Zeppelin456 Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 SO I was dumped from my two year relationship last december. I spent alot of time feeling like **** and then I found this board, and went NC (7 months now). It's been an extremely helpful tool for me and I recently starting dating a new girl, who I like very much (although the relationship is long distance and we don't see one another as much as I'd like). So things have gotten considerably better for me in the last half year and I am so glad for it. Now, my question: I've been tempted to email the ex. She attempted to be friends afterwards and called me as recently as this past June. I always blocked all of her attempts but I've reached a point where I am certain I don't have feelings for her anymore. I DO miss what we had and it bums me out sometimes to think that we can't ever have that again, but in terms of my feelings for her, they're nonexistant. THUS, my question is: is it possible to reach a point where it's just alright to start contact again or should I just count my blessings and not even email the ex? I'm not interested in rekindling anything but I am tired of avoiding her and tired of pushing her out of my life. I know that she certainly doesn't care as much as I do, but I just don't know what to do. Help! -Julian
Pyro Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 SO I was dumped from my two year relationship last december. I spent alot of time feeling like **** and then I found this board, and went NC (7 months now). It's been an extremely helpful tool for me and I recently starting dating a new girl, who I like very much (although the relationship is long distance and we don't see one another as much as I'd like). So things have gotten considerably better for me in the last half year and I am so glad for it. Now, my question: I've been tempted to email the ex. She attempted to be friends afterwards and called me as recently as this past June. I always blocked all of her attempts but I've reached a point where I am certain I don't have feelings for her anymore. I DO miss what we had and it bums me out sometimes to think that we can't ever have that again, but in terms of my feelings for her, they're nonexistant. THUS, my question is: is it possible to reach a point where it's just alright to start contact again or should I just count my blessings and not even email the ex? I'm not interested in rekindling anything but I am tired of avoiding her and tired of pushing her out of my life. I know that she certainly doesn't care as much as I do, but I just don't know what to do. Help! -Julian I say that if you know that the feelings aren't there, then go for it, but if she shows any indication that she is not over you, then immediately stop talking to her.
crzyblndstar Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 Do you want to be friends with your ex? If no, than I don't see any reason for contacting her. 7 months is really not a very long time in terms of being split up. You say that you don't have feelings for her anymore, but yet you still miss what you guys had. If you decide on contacting her, I would just be prepared for some talk about your relationship and maybe some old feelings coming back.
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