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has anyone hear actually got there lover back through no contact?

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NC is not a game, it is not about winning an ex back it is about winning yourself back.

 

Dig up some old threads from Caliguy if you want to learn more.

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i understand it is to heal, but i thought the aim is to make them then value u, miss u and then want u.

i assumed through nc people on here done it on here to do the above?

so if u did want someone back, what do u do if nc is not the answer?

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Josalina, you know my background between me and my ex.

 

After 5 days of beggings etc, i went straight to NC. 2 Weeks later i broke NC, only to ask her if she passed her driving test (friday 29th sept). She replied with she never took it because she kept breaking down (sadness) and delayed her test until this thursday.

 

She tried phoning my phone on friday night, and i didnt answer, so i phoned back later that night. She was happy to hear from me and i said i would take care of her and help her through. So she asked me if she could see me tuesday 3rd oct. I said yes ok, and went back to NC until the time comes.

 

Last night (sunday 1st oct) she txt me saying she cant stop crying. So i txt back asking if i could go round and comfort her. She said she didnt know and i said its up to you and then she said ok then come round. So i drove round, picked her up and we drove round for a bit. I baught her a take away, made her laugh, and i was confident as anything. I really did cheer her up and i could tell.

When i picked her up, her face was red, and her eyes were watery, as though she has been crying for a long time. She soon cheered up when she was with me.

 

All this happend before the planned meet on tuesday. So it was out of the blue to me, and i feel NC has something to do with it.

 

This morning she txt me a rather useless txt message that had no meaning to it. My friend said this is a way to get a reply from me. I didnt reply.

 

 

She also kept saying we are friends and thats it and nothing else and iv not to get the wrong idea... she said this without even seeing me, i dont know how she feels after i comforted her last night. My friend said, friends can easily fall in love again if i play the cards right.

And now, i'm waiting until tuesday to see her again.

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oh bless ya parky, thanks for the reply, its me ex's bady at the end of the month, should i send him a card to show i still care or is that pushing it, i cud text just to wish him a happy birthday but i don't know wheter i can handle the rejection again.

u r luckly ur ex offered 2 c u, my ex said we can still be friends, only i haven't heard from him, although i still have feelings i don't wanna look stupid.

i am pleased to hear you r doing well.

how long should nc go on for? as alredy been 2 weeks and he didn't seem bothered when i left him last.

do u think if u hadn't contacted ur ex she would have u, as she was clearly upset with the situation.

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I really don't know if my ex would have contacted me. I guess she would, just to tell me how she is feeling.

 

I would send the birthday card to your ex. It will mean something to him.

 

Remember in my story when we agreed on a 2 month apart? Well 2 months became 3 weeks. I would give it more time. Be strong and the time will come.

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sort of.

 

I went out with a guy for a year and I broke up with him because he wasn't pulling his weight in the relationship. I loved him, but he couldn't decide what he wanted... so I left him.

 

He came back a few months later saying he had made a mistake and wanted another chance...but I had found someone else. Even now, a year and a half later he still reaches out to me...but I am over it and wouldn't go back.

 

Now I am in NC with my latest break up- he left me and I want him back!

Will he come back? I doubt it. NC doesn't work in every situation.

 

But, the best thing about NC is that it affords you time to get over the person....regardless of whether they come back or not.

 

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when u say the time will come parky do u mean him making his mind up as i think he will jus move abroad now as he planned and was part of the reason we had to split.

he said he wanted to move away and didn't wanna take me somewhere i wouldn't want to go, although i asked to go with him.

i recon he still has feelings but he said himself it was the hardest thing he had ever had to think about, his career or me?!

he said he never thought the time would come round, this kinda made me feel a lil used for 2 and a half years although i knew we had something.

he said he still had the memories that would be hard to forget but he needs time to find himself to figure out what he wants.

if i send the card, my friend said i should say something like, hope you got all what u wanted, that way its a mixed message. but i dont play games, i want him back so i think a simple nice card and wish hima nice day will be more appriciated.

i just feel lost and nc is killing me.

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d-lish thanks for the reply, so it took ur ex a few months to realise he wanted u back? what like two months or longer?

hope u don't mind me asking.

i wish i just knew what was going on in his head, i know there is something still there, but i don't know if its enough.

 

i will stick to nc till his bday then poss send a card, if not stay with nc.

i just don't know what to do for the best.

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My b-day is this month, I don't expect I'll receive anything from my ex G/F. Honestly, I don't think I want to, it will just cause more problems for me.

 

Regards,

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thanks roost, hope u r doing ok?

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