justaLUVR Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 well ive been with this girl for 3 years, and we have been in college for about a month. we recently decided that we need a break to experience new people/things. we were each others first and only for love and sex. We talked about if things got too difficult, we might need a break. and it did. Her theory was if we are HS sweethearts, and we never experience anything else, how will we know we are the ones for each other; we will always wonder, and a few adults we know had that happen to them and divorce. We chose to mutually break up, and on good terms, in hopes of one day getting back together. we go to college about 1.5 hours away, and stll see each other on weekends, and we remain true best friends. I have been hurting very bad over this, even though i realize it will probably be the best in the end. we decided we need to meet and "experience" new people. the hardest thing for me to do is see her with another man. i have doubts of my ability to move on. She is a VERY VERY pretty girl, and is quite flirtatious, but she is not a "horny" girl whatsoever, she didnt get physical pleasure when we had sex, but did it for me anyways. But i ALWAYS performed oral on her, and she liked this very much, she never totally orgasmed, but came very close all the time (trembling, charley horse in foot/leg) and felt very relaxed, but said she doesent think that is an orgasm. Anywyas, i need advice on how to deal seeing visual images in my head of her with another man, i feel like shes my little girl, and if she enjoys sex with another man more. DO some girls not even get physical pleasure out of sex? especially with abondoned dads? ANY ADVICE, to any of this is greatly appreciated, thank you very much
loveinlife Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Hello Justaluvr, I am sorry that you are going through this, it must be very frustrating. I could only try to understand your grief. As the part where you say that both of you have seen other HS sweet hearts have broken up, I believe every couple is different, don't use others examples to take away the lifestyle you want to keep. If you still love this girl, don't let her go, tell her you want to work this relationship out. If you truely want to be her friend, as hard as it sounds, you would have to understand that she is able to do what she wants. Perhaps, this is the test that will make it or break the possibility that she will come back one day. Don't lose that chance if you believe she is someone you can love for a very long time. Best Wishes!
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