joriel Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 I'm kicking myself. I've been kicking myself all day. Last night I went to the bar with a good friend of mine and low and behold my ex was there. Later on the two girls that my friend is hooking up with showed up as well. One of them is psycho and he's crazy for her. The other is awesome and normal and he dicks her around. I've had a crush on her ever since we first met (one of those, you're cute but I'm with someone so you're off limits crushes). When I realzied that my ex was there I started drinking...buzzing...you know the deal. She reached out to grab me when I walked past her so I politely said hello and then she moved in for the hug. I gave her the weakest hug that I could and when she asked a question about who I was with and where people were I responded sarcastically. Then I kept walking. I ignored her all night and I knew it was bothering her because she would randomly show up right next to me or I would turn around and she would be staring. The last time I went up for a drink I was with one of her friends and she came up to me, held on to my arm, and then kissed my neck. I still didn't acknowledge her. At some point I saw her start making out with some other guy. I was irked. During this time, my friend was being a total douche to the awesome girl and that pissed me off so we went outside to talk about it. We ended up making out. She gave me her number and told me to call her. The problem with all of this is that I like this girl, I have for a while, and yet, she's totally off-limits because she's hanging out with my douchebag friend. What should I do? Should I call? Should I tell my friend that I made a move on the girl he's an a** to? Or should I just forget about the whole thing? I've been thinking about this all day. I never should have started drinking last night. I never would have betrayed my friend if I was sober. Argh....
gfto Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 I have to commend you on how you dealt with your ex. Excellent work!
Author joriel Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 hey thanks, i appreciate it. though i must admit that the alcohol helped me to not "feel the pain or her presence". even so, it got me into a fair bit of trouble as well...
bella_girl Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Oh Joriel, I so love your post... it is all about this new girl and what you should do and absolutely nothing about wanting to be back with your ex. That's so great. It's like the film swingers!!! I think you handled the ex really well. I thought your thread might have been related to drunken phone calls about how much you miss her but it's not. Yes alcohol and ex's don't mix but you did really well. This awesome girl... so your mate is going out with one girl (awesome girl) but likes the other girl (physco girl) is that correct? If so i'd ask him... which one are you interested in and I really like this other girl... also speak to the girl and say 'What are you doing with this idiot [even though he's my friend] but he treats you like crap, you could do so much better...' She seems pretty interested in you. So absolutely call...
Author joriel Posted October 6, 2006 Author Posted October 6, 2006 This awesome girl... so your mate is going out with one girl (awesome girl) but likes the other girl (physco girl) is that correct? He's not actually dating either girl, just messing around with both. Lately he's gotten increasingly interested in pursuing more with the psycho girl but when she blows him off, he calls the awesome girl. At what point are women taught that to be loved the man in their life must treat them like crap? It really is quite the rub for those of us whom were raised to respect women. For those of you that have found yourself choosing the a**hole over the good guy, what gives? Any tips for the good guys?
KittenMoon Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Any tips for the good guys? Yeah.... date me.
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