yousaveme Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 i really want an answer to that question....And here is another question...Why is it that the ones we love the most make us cry the most?...
blind_otter Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Because we let them. JMO, though. Take it with a grain of salt.
KittenMoon Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Because opening yourself up to love means opening yourself up to pain. Caring about someone means caring about what they think and feel about you. So when your trust and love isn't valued the way you want it.... well, pain.
Buttaflyy Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 A real man doesn't make you cry. He's scared ****less when you do and it's the worst thing for him to see.
Author yousaveme Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 A real man doesn't make you cry. He's scared ****less when you do and it's the worst thing for him to see. Is that why i hear " Please stop i hate when you do this"
KittenMoon Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Is that why i hear " Please stop i hate when you do this" Often, they just don't understand.
Buttaflyy Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Is that why i hear " Please stop i hate when you do this" Yup. Probably.
SoCalCatman72 Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 And here is another question...Why is it that the ones we love the most make us cry the most?... Only someone you care about can hurt you and make you cry. The more you care about them, the more deeply they can hurt you. Often, they just don't understand. This is true, men don't understand emotions very well. Often we men get upset when we see a woman crying, because we are 'hard wired' to fix the problem. We men believe that we are supposed to be the provider and protector, and we cannot deal with the fact that we cannot protect you from emotional overload.
KittenMoon Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 This is true, men don't understand emotions very well. Often we men get upset when we see a woman crying, because we are 'hard wired' to fix the problem. We men believe that we are supposed to be the provider and protector, and we cannot deal with the fact that we cannot protect you from emotional overload. Oh it's lovely to see a guy admit this. But it's very true. When I'd get upset and cry or whatever (often hormonal) I used to tell my exbf, "Just be there, I don't need you to fix anything". But he couldn't. He tried to fix, and when you can't fix, serious frustration can set in, even resentement. Didn't really help our relationship. IMO, it's ok to be emotional and need someone to lean on, but in the case of guys, it is probably good to give them a little something to fix if you are going to emote to them like that. Like "I would feel better if I had choc ice cream/watched Gilmore Girls/had a big hug" even if that's not necessarily the fix. Just so that "hardwired" desire to fix gets sated.
leopardprint Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 ...Why is it that the ones we love the most make us cry the most?... Because the ones we love are the ones that matter the most.
stoopid_guy Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 This is true, men don't understand emotions very well. Often we men get upset when we see a woman crying, because we are 'hard wired' to fix the problem. We men believe that we are supposed to be the provider and protector, and we cannot deal with the fact that we cannot protect you from emotional overload.That's true, and I also think we're more prone to ignore any issue we can't fix. (Not my responsibility, not gonna worry about it.) Whereas women worry about EVERYTHING. It really hurts to see a lady you care about cry though.
norajane Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Only someone you care about can hurt you and make you cry. The more you care about them, the more deeply they can hurt you. This is true, men don't understand emotions very well. Often we men get upset when we see a woman crying, because we are 'hard wired' to fix the problem. We men believe that we are supposed to be the provider and protector, and we cannot deal with the fact that we cannot protect you from emotional overload. And if they're the ones who caused the emotional overload? Do they play Mr. Fix it then? Not always, in my experience.
typical Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 What about when they watch you cry and do and say absolutely nothing to soothe you? And what if they caused it to begin with?
samsungxoxo Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Funny, how about the guys who were dumped, hurt, cheated on, ect. Wouldn't they ask the same question about us women?
KittenMoon Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Funny, how about the guys who were dumped, hurt, cheated on, ect. Wouldn't they ask the same question about us women? They do! But the OP asked about guys.
JadeStar Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 What about when they watch you cry and do and say absolutely nothing to soothe you? And what if they caused it to begin with? I have wondered this myself. Maybe it can come from the fact they weren't shown how to soothe someone when they see them cry? Perhaps they weren't taught or if they were brought up in an environment where they saw their father do nothing to soothe thier mother from crying? Then again some simply just do not care. And if they purposly caused it to begin with, then its probably safe to say saying they are sorry or trying to soothe someone is probably not going to happen. JMO. Jade
Guest Posted October 8, 2006 Posted October 8, 2006 i really want an answer to that question....And here is another question...Why is it that the ones we love the most make us cry the most?... I really have a problem. I love this boy so much but I feel like it is wrong. I cry because I feel as if he is cheating but he tells me something different. We have been together for a year and three months. I am not ready to let go. I cry again because I am afraid that I will have to let him go. I need help. What should I do???...
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