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[wendytomos]

Hi This Is My First Posting And Would Really Like Some Help. My Husband Of 20 Years Decided He Wanted To Buy Himself Another House But Has Now Admitted To Having Met An Old Work Colleague Five Weeks Ago And Has Seen Her Once And Slept With Her Once. She Lives In France And He Lives In Wales. He Has Left Home Leaving His Three Daughters And Myself Distraught. I Am Trying To Get On With My Life And Day By Day Feel Better. However I Would Like Him Back. Does Anybody Out There Know Of People Who Firstly Have Met Up With Old Work Colleagues And Started A Realtionship And It Has Worked Out Or Has It Faltered. Also Does Anybody Know Of Husbands Who Have Left The Home To Have A Long Distance Affair And Then Realised Their Mistakes. Do Men Ever Realise They Have Made A Mistake And How Long Does It Take For Them To Realise This.any Advice On How To Behave To Win Him Back

[anna13]

Hi , welcome to this place , I just found this place yesterday myself ( my first post here is the (he left me ?). anyway this is a great place you have found. My situation is different than yours but not much better or worse. . we all feel the same pain when it comes to any kind of seperation from a spouse. I am so sorry that you are going through the pain you are. But you as you can see are not alone. I was feeling quite alone myself until i found this spot. as for having a relationship with prior co workers I have no clue. but as for your question " do men realize that they made a mistake " Seeing how my husband is behaving and seeing what I have read on here i would have to say no. but that doesnt mean that he doesnt still have feelings for you. sounds pretty cold of him to just leave like that .. i would have been surprised 3 weeks ago but after what I have been going through I realize that any spouse can just make a decision and act completely different than what you know of them. the pain from that decision is a hundred fold to the spouse that didnt leave the relationship. Just know you are not alone , time helps meanwhile just come on here and vent , it has helped me too in gathering my thoughts and having people who really do understand listen and give their advice from their own knowledge of their own pain . I think that eventually your husband may look upon this decision he is making as a huge mistake .. but right now he isnt going to see that at all. like a friend told me , one day at a time , one foot in front of the other. hang in there.