How to make it less "weird" between us?

[Guest]

I was attracted to this guy I work with and we have seen each other a few times outside of work. The last time being this past week. I was having a really rough day and feeling vulnarable and I "spilled my guts" about my marriage and my woes of lonliness. I'm sure it sounded really desperate. So to make things worse, when I left him I ASKED him for a hug, I know it's just a hug but that is so "needy".

 

Long story short,

This weekend I had a marathon talk with my husband (it was the best conversation that I have ever had in my life and I feel totally recommited) and although I felt differently last week I regret venting to this guy. I was friends with him before this, plus I work with him, so I don't want things to get weird. I am very hesitant about seeing him again for the first time b/c we used to be able to joke and keep things light and I am worried that there will be "weirdness" between us? Any suggestions to keep this as neat as possible?

[luvstarved]

Well all I can really say is "live and learn". Spilling your guts to someone at work that you are attracted to is sticking a big fat toe into dangerous waters and I am THRILLED to hear that you averted this potential disaster by talking with your H. Way to go!

 

As far as weirdness, I'd just let my new optimism speak for itself. There is a chance that he will bring it up again, in which case I would just tell him that you had a long talk with H and that things are looking good...and sorry that you bored him with your bad-day vent or something similar. Try to keep it light. If you make it into a "serious discussion", you might get emotional feedback that you don't want and don't need to hear...And don't worry about it too much. Just focus on your marriage...

[norajane]

Next time you see him, just say something like, "hey, thanks so much for listening the other night. My husband and I talked over the weekend and I feel so much better. Talking with you really helped me gather my thoughts."