Kman Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 A few months ago my wife admitted having an affair affair. She admitted this to me after I admitted to being involved in some internet shannanigins. She says the affair happend in 02'. Our sex life has been strained. When I confront her with this, she claims a lack of sex drive. What I can't understand, is that if there is a lack of sex drive, where did the sex drive come from to have sex with someone else? Since all this, our sex life has been strained, but not non-existent. When this affair business came to light, she had had some correspondence with the OM via text msgs. Is it a stupid question to ask wether I should be concerned by this? Probably other questions I should be asking ...but any response to this would be helpful.
Bryanp Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Let me get this straight. In 2002 your wife has a sexual affair behind your back putting your health at risk for STD's and betraying you in the worst way possible. She now in the present has been texting this same OM and you ask should you be concerned? You have got to be kidding. If the roles were reversed and you had been screwing another woman 4 years ago and now was texting the same woman; do you think your wife would be asking if she should be concerned? I think you would have to be in major denial not to think that this is a huge blow to your marriage. You cannot have recovery if there is any contact. This is a line in a sand. She must cut off all contact with the OM. How much more humiliation and disrespect are you willing to endure? Open your your eyes. This is totally unacceptable. Are you going to wait until she starts screwing this guy again?
Sup Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 PLEASE!!!! She's been screwing OM all along! She's just conceiling it better now.
whichwayisup Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Our sex life has been strained. When I confront her with this, she claims a lack of sex drive. What I can't understand, is that if there is a lack of sex drive, where did the sex drive come from to have sex with someone else? Since all this, our sex life has been strained, but not non-existent. When this affair business came to light, she had had some correspondence with the OM via text msgs. The OM has been providing her with the new feelings a new relationship brings on. Sexual, emotional and it's intense. More so because it's an affair, both have to lie, sneak around and hide what they're doing. Is it a stupid question to ask wether I should be concerned by this? Yes, you should be concerned. She is still intouch with the OM, and possibly still having sex with him. You two need to talk, go to counselling, decide if the marriage is worth saving. Do you two have children? If so, there's your number one main reason to work this out. If no children are involved, you need to decide if she's worthy of a second chance, and your love, trust and faith again.
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