lovestruck234 Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 So as some of you may know...Rhys and I were going to go down to his brother's place this weekend... Well, I'm starting to have a few second thoughts..... I know this doesn't seem THAT big of a deal to most of you, but I'm starting to fret like crazy... See, Rhys' brother lives about 4 hours away and his plan is to go down there on Friday night (with me) and stay Saturday night as well... His plan was also to go pig hunting with him as well. Rhys and I go pig hunting sometimes and I have nothing wrong with it...you know, I have fun and everything.... So my only problem is I really am starting to feel like a bit of an idiot if I do end up going down there....I don't know, I will just feel like I am intruding. I don't know Rhys' brother THAT well, and he (Rhys' brother) lives with his mum and his family.... (Note: Rhys' brother has a different mum to Rhys...) So, that means I'll be going down there, bunking at what seems like a strangers house, and all the while, feel like I am intruding on...I guess, "brotherly" time they will have together... Rhys told me he wants me to go and everything. He said he just wants to make sure that I really want to go and that I know that they will be doing a fair bit of pig hunting and all that... I want to go cos I want to be with Rhys and have a good time and everything, but part of me doesn't want to go cos I have a feeling that I'm going to feel like the biggest d*ckhead just turning up with Rhys and...yeah... Anyway, should I just go and stop whinging? Or should I stay at home and let him do his thing?..... I don't know!!
whichwayisup Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 If you go, go with the expectation that you two won't be spending much alone time together that way you won't feel disappointed or feel like he's ignoring you. Ya know, let him go pig hunting and you can hang out with his mom, get to know her better. OR, if you are feeling unsure of going, don't go. Just tell Rhys that you would rather stay in the City, let him go off and bond with his bro, NO big deal.
Author lovestruck234 Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 If you go, go with the expectation that you two won't be spending much alone time together that way you won't feel disappointed or feel like he's ignoring you. Ya know, let him go pig hunting and you can hang out with his mom, get to know her better. OR, if you are feeling unsure of going, don't go. Just tell Rhys that you would rather stay in the City, let him go off and bond with his bro, NO big deal. Well, what would you do if you were in my situation?
whichwayisup Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Honestly? I wouldn't go. You two could use the space, him with his bro and you just to do the things you wanna do without him.
Author lovestruck234 Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 Honestly? I wouldn't go. You two could use the space, him with his bro and you just to do the things you wanna do without him. Weeeeell, if I DID go, do you think his brother would get peeved that I was there?
Author lovestruck234 Posted October 4, 2006 Author Posted October 4, 2006 I know how much of a silly thing this all seems!! I just can't help stressing about it... Well, he rang me just before to ask me something and anyway, we were just chatting and he said... "So has Tessy made up her mind about what she's going to do this weekend?" "Hahaha, I'll come if's ok with your brother and everything..." "Yeah, for sure, come! Pack your stuff Thursday night and we'll leave Friday night..Pack your swimmers and......etc etc etc" Like, he was planning what I should take, as in, he wants me to go.... What to do, what to do!!
alphamale Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 just stay at home and catch up with some stuff you've been meaning to do for a long time. no need to be uncomfortable.
magichands Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 Rhys told me he wants me to go and everything. Yeah...watch out for the everything. Stay home and watch Babe instead.
whichwayisup Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 Well, you have afew more days to think things over...
johan Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 Don't be wishy-washy. If you previously said you would go, then go. If you didn't, then pick one or the other and do it. Don't worry about it so much. Your entire future doesn't depend on it. It's a weekend somewhere. You need to be more sure of yourself. It seems like you're trying to make your decisions based on what you think others think. In every case. Make your decisions based on what you think. Your judgment is fine. And if it doesn't work out, oh well. Everyone makes mistakes. You were invited. So it's not your responsibility if it's awkward.
