norajane Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 You can take control over this situation. If he's "blackmailing" you, that loses its power if you just say, I don't care. What difference does it make to you if he tells her about your relationship issues? Whether he tells her or not, you are still unhappy about his treatment of you. THAT should be your focus. "Blackmail? OK, tell her whatever you want. I'm still upset with you for doing ____" See? Then he has no power to hurt you if you don't care. You can also stop crying when he hurts you and tell him very calmly that you don't want to be in a relationship where your feelings are second place to someone else's, and where he seems to think nothing of hurting you. Tell him to leave you alone until you've had some time to think if you want to be in the relationship at all. And then take that time. Maybe breaking up with him is your best option. Or maybe he'll start to see things your way. If he doesn't, then you ARE better off without him.
typical Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 It is quite simple, really. He is cruel man with a cruel mind.
kjl933 Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Your BF is an ass and has shown some attention to another woman--town slut or not--of which you are jealous. Right now, he has two chicks that dig him and he is playing this out. It is gonna backfire on him but that is what he is doing. Trying to manipulate you and "save" her. I would assume from the way you are writing that your feelings towards her have become apparent to him, and so forth, so this is leverage against you. Also it does not help your cause that you are dissing this friend of his. How would you feel if all of a sudden your BF began to diss an old friend from childhood? This seems like a post where you are expecting a response that agrees with your feelings and I am not sure you are gonna get it. I think you are both wrong and need to talk it out or get the hell out of the relationship
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