laRubiaBonita Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 so... after much diliberation, talking with friends, family, and my peeps at the LS, i have confirmed my sleepless nights suspicions..... my dude is just not my Prince. the dealbreakers include: * disrespect to women * unhappy with himself * anger issuse * more debt than me * bad vibes * non-social...unless ot's his "world" * non-complimentary to my style * untreated/ undiagnosed, obvious depression i think those are plenty, but damn if his dick wasn't great.....oh well, another name to add to the "list"!
alphamale Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 sorry it didn't work out LRB.... *alpha starts to drool*
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 ok..... so now, how do i do it? the only break up i have had is the redecorating episode......
Art_Critic Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 sorry it didn't work out LRB.... *Art starts to drool* Same here LB.. the list sounds like it was not even close.. unless his dick is huge !! Don't use markers and paint this time around...
Art_Critic Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 ok..... so now, how do i do it? the only break up i have had is the redecorating episode...... Do a face to face with him... Talk with him and stick to your guns.. You were with him 5 months.. Your list doesn't seem like there is any second chance in his future..
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 Same here LB.. the list sounds like it was not even close.. unless his dick is huge !! it WAS nice..... Don't use markers and paint this time around... nahhh..... I like his parents, feel bad for them even!
alphamale Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 ok..... so now, how do i do it? PM me what you want to say and his phone number. I will then call him and leave a voicemail with what you want to say. I do reserve the right to add, delete or embellish based upon my creative license.
Art_Critic Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 PM me what you want to say and his phone number. I will then call him and leave a voicemail with what you want to say. I do reserve the right to add, delete or embellish based upon my creative license. You have creative license ?... I can see it now.. Alpha will tell you that he will call him.. but instead he will do NC and never say a word to him. Silence
alphamale Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 You have creative license ?... yaah, its in my wallet, I paid $5 for it. LRB, there will also be some paperwork and nominal fees involved.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 yaah, its in my wallet, I paid $5 for it. LRB, there will also be some paperwork and nominal fees involved. yes there will ALPHA...... i hope you have your checkbook handy!
magichands Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Well...finally the time has come. For me to be serious. You made a list! How unromantic. And after perusing its contents, I can safely say that this dude is too good for you. I think his depression will lift once you are out of his life. So it's good news all round, really.
Art_Critic Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 I can safely say that this dude is too good for you. This is the guy that screams at his mother and calls her names.. how is he too good for her ? One of the things that most people will do is a pro/con list in times of deciding to stay or go... unromantic ? maybe.. A healthy thing to do ? yes
magichands Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 This is the guy that screams at his mother and calls her names.. how is he too good for her ? Just in case you forgot...we are talking about another human being. But I'm sure that laRubiaBonita's side of the story is completely accurate.
Art_Critic Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Just in case you forgot...we are talking about another human being. But I'm sure that laRubiaBonita's side of the story is completely accurate. Oh gosh MH.. this is a web forum where only one side is ever heard.. Show some compassion....
Art_Critic Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Just in case you forgot...we are talking about another human being. Something you should remember also
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 Just in case you forgot...we are talking about another human being. But I'm sure that laRubiaBonita's side of the story is completely accurate. i WOULD love to know his side too, maybe he will tell me? who knows... i ask, but it's a crap soot with this guy........ and this is supposed to be the "honeymoon phase" ..... i am not too impressed.
magichands Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Something you should remember also Fair point, haha. But I didn't start the mudslinging.
magichands Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 i WOULD love to know his side too, maybe he will tell me? Well, I guess you're suggesting that communication between you isn't the best. You posted the dealbreakers - and there is more than one of them! - but what are the qualities that kept you together all this time? (Okay, maybe 5 months is a blink of the eye to some.) Do you still care about him? After that tirade I would think that it's time to tell him exactly where you stand.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 Well, I guess you're suggesting that communication between you isn't the best. You posted the dealbreakers - and there is more than one of them! - but what are the qualities that kept you together all this time? (Okay, maybe 5 months is a blink of the eye to some.) Do you still care about him? After that tirade I would think that it's time to tell him exactly where you stand. i dooo care about him.... despite my words, i am quite the humanitarian, which why i do not how to do this... and yes i do plan an talking about how i am feeling before makinga rash decisions..........
magichands Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 i dooo care about him.... despite my words, i am quite the humanitarian, which why i do not how to do this... and yes i do plan an talking about how i am feeling before makinga rash decisions.......... You can't keep stringing him along. Maybe you have some communication "issues" too? You have managed to rationalise your relationship - and seemingly come to a conclusion. Don't you think he deserves to know your true feelings...or aren't you really sure of what you are feeling?? You sound pretty sure. The truth hurts, sometimes, but deceit sucks your humanity. How do you do it? With honesty, and compassion. You have both requirements, of that I'm certain.
mental_traveller Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Just in case you forgot...we are talking about another human being. But I'm sure that laRubiaBonita's side of the story is completely accurate. Doesn't matter. If she's not happy with him, that's all that counts. To the OP - what took you so long?
magichands Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Doesn't matter. An attitude like yours is truly scary. You're basically saying that the only feelings you need to have consideration for are your own. Scary, but hardly surprising.
lindya Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Issues like debt, disrespect to women and depression aren't easily sorted. If you discuss all these problems with him, he tries to improve, and you end up ending the relationship anyway, then that might worsen the negative frame of mind that's led to his unfortunate situation. Sometimes "improvements that could be made" talks really just give a person false hope that a relationship can be salvaged when objectively it's evident that it won't work out. It would be different if you were married, but as it is I think the best thing is just to tell him the two of you aren't compatible (which seems to be the truth) and leave it at that.
magichands Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 It would be different if you were married, but as it is I think the best thing is just to tell him the two of you aren't compatible (which seems to be the truth) and leave it at that. Angry, snotty magichands agrees totally with this approach (and hopes that this is no reflection on the quality of the advice). Get me some more chamomile tea, please. There's no need for brutal honesty, when honesty will do. (Is there constructive and destructive honesty??)
KittenMoon Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 LRB- I suggest "I don't think it's going to work out"..... ...written in salt on his front lawn. :lmao: j/k
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