decylglucose Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 A few months ago, I started dating this man, who was/is wonderful. And I fell in love with him. I got into this relationship knowing it could end at any moment because he's still in love with his ex girlfriend, but I tried anyways. Anyways worse came to worse, and he of course dumped me to be single. Still things were going ok. We still saw each other everyday and tried being with each other without the title of girlfriend and boyfriend. But now he's starting to see his ex too. I don't feel happy when I'm without him. My whole life wasn't about him, but I still can't make myself be happy anymore. I don't know if I should give up, and let him be with the girl he loves (but has dumped him twice) or keep trying to maintain some sort of relationship with him. What should I do?
COGuyFromNY Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 I'll tell you this much, sounds like he has baggage from his past relationship that he hasn't gotten past. If he can't commit to you, 100% and get past his ex, then you're in for a world of hurt later on. It will hurt a LOT less now to just leave and find someone who will Love you the way you Love him and who wants to be with you. I held on for 2 years to someone who I absolutely adored and who in the beginning adored me but her past came out to haunt her. Now, it's been a bit over 2 months since we broke up and I'm just starting to feel better. Time and therapy heals all wounds. Ask yourself this: Why do you Love and want to be with someone who can't commit to you and only you? I'll tell you that it's a tough one to answer without saying "I just know that one day he/she will realize and then it will be great"... Good Luck
D-Lish Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 I too dated someone who still loved their ex.... it was awful. I loved him deeply, but he had so many unresolved issues and he was so walled off from me that I ended up getting my heart broken. My guy had broken up with this girl 6 years ago- and he still pined for her. The best thing for you to do is to cut off all contact with him. How can you be around the two of them without destroying yourself? D
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