funnylove Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 There is this geeky guy at work known him for a year now and only recently realised he likes me a lot. When I first met him I didn’t think of him at all coz he wasn’t my type at all… but when I got to know him I realised that he is ever so sweet. He never told me he likes me but he’s always there for me, doing little things to make me feel good and he often do things that make my heart melts. Now, you see as I said before I thought he wasn’t my type and I thought about things like I make more money then him, he’s geeky looking (not bad looking, just geeky), he’s shy and I’m not, I’m popular at work and he’s not… I do feel really bad thinking of him like that… But now I spend more time thinking should I ask him out? How can I ask him out? What if he’s too scared and turns me down?? Will he turn me down??? Etc… all day long… can’t get him out of my mind! What do you guys think? Do I really like him? Or do you think I felt sorry or felt bad that’s he’s being nice to me and I thought of him that way?
Cheshire Cat Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 I think it is basically impossible to feel like asking someone out just because you feel sorry for them! I'm pretty sure you'd like him even if he was rich, handsome and outgoing! Ask him out without making it sound necessarily like a date. You could go together to any place where you could also go as friends, like cinemas or an amusement park.
typical Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 geeky as in he wears glasses or geeky as in he looks like a creepy outcast? You mentioned that he does things that make your heart melt....this must mean he has some sort of feeling for you. I dont think it would be much of a risk to ask him out somewhere but in a playful way, as Cheshire mentioned. Maybe engage him in a conversation about the things he likes to do, and see if you cant incorporate a way to include yourself on those activities. Why would you feel bad that he is doing nice things for you? Are they over the top nice things, or just normal nice things? Do you feel like you are taking advantage of him or do you just feel bad because you arent sure how you feel yet?
funnylove Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 geeky as in he wears glasses or geeky as in he looks like a creepy outcast? You mentioned that he does things that make your heart melt....this must mean he has some sort of feeling for you. I dont think it would be much of a risk to ask him out somewhere but in a playful way, as Cheshire mentioned. Maybe engage him in a conversation about the things he likes to do, and see if you cant incorporate a way to include yourself on those activities. Why would you feel bad that he is doing nice things for you? Are they over the top nice things, or just normal nice things? Do you feel like you are taking advantage of him or do you just feel bad because you arent sure how you feel yet? Have you ever-watched "friends" well he's like Ross! geeky personality, shy but really lovely and sweet... I don’t know if this is over the top nice? You decide! He (Sean) started work last year, we both worked in the same company but in a different branch (5 miles apart). He lived 10 mins walk from his branch and I lived 2 mins walk from mine. In July this year I have to move to the third/new branch, that’s 2 mins away from his branch but now I have to travel an hour on the bus to get to work everyday. Every night I walk to the bus stop with these two other people (who works with Sean). I have been moaning to Sean how much I hate driving and I hate travelling to work by bus. A week later Sean went and got a car. I’ve asked his friend why did he get a car? coz he only lived 10 mins away? His friend said Sean said he wanted to get a car so he could drive his girlfriend around. Then I asked if Sean got a girlfriend? His friend said never mind a gf he’s not even got a date. Each night he’ll drive his car near me but he never asked me if I wanted a ride instead he’d ask this other guy I walk with (Tony) if he wanted a ride. Of course Tony jumped in but Sean didn’t drive away, instead he looked at me to see what I would do…he’s done it so many times now and I’ve realised that Sean will only ask Tony if he wanted a ride when I am there. Because I felt…. mmm I don’t know…? Bad? I don’t want to feel I’m using him so I always turn and walk away…pretend that I wasn’t looking at them and I didn’t see them. So do you think that’s nice or over the top nice?? He’s done lot more and the list will go on forever… I am not sure how i felt about him?!! I just don't wanna hurt him.
Mystic Gohan Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 the instant i read that he does the little things that make my heart melt i didnt have to read the rest of the post, i knew there and then that you like him, so ask him out, he knows that you know he likes you right, if not that is cool explain to him that you are interested and wanted to know if he wanted to go out sometime,, by saying sometime it is letting him know he doesnt have to answer straight away and he can think about it, without you worrying he will say no cause he is scared or something, please respond to link below: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t100713/
Yamaha Posted October 7, 2006 Posted October 7, 2006 I think you care for him and do not want to hurt his feelings. I do think he likes you alot, maybe even a whole lot and you are going to have to be careful in dealing with him. He probably doesn't have much experience with women and he has attached himself to you. I would ask you if you have any romantic feelings for him? Do you think about kissing him or doing the horizontal mamba with him? I think you need to sit down with him and talk to him. Tell him you care for him and you appreciate the thoughtful things he does and you don't want to lose his friendship. Maybe you might get to having romantic feelings for him but right now I think you care for him and enjoy his sweetness.
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