pricillia Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 Hi All I would just like input from some peeps out there. If a guy asks you over to his place without even going out on a date, I am thinking he only wants one thing. This is a previous co-worker that I considered a friend, I adore him and would always look out for him in a sense. I think that he is attractive as well however my feeling is that I would just like to have him as a friend. One night some co workers all went out together and afterwards we were talking and he planted one on me. I did stop him and told him that I did like him but would like to keep him as a friend. He still asked me to come over after I told him this, what should I think is my intuition correct in thinking he would only expect one thing... as that is not what I am looking for.
Jane Doe Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 If a guy asks you over to his place without even going out on a date, I am thinking he only wants one thing. That's what I'm thinking, too. He's wanting free sex and doesn't want to go to the trouble or expense of taking you out to dinner or to a movie, etc.
Author pricillia Posted October 5, 2006 Author Posted October 5, 2006 That's what I'm thinking, too. He's wanting free sex and doesn't want to go to the trouble or expense of taking you out to dinner or to a movie, etc. I agree! When I stopped him from kissing me, he cried rejection. Oh well, I guess a woman's intuition is right on...
Rooster_DAR Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Yup, he wants to get laid. I guess that's not a bad thing if you are both consenting adults and you were **rny. Sounds to me like you cannot have intercourse with no feelings attached, am I right? Regards, 1
Author pricillia Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 Yup, he wants to get laid. I guess that's not a bad thing if you are both consenting adults and you were **rny. Sounds to me like you cannot have intercourse with no feelings attached, am I right? Regards, you are exactly right! If I get horny, then I will take care of myself.
steve1977 Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Jeeez listen to you women just jumping to all the wrong conclusions. How do you know the guy just doesnt just like you, give the guy plus the male population a break babes, he may just like you.....JEEEZ you women
Author pricillia Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 Jeeez listen to you women just jumping to all the wrong conclusions. How do you know the guy just doesnt just like you, give the guy plus the male population a break babes, he may just like you.....JEEEZ you women Relax, I was just asking. I know that he likes me, but I wanted to know if he likes me for only one thing. This has nothing to do with you so no need for the frown. I love men... I am not a man hater. no need for the tizzy, did you get a paper cut or something?
Jane Doe Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Steve, I'm speaking from my own experience. Whenever a guy has invited me over to his house, it's always been because he wanted sex and was too lazy to bother with a proper date beforehand. When he got turned down for the sex, I never got invited back again. This has happened more than once. I daresay it's happened to other ladies here as well.
Yamaha Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Does he know about your MM situation? If he does then he is moving on you hoping that you'll be open to him. Many guy friends are just hanging around hoping for a chance. If you want to keep him as a friend then stick to your guns and don't go to his place.
Mystic Gohan Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 i believe he only wants one thing but there are some guys out there who may only want to get to know you better without the whole sex thing, but chances are it is just for sex, you need to ask yourself is he that kind of person then go from there. PLease look at and respond to this post: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t100713/
Craig Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 How about asking him "what do you want from me?" No really, how about asking him?
kjl933 Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 That's what I'm thinking, too. He's wanting free sex and doesn't want to go to the trouble or expense of taking you out to dinner or to a movie, etc. Steve, I'm speaking from my own experience. Whenever a guy has invited me over to his house, it's always been because he wanted sex and was too lazy to bother with a proper date beforehand. When he got turned down for the sex, I never got invited back again. This has happened more than once. I daresay it's happened to other ladies here as well. So, if say, I were to ask you out, have a nice dinner and a movie and then invite you back...you are a sure thing? I agree, cut him some slack. He may not be able to afford anythign else. It could be the free sex deal, but I would not necessarily jump to that conclusion. I say take him up on it and if the situation looks like he is just wanting sex, then politely excuse yourself. Or reject him like you did before. Seems like you are able to handle yourself adequately
Jane Doe Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 So, if say, I were to ask you out, have a nice dinner and a movie and then invite you back...you are a sure thing? No, I'm not. All I'm saying is this: 95%+ of males are going to want sex on a date. Let's face it. That's with or without dinner and/or a movie. If a man is asking a woman over to his house, chances are, it's for sex only, not a date.
Author pricillia Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 Does he know about your MM situation? If he does then he is moving on you hoping that you'll be open to him. Many guy friends are just hanging around hoping for a chance. If you want to keep him as a friend then stick to your guns and don't go to his place. He knows of him but no one but a few know that he is actually married. And, I am still in love with MM I don't know if that feeling will go away anytime soon. Bottom line MM lied to me and I know that he feels guilty about it, I know that he is not happy with his situation, so I just have to take a step back. I did however get a new job which starts very soon so I will not be seeing him everyday, even if it is just for a moment. I am not the type of girl that can be with someone else when I have feelings for another, so even if I did like this other person I could not be open to anything with him. I honestly would rather be alone and regroup until my head is clear. But this MM, it is so weird, I have a good idea that possibly nothing will come from this relationship. I however have not met a man that I would do anything for like I would for him, he is in my heart. I am taking one day at a time and the different surrondings will do some good. I will definately stick to my guns and not go to single guys place!!!! I could bet my life on it! I would rather spend the time washing my hair LOL
Author pricillia Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 How about asking him "what do you want from me?" No really, how about asking him? I will, I can be blunt in a nice way, I will ask the next time I am invited over, I would want to do it however with some tact, as I don't want to hurt any feelings.
Art_Critic Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 If a guy asks you over to his place without even going out on a date, I am thinking he only wants one thing. He is only looking to wet his noodle ....
Author pricillia Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 He is only looking to wet his noodle .... That seems to be the way this is going, but It is what I thought all along and clowns do make people laugh...
Yamaha Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 I however have not met a man that I would do anything for like I would for him, he is in my heart. I understand your feelings because I was in the same situation once but she wasn't married. There are but a few people we meet in our life times that we really connect with emotionally. It is hard to move on but by changing your job you are on the right track. Just treat yourself well and be sure your next guy is available before you give your heart.
Author pricillia Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 I understand your feelings because I was in the same situation once but she wasn't married. There are but a few people we meet in our life times that we really connect with emotionally. It is hard to move on but by changing your job you are on the right track. Just treat yourself well and be sure your next guy is available before you give your heart. ahhh you do understand! Thanks for the replys I will keep everyone updated, Although I am coming to realization in the MM situation, I have not 100% give up contact with him up, I thought that it would be easy, but it has not been. I have although through this whole thing managed to seek out and find another job. One gets comfortable and stays because it is easier but I just don't want to settle.
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