--- Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 Is telling the truth to someone the right thing to do even though you know that it will end up hurting them? i found out that a few of my friends were planning on doing something mean to another friend of mine at a party. The group that was planning on doing it was supposedly her friends too and she considered them as friends too.....her and I are pretty close and i didn't want anything bad to happen to her so i told her about the plan. (at the party nothing happened because they found out that she knew about it...) a few days later she asks me why they hate her so much, and i ask her how she found out that they hated her, (i didn't deny them hating her...) and she says that she slowly came to realise it and she asked me if it was true... i reluctantly said yes, and then she didn't say anything and just left. i just want to know if what i did was the right thing to do, to me it felt like the right thing to do, but i can't shake the feeling of regret and guilt.
Raylene Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 Although finding out the truth that people you think are friends really dislike you is hurtful, I think finding it out by being humiliated at a party would have been even worse. You didn't say what the mean thing was they were planning to do, but I think it took great courage on your part to care enough about this friend to prevent it from happening instead of standing by and watching something mean go down. In my opinion, you definitely did the right thing. there would be less cruelty in this world if there were more caring people like you>
dgiirl Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 If you were in her shoes, wouldnt you want to know? I definitely think you did the right thing. Just becareful of those other "friends". They might turn against you too.
Craig Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 Does she know you are her friend? If you are her friend how could you be friends with the other girls that wanted to play a mean joke on her? Did you try to stop your other friends from playing the mean joke on her? Something about the way you tell the story doesn't sit right with me. I could be wrong so I apologize in advance if I am.
Author --- Posted October 5, 2006 Author Posted October 5, 2006 Does she know you are her friend? If you are her friend how could you be friends with the other girls that wanted to play a mean joke on her? Did you try to stop your other friends from playing the mean joke on her? Yes, her and i are pretty good friends. We all used to be part of one big group, and then they all started talking about her behind her back.. i didn't do anything at the time because i figured that its a normal thing to do in high school, everyone bitches about everybody else. I wasn't there at the time they were planning the prank, but a person from that group passed in on to me, and i didn't want to be part of it because i still considered her as a friend, so i told her about it in private. At the party they didn't end up playing the prank. But if they did do it, im not sure if i would have had enough courage to step forward and stop them.
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