PopcornBandit Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 Around June of this year, this girl at work started to take a liking to me and we were planning on going to see a movie or something sometime. I also really liked this girl, a lot, more than any other girl I have ever dated or even come in contact with. Anyways, I called her on the day we were supposed to go and she said that she already had plans and that we could do it some other time. She told me to call her back and we could reschedule. Well, I thought she was blowing me off so I never called her back. (Stupid, stupid me!) A few weeks later this new guy, Brandon, started working there. I could tell she liked him, so I sat on the sidelines. My feelings for this girl never changed though. Now, it's October, this girl is over Brandon, and some people at work told me that she was into me again. One day, she came in to work in a really crappy mood (it was the day before her dad died a couple of years ago), but I asked her about it. She said that she just wanted to be friends. I thought maybe I asked at the wrong time, so I called her later that night after I got off work. We talked for a long time, and I was calming her down, and talking to her, because I was sure she really needed someone to talk to. After she had calmed down, (it was around 2 AM), I asked her if she still liked me, and she said yes. I then proceeded to use this line on her: "I like you too and if there is still somewhat of a spark between us, I'm sorry, but I feel obligated to take full advantage of it." She laughed and said that was the coolest and probably the sweetest thing anyone had ever said to her. In my opinion, I didn't think it was that great of a line, but oh well. Anyways,she said that she had to go and that she would call me the next day. Anyways, she called me, and told me that she thought about what I said, and that she decided to give me a second chance because I royally ****ed up the first time. She invited me to eat with her and her mom, and we had fun. I called her today and we were talking and she said, and I quote, "You do know that we aren't dating right?" I thought we were, but I wasn't going to let her know that, so I said, "Yeah, I know.", because I didn't want to sound stupid. She had to go finish a project for school, and here I sit, writing this, all the while being more confused than I had ever been. What should I do? I still really like this girl, probably more than I did before, but I don't know what to make of all of this. It's like she is toying with my emotions or something. Any help would be greatly appreciated, and thanks in advance.
tanbark813 Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 She doesn't like you, she just wants to be friends. She did blow you off the first time you guys were supposed to hang out, like you thought. The next time you use one of those lines, follow it up by kissing her. Then you'll have your answer for sure depending on how she reacts.
fishtaco Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 I could be wrong, but this is what I think... She went through some bad times so she needed someone. You were there for her. Now that she no longer need your services... you're only a friend. This is the equivalent of a guy going for a girl just to get in her pants, then afterwards he goes oh, I thought it was understood that this was just for fun. In fact maybe that's what Brandon did to her. You just got used, and she's probably got a new Brandon now. Learn from your experiences. Moral of this story, never assume. Unless you talked about dating each other in no uncertain terms, you are NOT dating. Doesn't matter if you're having romantic walks on the beach every day at sunset, doesn't matter if you spend your Christmas with her family. Users of both genders will use this ambiguity to get what they want out of the association, and then throw the friend card at you when it's time to execute the exit strategy.
Author PopcornBandit Posted October 4, 2006 Author Posted October 4, 2006 What I don't understand is why she said that she would give me a second chance, but then she turns around and plays the "we're not dating" card.
alphamale Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 What I don't understand is why she said that she would give me a second chance, but then she turns around and plays the "we're not dating" card. women alway pull this stuff...its all part of their illogical and non-linear thought processes.
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