Ross_K Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 I just find what you said to be quite offensive when you know I'm posting in this topic, made a post that I think I've fallen in love within two weeks and I'm 30 and still live at home. And I don't know how to figure it out myself. I really cannot see how those two things make you a loser.
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Maybe his mum treats him really bad though. That doesn't matter Ross.. it is a respect of your Mom issue.. Adults resolve their differences.. dispute resolution shouldn't involve name calling and disrespect Mom=Woman if you treat your Mom with disrespect chances are you will treat other women with disrespect
Ross_K Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 That doesn't matter Ross.. it is a respect of your Mom issue.. Adults resolve their differences.. dispute resolution shouldn't involve name calling and disrespect Mom=Woman if you treat your Mom with disrespect chances are you will treat other women with disrespect So what if your mum has been horrible to you all of your life and screams at you and provokes you (like mine). Does that not entitle you to at least shout at her back or call her a bitch sometimes, does it make you wrong. The fact that she is your mother is NO excuse.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 ross_k.... his mother treats him really good! he is the only son/ child.... they are nice christian folks, who love flowers, and treating the friends and family good. when ever i am there for dinner they(he and his dad) will give her a hard time about anything.... just in a teasing way... so i always have a come back or i take her side and back her up cause i feel soo bad that she get treated like crap and takes it. ugh..... and i will not take it... my momma don't take crap and she taught her daughters the same exact things! men are there to be you partners and friends and lovers.... not you parent, or whomeverthey want you to be... and the same goes for men about women too.
SmoochieFace Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 dude, you have to figure it out yourself otherwise you will make no progress or gain any experience. That's not an answer. Jeez... so now we are playing 'guessing games'... terrific. Well, if we take alpha's word as the 'gospel' then there are lots of 'losers' out there as there are plenty of people who hate their jobs.
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 So what if your mum has been horrible to you all of your life and screams at you and provokes you (like mine). Does that not entitle you to at least shout at her back or call her a bitch sometimes, does it make you wrong. The fact that she is your mother is NO excuse. there is never a reason to call a woman a bitch.. let alone your mom a bitch. And yes.. the fact that she is your Mom means you have to respect her.. and treat her as such. If you treat your Mom with disrespect then you learn to treat other women with disrespect and the other women in your life will never have a chance at being treated properly by you.. unless of course you seek treatment
hotgurl Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 So what if your mum has been horrible to you all of your life and screams at you and provokes you (like mine). Does that not entitle you to at least shout at her back or call her a bitch sometimes, does it make you wrong. The fact that she is your mother is NO excuse. No it does not entitle you to screamback and call her names. You should just remove yourself from the situation. She is your mom she is supporting you. If she treats you like crap you sohuld find a different way of dealing with her. I do agree with the other posters how a guy treats his mom is a good indication of how he treats women. I would never date a guy that was rude to his mom.
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Ross.. I would like to say that not evry mom is nice and perfect.. So I can understand that your mom may cross the line with you.. But that doesn't give you the right to cross the line with her
hotgurl Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 ross_k.... his mother treats him really good! he is the only son/ child.... they are nice christian folks, who love flowers, and treating the friends and family good. when ever i am there for dinner they(he and his dad) will give her a hard time about anything.... just in a teasing way... so i always have a come back or i take her side and back her up cause i feel soo bad that she get treated like crap and takes it. ugh..... and i will not take it... my momma don't take crap and she taught her daughters the same exact things! men are there to be you partners and friends and lovers.... not you parent, or whomeverthey want you to be... and the same goes for men about women too. This guy sounds like a total loser. Why are you dating him?
Ross_K Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 there is never a reason to call a woman a bitch.. let alone your mom a bitch. And yes.. the fact that she is your Mom means you have to respect her.. and treat her as such. If you treat your Mom with disrespect then you learn to treat other women with disrespect and the other women in your life will never have a chance at being treated properly by you.. unless of course you seek treatment I don't mean any offence but that seems extreamly screwed up. Were you taught to believe this while you were growing up? So let me get this straight, if a woman sexually abused and killed children, it would still be wrong for us to call her a bitch (I'd call her way more than that) and we should respect her? And why on earth would it mean that if I treat a woman with disrespect because they deseve it, that I would then treat women with disrespect that don't deserve it? I have shouted at my mum, I have called her a bitch. But I have never treated a woman bad who doesn't deserve it, I'm a nice person. I also wouldn't hit one even if they hit me.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 DO NOT HYJACK MY THREAD!!!@ Ross... his mom treats him great... NO EXCUSE! personally i kinda think they are afraid to eally say anyhthing to him. he did say his dad gave him "the standard lecture" on respect.... i was just like HUH? there is a standard lecture out there for respecting your parents in THEIR HOUSE that theyu let you live in rent free? i like i said i still am at home. but as are both my sisters and we all pay rent.
