punk666 Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 hey, i am currently going out with a girl who is really shy. I have tryed to have conversations to try to brake this but they don't make a difference. It feels like she is worried about what to say or how she will act. If this keeps going on, it will most likely end because we didn't get to know each other that well. I know how she feels, but how do i tell her that i care for her and she can act like herself around me. Thanks...
norajane Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Reassurance, reassurance, compliments, and reassurance. That builds trust and helps her to relax around you. When she says something funny, compliment her sense of humor. When she says something interesting or insightful, compliment her - "you have such an interesting perspective on the world", "you're so perceptive". If there's something she does well, compliment her even if it's something small - "I admire the way you can remember the words to every song." Compliment her appearance, her kindness to others, the way she's always on time. If she tells you something personal, thank her for sharing that with you.
Guest Posted October 4, 2006 Posted October 4, 2006 she needs to be comfotable around YOU, its not about being shy or not. Tell her an embarassing FUNNY story about yourself, sopmething that u wouldnt really tell to most people. tell it at a really random time too. then ask her, do u have any funny or embarassing stories? if she says yes, and tells one, ud better laugh and ud better enjoy it even if u really dont. If she says, " i dont have any" then idk, but i always share random stories with girls. It makes u seem different and it makes u seem more nice and more comfortable to be around.
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