SUMMER 1969 Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 So today I get a e-mail from my ex telling me how he is going to try and make some time for me this weekend, as he would like to see me.. I know he only wants to have sex, so I never responded to his e-mail.. Why is it that men can be so mean? This guy knows I fell in love with him and now he wants to hurt me more.. Why??? Why is he doing this to me? If you read my other posts you will see that this man used me for a year to have sex with me.. He cheated on me, gave me a std, told me he does not love me and never will.. So why, why would you be so mean and cruel to someone? I don't want to talk to him ever again! I have my good days and bad days from not being with him, but I am really seeing his true colors now.. I just don't understand how a 34 year old man can be so childish! How can you look at yourself in the mirror after you know you are hurting someone by playing with there heart and emotions!!! Can someone please explain this to me? I try and try to do the right things in life, I am a caring person, I am honest, I am pretty, I am smart and the list goes one.. So what is my problem here! Why am I get treated like this! I know I am better then just a sex toy! I will NOT respond to his e-mail, I just won't! If he calls I will ignore all calls, if he keeps calling, I will get a new number! I am beyond mad and hurt! I am beyond the crying point, now I am soooooooo mad!!!!!!!!!!!! Ugh, some people can never win!
SurvivingHB Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 Hi Summer, This is a very normal cycle. I wish I could get to this point of being mad at him, too. I am still in the griefing stage after one month of being told that he never loved me. You are a lot stronger than me. You will be fine. This is what my psychologiest told me. Exercise and do something different, like joining a golf club or something. I am not there yet. I still hope that he would come back and knock on my door one day... You will be ok soon.
swirly27 Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 So Summer, you haven't answered any of his calls or emails or texts since the breakup! That is awesome. Basically this guy is selfish and wants what he wants when he wants it. YOU DESERVE BETTER! Keep on the NC and move past this chapter in your book of life and you will meet someone that is worthy of all the things you have to offer. If he bothers you again, tell him to leave you alone! Have you done that yet?
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 5, 2006 Author Posted October 5, 2006 I wish my ex would fall and trip and break his nose! I am so mad at him its not even funny! How can you be so cruel to someone? He knew I loved him and then he just wants to use me for sex once again?? I sat here and cried my eyes out, night after night over him, He does not deseve one tear from me! I am his loss and that is all I will ever be to him! I wish I could say that I don't love him, but I do, and in time that will to fade away.. You just don't date someone for a whole year and then when I ask how you feel about me, he stright out looked at me without even blinking telling me that he does not love me and he never will.. He said he if does not love me now, he knows himself well enough to know he never will! Kiss my butt, as_clown!!! He is a user and I wish my heart would just understand that now! I wish I never met him, he has done nothing but hurt me, the only thing I learned out of our reationship is what it feels like when another woman walks in the room screaming that she is sleeping with the same man you are, what a std is and what it feels like yet Once again to have a broken heart! He is a waste of flesh! Ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel sick to my stomache at this point! How can people do this to others?? I am going to be 30 years old and I wasted a whole years time on nothing!!! Ugh
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 5, 2006 Author Posted October 5, 2006 He called me last night, he wanted to know why I have not contacted him, I responded to him by telling him I was busy and had to go.. I don't want to talk to him, I will not respond to his e-mails, phone calls or anything! He does not deserve me breaking a nail trying to e-mail him or tripping on the way to get the phone.. Nope, I am 100% DONE with that looser! He will get his in time! Its Karma I tell you!!! I can't wait to hear that he is hurting and has nothing to show for it! Ugh, what a looser I fell in love with!!!! I am glad I am beggining to see his true colors! For Once I have my blinders off and can see what kind of trash he really is! i am not one to talk bad about others, but this guy ( my ex ) is a piece of work, he wants the attetion, okay I will give it to you behind your back! Creep!!! Sorry, I am really upset right now.. Thank you for lisening
Marielle Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 COngrats!!!!!!! I wish i could be as strong as you are...keep going on, thumbs up for u!!! :bunny:
Ariadne Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 Hey Summer, Nope, I am 100% DONE with that looser! He will get his in time! Its Karma I tell you!!! Haha.. You sure are mad at him. That's cool. At least you have some character going on. But hey, you know sometimes it takes a guy losing a girl to realize what he has lost. I saw your other thread where you asked if a guy after a year would not have any feelings... and many guys said that it wouldn't happen. Guys get attached after that time. Usually when they don't care they really don't care and don't bother calling emailing etc. Well, but it's good that you are upset. It'll take him some work to get back to you if that's what he wants to do. Good luck either way, Ariadne
shawn_68 Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 He called me last night, he wanted to know why I have not contacted him, I responded to him by telling him I was busy and had to go.. Just wanted to say that I am proud of you. I've followed your threads. You've come a LONG way!!!
Rooster_DAR Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 I wish my ex would fall and trip and break his nose! I am so mad at him its not even funny! Now you are on the right track! You are coming along just fine, and eventually you will have good looking stable guys like me hitting on ya!
Rooster_DAR Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 Now you are on the right track! You are coming along just fine, and eventually you will have good looking stable guys like me hitting on ya! Uhh!! At least I hope I'm stable .
norajane Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 If you haven't told him that you don't want to see him anymore, he continues to contact you because he thinks you are still willing to see him. He doesn't know you've decided not to anymore. If you have told him that, then he's just stupid.
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 5, 2006 Author Posted October 5, 2006 I once did tell him to leave me alone and he does not deserve to know anything about me, and then I talked to him a few days after that.. I don't feel I need to tell him to leave me alone, hell, he played the game with me and he used me, now I don't feel I need to be honest with him or tell him anything.. For Once he will know what it feels like to live in the dark.. I am coming a long way and thank you all for your advise and support.. And Rooster, I think you are as normal as they come!!! As far as my ex, well, he can kick over and fall on his face, I don't care Let his new piece of as_ help him, I am done..
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