Ross_K Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 No it does not entitle you to screamback and call her names. You should just remove yourself from the situation. She is your mom she is supporting you. If she treats you like crap you sohuld find a different way of dealing with her. I do agree with the other posters how a guy treats his mom is a good indication of how he treats women. I would never date a guy that was rude to his mom. Again this is bizarre logic, I've never heard anyone say stuff like this in the UK, but I have heard Ricki Lake say it and I think Jerry Springer, so maybe it's an American thing. I don't understand how the fact that being a mum is a ticket to abuse your children and if they understandably shout at her or get angry at her they are suddenly bad people who will treat all women bad. What about fathers, do the get this same right? If I were to have kids would it be okay for me to beat them up every now and again and if they weren't nice to me or didn't respect me I'd have everyone backing me up?
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Were you taught to believe this while you were growing up? you are missing the point. your mom is where a male learns how to treat women.. you will treat women the way you are taught to and you are being taught by your Mom to treat a woman with disrespect. At the age of 30 it no longer is your mom's responsibility how you treat women.. it is your own.. I was taught how to treat women by my mom.. I treat women with the same respect I treat my mom with.. It is really a simple theory.. not at all disfunctional
Ariadne Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 LRB, you're not in love with him or you would know so there is no point in marrying him. He doesn't seem to be even close to making you fall in love with him. It's up to you whether you will stay in a relationship that basically has no perspective or move on. What RecordProducer said. Ariadne
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 DO NOT HYJACK MY THREAD!!!@ Sorry LB... I had a tough time stopping..
hotgurl Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 DO NOT HYJACK MY THREAD!!!@ Ross... his mom treats him great... NO EXCUSE! personally i kinda think they are afraid to eally say anyhthing to him. he did say his dad gave him "the standard lecture" on respect.... i was just like HUH? there is a standard lecture out there for respecting your parents in THEIR HOUSE that theyu let you live in rent free? i like i said i still am at home. but as are both my sisters and we all pay rent. it's not the living at home that bugs me per se. It the disrepect of the mom. "jokingly" calling you a b!tch and the i loves you so fast. it's kinda creepy.
Ross_K Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 you are missing the point. your mom is where a male learns how to treat women.. you will treat women the way you are taught to and you are being taught by your Mom to treat a woman with disrespect. At the age of 30 it no longer is your mom's responsibility how you treat women.. it is your own.. I was taught how to treat women by my mom.. I treat women with the same respect I treat my mom with.. It is really a simple theory.. not at all disfunctional I can't see how my mum has taught me how to teach women with disrespect, I mean it's an instinctual thing that you do if a woman is bad towards you.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 we wwork for a city gov. and both my sister work at the city too. well i work mainly in one dept, but part time in aquatic, were both my sisters work. well they both knew him, and were kinda friends. so he and i start dating and my older sis told that he has had attitude problems, especially with his bosses, before.... and even since knowing him he got taken off working weekends cause he popped off on some dude at work. course the dude had family that were higher ups.... but still you just do not doo that.... most people can control themselves when it comes to job security!
Ross_K Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 If he's got anger problems and is bad towards his mum even though she is a nice person, then this is definatley a red flag, he'll probably start treating you bad further into the relationship and there could even be domestic violence. I say dump him, before your feelings may grow stronger for him which will make the dumping more difficult. Seriously.
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 If he's got anger problems and is bad towards his mum even though she is a nice person, then this is definatley a red flag, he'll probably start treating you bad further into the relationship and there could even be domestic violence. I say dump him, before your feelings may grow stronger for him which will make the dumping more difficult. Seriously. Good Advice Ross .. I agree
NTB Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 i think we all agree that this guy should be dumped now all that remains to be seen is if LRB will actually do it or wait???
burning 4 revenge Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 I just find what you said to be quite offensive when you know I'm posting in this topic, made a post that I think I've fallen in love within two weeks and I'm 30 and still live at home. And I don't know how to figure it out myself. I really cannot see how those two things make you a loser. You should'nt be offended. I'm a loser and I've learned to embrace the title.
Ross_K Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 I guess I'm just sensitive to this kind of stuff. My downfall really. Lol, so what makes you a loser?
samsungxoxo Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 I'm with Alpha on this one.. anybody who would yell or cuss their mother.. even though I have gotten thru a quick temper phase of my life I have never cussed or yelled at my mom.. Kick this guy to the curb.... Mom=Woman You=Woman you will be treated like he treats his Mom.. For the record.. I have always treated my Mom with respect.. She is an Angel Cursing and yelling to your mother in a way is normal, I'm sure most of us have done it now these days. Now I can understand is very disrespectful but if you're being call stupid and yelled at, then what do you called that?? By the way are you into that 10 commentent rule thing. Getting fed up with some people saying that "Oh no if, you yell or dishonor them then you're gonna be miserable in life, the most miserable being, yea whatever, I'm atheist. But yea, as for me, I'm not gonna yell at her or curse her, not after that incident it went too far into almost trying to raise my hand.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 I guess I'm just sensitive to this kind of stuff. My downfall really. Lol, so what makes you a loser? I'm 32 and live with my sister. I still have to ask my folks for money often. I just got my financial aid letter and will be getting $5000 for the semester and that's going to dissapear to cover my debts. I never get an oil change on time. I'm a terrible shag. I'm losing my hair.....should I go on?
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