SUMMER 1969 Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Is it possable for you to have a realtionship with a woman for a year, and not have any kind of feelings for her during that time, meaning you only look at her as a sex object? Keep this in mind, you both decided that you are boyfriend/girlfriend and you talk every single day and night.. Girls think different then men, so I would really like to hear a mans point of view on this.. Thank you, Summer
lovelorcet Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Yes, I could do this but I would say after about 6 months if I knew I was not falling in love I would let the girl go. But I could also see how things could just be convenient, don't have to try to hard for sex and have some one to hang out with.
SoCalCatman72 Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 I don't think my response is going to be much help, as I apparently don't think like most men Personally, I don't believe in FWB or casual sex. I have never had a physical relationship with someone I didn't have strong feelings for. So if it were me, I would say no.
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 Wow, I guess I just never knew men could control there feelings like that..
norajane Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Wow, I guess I just never knew men could control there feelings like that.. It's not really a matter of controlling feelings if they never had them in the first place. If a guy isn't in love and never was in love, he could maintain the relationship for the sex and companionship and still never fall in love...until he meets someone else and falls in love, or meets someone else he likes better.
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 Its just hard to understand why a man would date you for a year and not have feelings for you..
norajane Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Its just hard to understand why a man would date you for a year and not have feelings for you.. Um, did you miss the part about getting easy sex and companionship until he meets someone he likes better?
Pyro Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Is it possable for you to have a realtionship with a woman for a year, and not have any kind of feelings for her during that time, meaning you only look at her as a sex object? Keep this in mind, you both decided that you are boyfriend/girlfriend and you talk every single day and night.. Girls think different then men, so I would really like to hear a mans point of view on this.. Thank you, Summer If I had a relationship with a female for a year, then I would have developed feelings for her. I don't believe in FWB or any of that stuff, but if I did, it would be no where near a year that I would be with her.
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 I understand about getting sex whenever he wanted it, but then why call me his girlfriend? It just seems like a game.
Amour77 Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Hi, I will just give my opinion if it helps.... After a year, if things between a girl and myself were going fine, yes, I would have strong feelings for her. But hey, that's just me....
Pyro Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 I understand about getting sex whenever he wanted it, but then why call me his girlfriend? It just seems like a game. That is a game. He calls you his GF because he thinks/knows that is what you want to hear and by you hearing what you want, you will sleep with him.
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 Thank you all for your imput. Do you think he will ever settle down, I mean is he going to be 34 years old, don't you think that is a little to old to play this game?
Pyro Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Thank you all for your imput. Do you think he will ever settle down, I mean is he going to be 34 years old, don't you think that is a little to old to play this game? Unfortunately these little boys will play these games pretty much all there lives, or until they can't get away with it anymore.
SoCalCatman72 Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Wow, I guess I just never knew men could control there feelings like that.. I don't know if it's about being able to control their feelings, but IMO, rather their inability to control their bodies. A lack of control really.
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 My ex sucks! What an as_hole!
Pyro Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 My ex sucks! What an as_hole! Thats what we are here for, so you can vent it all out. At least he is now your ex.
D-Lish Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Um, did you miss the part about getting easy sex and companionship until he meets someone he likes better? Um, Bitter? It's nice to see that when people are down in the dumps looking for some respite from their pain that people can count on you to be sensitive. Keep up the good work.
SmoochieFace Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 I mean is he going to be 34 years old, don't you think that is a little to old to play this game? ... Pull up a chair. Stick around. In time, you will meet others here who indeed play 'that game' and are older than 34.
norajane Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Um, Bitter? It's nice to see that when people are down in the dumps looking for some respite from their pain that people can count on you to be sensitive. Keep up the good work. She didn't ask for support, she asked why. And I'd rather not sugar-coat and lie about a jerk's motives so she keeps her hopes up that he's going to suddenly become Prince Charming.
shawn_68 Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 My ex sucks! What an as_hole! Yes, he is. But whether you know it or not, you're growing through this time. You will know what to look for (and what not to look for) in the next relationship. You're wiser. You may not fully understand the importance of this now but you will. This will take you in a MUCH better direction. -S
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 I really hope so, I totally fell in love with this guy to find out that I did not mean anything to him besides a f/b, and that makes me sad.. Its sad to know that people can play with your heart and emotions like this.. But i know one day he will get his turn where the girl breaks his heart and then maybe he will know to never do this to someone again.. I always thought a f/b was when the man and woman agree that there is no strings attached here... not this crap where I felt that I had a future with him.. This is kind of hard to take in..
Green Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Guys make girls feel that they are loved all the time heck they may even say the words I love you and still not give a damn about the other person just to have sex. Women date men for over a year even get maried to them just for the money maybe even hating the guy
Author SUMMER 1969 Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 I agree with you as men and woman can both be very cruel, but this guy.. well its just crazy, why waste a year on me and not have any feelings, sex is not that hard to find, why use me for a year?? That is just crazy
shawn_68 Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 This is kind of hard to take in.. It's painful. The hurt IS deep. And it takes a while to make peace with it. But you will. Just take the necessary time to deal with this properly. Make sure that you're fully at peace with this before you get into another relationship. For your sake and his. You will be more than fine. -S
shawn_68 Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 I agree with you as men and woman can both be very cruel, but this guy.. well its just crazy, why waste a year on me and not have any feelings, sex is not that hard to find, why use me for a year?? That is just crazy You will NEVER understand "why" he did what he did. Never. You can search for answers for the next two years, and you will never get any closer. Accept what happened for what you DO know. Learn. Grow.
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