so I just stayed home and slept. But I'll remember that for the future.
Author fishtaco Posted October 14, 2006 Author Posted October 14, 2006 Well, I got her number last night. It's certainly not a bad thing, but it's not necessarily a good thing either. She could have given it to me because of "friendship", or some women would give out their phone number even if they're not interested in the guy. Never can tell. It's simply a "next step". Since the environment at the time was hanging out with my salsa friends, I did say something like don't be surprised if I use her number for evil purposes. I didn't want her to think I'm only getting her number so I can invite her out to future salsa group get-together's; I'm going to use it to ask her out on a date. She just laughed, not sure if she got my meaning. Anyway, two questions: 1) There's a salsa event happening this Sunday. Is it too soon to ask her to that? Also I could possibly arrange it to be sort of a double date with two other people. Would that be better or should I wait longer? My feeling at this point is that it's too soon. 2) I met her through salsa dancing. If I keep doing salsa stuff with her, that'd be the "easy" way. But would that make it too one dimensional? I figure maybe the first couple of dates should be salsa related, since that's our common interest so far, after that I need to branch out. Or maybe I should just do something non salsa related for the first date? If I should do non salsa, what are some good suggestions, other than the basic movie + dinner? Art gallery? Hockey game? Took a girl kayaking before. Opera season is starting, but it's expensive so I'd prefer to save that for when things get further. Or maybe it should be something light like a "hey, let's meet up to grab a quick lunch". Thanks.
Cheshire Cat Posted October 14, 2006 Posted October 14, 2006 Well, I got her number last night. It's certainly not a bad thing, but it's not necessarily a good thing either. She could have given it to me because of "friendship", or some women would give out their phone number even if they're not interested in the guy. Never can tell. It's simply a "next step". Congratulations for getting her number! No reason to be pessimistic ahead of time. It's just a next step, but it is still one more step in her direction. 1) There's a salsa event happening this Sunday. Is it too soon to ask her to that? Also I could possibly arrange it to be sort of a double date with two other people. Would that be better or should I wait longer? My feeling at this point is that it's too soon. I agree that it is a tad to soon to ask her out on a double date. About the salsa event....I'd ask her to it, keeping in mind that: - if she is already interested in you, she will be glad you asked her out soon. - the nicer the upcoming salsa event is, the more it makes sense to ask her to it. - if you are going to the salsa event anyway and she happens to be there, it is going to be very, very embarassing to call her to ask her out in future. And she will not be impressed. - she could already have other plans for Sunday. So she could tell you she is busy - and be actually busy! 2) I met her through salsa dancing. If I keep doing salsa stuff with her, that'd be the "easy" way. But would that make it too one dimensional? I figure maybe the first couple of dates should be salsa related, since that's our common interest so far, after that I need to branch out. It makes sense to me. Or maybe I should just do something non salsa related for the first date? I like the idea of having a salsa-related first date, so you can test the waters. But that's just me. If I should do non salsa, what are some good suggestions, other than the basic movie + dinner? Art gallery? Hockey game? Took a girl kayaking before. Opera season is starting, but it's expensive so I'd prefer to save that for when things get further. Or maybe it should be something light like a "hey, let's meet up to grab a quick lunch". Knowing what she is interested in would help a lot. I think it's safer to ask her out to lunch or dinner until you learn, or figure out, something more about what she interested in. Good luck!
Author fishtaco Posted October 14, 2006 Author Posted October 14, 2006 Congratulations for getting her number! No reason to be pessimistic ahead of time. It's just a next step, but it is still one more step in her direction. Haha, I'm not pessimistic. Not getting the number is bad, but getting the number doesn't necessarily mean anything. Been there many times, it's just part of the game. But thanks again for your tips.
Author fishtaco Posted October 18, 2006 Author Posted October 18, 2006 Ok update, I'm busy this weekend so I don't have time to take her out on a date. So I decided to ask her to go to lunch with me on Sunday. Figure I'll talk to her, get to know her, and probably will be able to come up with a better "real" first date plan. I called her, no answer, so I left her a voicemail about Sunday. We'll see if she responds. Supposedly once I call, I have to leave it at that and wait. So I'm not going to call her again.
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