Author lovestruck234 Posted October 4, 2006 Author Posted October 4, 2006 Don't be wishy-washy. If you previously said you would go, then go. If you didn't, then pick one or the other and do it. Don't worry about it so much. Your entire future doesn't depend on it. It's a weekend somewhere. You need to be more sure of yourself. It seems like you're trying to make your decisions based on what you think others think. In every case. Make your decisions based on what you think. Your judgment is fine. And if it doesn't work out, oh well. Everyone makes mistakes. You were invited. So it's not your responsibility if it's awkward. Wow.... Thanks Johan. You always say the right things... I have always been like that though...you know, worrying about what others think. My mum and dad tell me time and time again not to, but it's just the way I am. One day I will grow up....one day.....
johan Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 No rush on the growing up thing. Trust me! You'll feel more comfortable if you can relax a little. Just be yourself how you want to be, and don't worry so much what others think. I'm sure everyone likes you and wants you around. Except when you don't get the laundry in when the rain is coming, maybe.
Author lovestruck234 Posted October 4, 2006 Author Posted October 4, 2006 Except when you don't get the laundry in when the rain is coming, maybe. :laugh: ...*sigh*...no comment.
Author lovestruck234 Posted October 4, 2006 Author Posted October 4, 2006 Well...I'm now not going anymore.. Hold up, hold up I didn't pike out, it was a mutual decision.. We were talking and he's like..."So make sure you pack your stuff tonight (Thursday) so we can head off Friday night...." Me: "Yeah...ok. Hey, look if you want to go by yourself and just spend time with your brother don't let me stop you or whatever. I honestly do NOT mind AT all. Truly, just go and have a good time. I actually would rather you go and not me so I know you can have a good time catching up with your brother..." Him: "Hahaha, nah you can come if you want to. I just want you to know that it's going to be just pig hunting and guy stuff. I just didn't know whether you were into that. I know we go pig hunting all the time but I just thought you wouldn't travel with me for four whole hours JUST to go pig hunting....I didn't think it was your thing..." Me: "Yeah, no it's fine. I'll stay at home. I don't know that I would really fit in with the hicks down there...." Then he cracked up laughing...and so he's like "Well, if you're not coming I'll just stay Friday night, and not Saturday night..." Me: "How come?" Him:..."Umm...maybe cos I wanna spend time with my girlfriend!!" Me: "Awwwww, don't let me hold you back..." Him "Hahaha, nah you're not. I miss you too much darlin...you should know that..." But yeah...anyway, we were talking as well and we got heaps of stuff cleared up. I was talking about cheating and lying and all of that sort of stuff and I said how much I hate it when people cheat and lie...anyway, we were just talking about that and this is seriously what he said.... "Tess, I am never going to cheat on you. I have not got that intention floating ANYWHERE in the back of my mind. I'm not looking for anyone else. I really don't see the point of it, anyway. Both parties end up heart-broken and it would ruin a relationship. I think we have been involved in so much together for so long to let a stupid decision ruin all of that. I look at you every single day and keep reminding myself how lucky I am. Tess, you are a model, you ride dirt bikes, you do everything...you're smart, funny, easy-going....um...who WOULDN'T want that in a girl? You are everything a guy could want... If anything, I am scared you'll cheat on me. Well, I trust you and everything just that every guy would kill to have you...maybe ONE day.. I don't know. I DO trust you, I know you wouldn't. It's very scary being with someone so attractive. Don't take this the wrong way, but I hate even just walking down the street with you because of every guy oogling at you....I feel like going over there and hitting them!! You're mine! I will never cheat on you....I promise..." I was nearly in tears! It was so nice!! But anyway, I've had enough rambling, I better go!!
scrybe74 Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 I say stay home UNLESS you are ready to develope relationships with his extended family (His brother's family, etc.) I don't what the problem is if you don't go though.
scrybe74 Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 oops...just missed your post. wow....what a sweet guy. Hey....weren't you oogling his friend a couple of months back? Are you over that? Seems this guy totally worships you. And by the way...if you are what he describes he's a LUCKY guy....man....i'm so jealous right now....sigh. Ask him to not hit me though...not in the mood for a fist fight today.
Author lovestruck234 Posted October 4, 2006 Author Posted October 4, 2006 Hey....weren't you oogling his friend a couple of months back? Are you over that? ...yeah, I'm over that. That was, like, a week obsession... Ugh, don't even know what I saw in him in the frist place... He is a sweet guy, my bf. I love him very much....
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