ChicagoMC Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 This is the first time something like this has happened to me. I am trying to figure out where I went wrong. Met a girl (A) and her friend (B) at a bar and had a nice long conversation which was very entertaining. We exchange phone numbers and go on our way. The next morning, girl A calls me and tells me that she had an interesting time talking to me and asks me if I wanted to hangout. I ask her out a couple of days later and we meet up. We have a nice long chat and things went pretty smoothly. I didn't really make any sexual advances towards her thinking that it was too early. At the end of the night, she goes back home and texts me saying that she had a great time and thanks me for it and says that she wants to hangout again. A couple of days later I call her and to my surprise, her phone is disconnected. I wait for a few days thinking that she didn't pay her bill or something but her phone is still disconnected. I even called her from my work phone but the same response (note: she didn't have my work number). I give it a couple of weeks and the phone is still disconnected. This time I call her friend (girl B). We have a nice chat but I don't bring up girl A. Two days later I call her again and we have a nice chat again. This time I invite her to hangout with me and my friends and request her to forward the invitation to girl A since I can't get a hold of her. On the day when we planned to hangout, I call girl B who doesn't answer. Two days later I text her and ask her what's going on? No response. A week later I message her again. This time she responds like this "You've been dissed, don't text". It's funny because I never saw it coming. Sometime it seems like girls simply assume that guys posses psychic abilities. They stop calling and stop responding to emails without giving the slightest hint. The guy has to waste a lot of time trying to figure out what happened. Why can't they simply get straight to the point and get it over with instead of assuming that guys have some extra ordinary powers to read minds?
Walk Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 I don't think most people would disconnect their phones just so one guy wouldn't contact after one date together. Unless she was really weirded out, or you came off as Jack the Ripper strange. And I doubt she would've texted that she had a good time afterward and say she wanted to hang out again if she hadn't felt that way. Obviously no one could answer this with 100% assurance, but I think I'd be more inclined to believe that girl A had problems come up which resulted in her phone being disconnect. I think it was unrelated to you, but stopped her from contacting you. And I think you blew it with girl B when you asked her her out, implying you were interested in her... but then your real intention was only for her to pass an invite to girl A to come to the party. You really didn't want girl B, you wanted girl A, but tried to manipulate her in order to get her to do something for you. I wouldn't feel you rated justifcation for not returning your calls at that point if I was girl B. Just a personal feeling on the matter. Kind of came off as slimy in my opinion. You got greedy and blew it. Anyway, I know it sucks to have that happen. Guys do it to women too, so I know where you're coming from...
typical Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 Yes, I agree with Walk. What you should have done, if it plagued you so much was simply call up Girl B and tell her the situation. "I am having a hard time getting ahold of Girl A, can you help me contact her?" Even if she was put off by it, and simply wouldnt help, it was far better than trying to string her along in hopes that she could lead you to the pot of gold, so to speak. But thats all water under the bridge now.
tangerine trees Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 They stop calling and stop responding to emails without giving the slightest hint. The guy has to waste a lot of time trying to figure out what happened. Why can't they simply get straight to the point and get it over with instead of assuming that guys have some extra ordinary powers to read minds? hey hey! guys do this too, mr.
CrushedOrgans Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 guys shouldn't need psychic abilities to figure out that it isn't the best idea to hit on , even subtly, the friend of someone he is interested in. at first she probably just wasn't interested, and probably thought you were figuring it out by her obvious lack of response. so while she thought you were annoying for trying repeatedly after she ignored you (not your fault, really) you really burned her up by what she thinks is you trying to get with her friend. baaaaaaaaaaad idea. she would have preferred to just let it die, but after she found out about the friend, it gave her the meanies and she didn't feel bad about it. plus, it gave her the guts to just tell you what was going on, because she stopped caring about hurting your feelings. no need for psychic ability...just a little common sense.
gfto Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 The mistake you made was that you didn't kiss her at the end of the first date. Had you done so, she would've turned her head and given you her cheek, which indicates that she is not interested in you. At that point, you could've flushed her number, instead of being bewildered about her phone being disconnected. Remember, when a woman likes you, she'll make sure that you can get in touch with her.
westernxer Posted October 5, 2006 Posted October 5, 2006 There's nothing to understand here. You call them once... if they don't respond, don't call them back.
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