asdfasdf Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 I'm in my mid twenties and my gf is in her early twenties. She's still in school. We've been together almost a year. The last few days were horrible and we've been arguing over little things. I tried to talk peacefully and she was willing and we were talking. A tv show that she watches weekly unfortunately broke the time we were utilizing to talk things out. She had to watch it, even with me pleading that our conversation was important. Her perspective is to let her watch her show and then she'll get back to the conversation. I'm trying to justify her actions by telling myself she's young and immature. I find it difficult to believe that such a little sacrifice is so difficult. Is my justification sane?
stoopid_guy Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 I'm in my mid twenties and my gf is in her early twenties. She's still in school. We've been together almost a year. The last few days were horrible and we've been arguing over little things. I tried to talk peacefully and she was willing and we were talking. A tv show that she watches weekly unfortunately broke the time we were utilizing to talk things out. She had to watch it, even with me pleading that our conversation was important. Her perspective is to let her watch her show and then she'll get back to the conversation. I'm trying to justify her actions by telling myself she's young and immature. I find it difficult to believe that such a little sacrifice is so difficult. Is my justification sane?Hard to say, but one of my old girlfriends was the same way, hooked on an afternoon soap. She scheduled her classes around it. I'd sometimes make a game of trying to distract her, touching/kissing in various places, tickling, etc. but her eyes never left the tube except during commercials.
laRubiaBonita Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 but one of my old girlfriends was the same way, you mean an EX girlfriend? so... why did it not work out SG?
stoopid_guy Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 you mean an EX girlfriend? so... why did it not work out SG? Yes, EX girlfriend (forgot not to ever use "old" in reference to a woman.) I honestly don't remember why we split up. I do remember that we didn't have that much in common, except physical. That was over 20 years ago, talk about "old!":eek:
fishtaco Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 Some people have addictive nature. I heard there are internet support forums for the neglected girlfriends/wives/family members of people that are addicted to online gaming, you know like EverQuest, World of Warcraft...etc. Heard stories like this guy lost his job because all he does is play games. His PC broke one day and he went berserk on his wife, blaming her for it. So instead of leaving him, she goes and borrows money so she could buy a new computer for him to keep playing. Relationship is about compromises. You let her have her freedom, but she should meet you half way. It's your decision if she's going too far with the show thing. But I would say if it's just some regular "talk", maybe waiting till after the show it's all that bad. But if this is a serious one, like the relationship is on the line and she still wants her show, well, regardless of the reason (addiction, immaturity, don't give a rat's ass about you...etc), you should probably leave her. Another thing, common interest is important.
Foreva86 Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 Some people have addictive nature. I heard there are internet support forums for the neglected girlfriends/wives/family members of people that are addicted to online gaming, you know like EverQuest, World of Warcraft...etc. Heard stories like this guy lost his job because all he does is play games. His PC broke one day and he went berserk on his wife, blaming her for it. So instead of leaving him, she goes and borrows money so she could buy a new computer for him to keep playing. Relationship is about compromises. You let her have her freedom, but she should meet you half way. It's your decision if she's going too far with the show thing. But I would say if it's just some regular "talk", maybe waiting till after the show it's all that bad. But if this is a serious one, like the relationship is on the line and she still wants her show, well, regardless of the reason (addiction, immaturity, don't give a rat's ass about you...etc), you should probably leave her. Another thing, common interest is important. Well said fishtaco I completely agree. I think we all have our own little addictions but you gotta know where to draw the line. And I don't understand how some people can make their own life revolve around games. It's insane! I know this guy who's married and who has three young kids who plays online games all the time. He completly neglects his family it's quite sad actually
consternation Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 I don't see the big deal. I would find it very irritating overbearing and controlling should someone be trying to force me to continue an argument when I had indicated clearly I wanted to do something else. If the show was a big deal to her, she probably wouldnt have been able to concentrate on your 'discussion' anyway. I think you sound a bit aggressive.
steve1977 Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 I dont think that you are agressisive at all and I find the fact she wanted to watch a tv show really immature or maybe she just wanted to avoid the issues. Just wait until there is a right time and then discuss things with her but if she again puts a tv show first I think you have problems my friiend....Take it easy !
laRubiaBonita Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 I dont think that you are agressisive at all and I find the fact she wanted to watch a tv show really immature or maybe she just wanted to avoid the issues. Just wait until there is a right time and then discuss things with her but if she again puts a tv show first I think you have problems my friiend....Take it easy ! Says the Bart Simpson Avatar! :lmao:
steve1977 Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Ahh but that tis not me, I feel the guy needs help and you females are ganging up plus old Bart knows how to handle women. You are a cruel lady my friend, tut tut xx
laRubiaBonita Posted October 6, 2006 Posted October 6, 2006 Ahh but that tis not me, I feel the guy needs help and you females are ganging up plus old Bart knows how to handle women. You are a cruel lady my friend, tut tut xx I am cruel? the ONLY thing i have said in this thread is "what show" and if it were a brand new "simpson's" episode, you had better damn wait! and let's just pretend this is OT for your MOST FAVRORITE team EVER..... would you guys feel like 'hashing out' some stuff then? i seriously doubt it! i know i wouldn't!
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