Guest Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 I have been with my man for over 2 yrs now. We have a 9 month old together and I wished things would go well. But he has this temper. It is so bad. when he gets mad he calls me every name he can think of, and now it is starting to get abusive.... I love him though and I wanted it to work but it seems to go in circles... I dont know weather it would be better to leave or to just wish he would change?! I need help! Im going crazy in my head.
Tony T Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 You can wish in one hand and poop in the other...people with tempers seldom change. Obviously he didn't show you this side until you got way too involved...that, to me, is fraud. Now, what is there to love about a man who could possibly kill you in a fit of rage? It happens all the time between lovers. Watch Court TV. Perhaps you could get some type of psychological intervention or anger management for him. Of course, he's likely to beat you to a pulp if you suggest this. Just be very careful. One day, you may have to make a quick getaway while he's at work. Try to get help for him if you really want this to work.
FlyingHigh Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Physical abuse is not something you take lightly. In Calfiornia, you can't even slap a person without being thrown in jail. Last week, one of my neigbors behind the next house over, heard her screaming in the middle of the night. She cried so loud and at first I thought it was a kid just being scolded. So I didn't think much of it. The next morning. I heard the cries again. It was the same criy. This time she was crying with "please help". I took the phone, went to the backyard, peeked out and it was a woman being beaten by a guy and she kept screaming "plese help". Called 911. They came over to my house, pointed which house to go. Since then I haven't heard the woman cry. DO NOT take physical abuse lightly. Take your baby and get the hell out. If you don't have a place to stay, there are temporary shelters for women in your position. Call the non-emergency line for the police department in your area and get help. Good luck.
FlyingHigh Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Physical abuse is not something you take lightly. In Calfiornia, you can't even slap a person without being thrown in jail. Last week, I heard one of my neigbors behind the next house over, screaming in the middle of the night. She cried so loud and at first I thought it was a kid just being scolded. So I didn't think much of it. The next morning. I heard the cries again. It was the same criy. This time she was crying with "please help". I took the phone, went to the backyard, peeked out and it was a woman being beaten by a guy and she kept screaming "plese help". Called 911. They came over to my house, pointed which house to go. Since then I haven't heard the woman cry. DO NOT take physical abuse lightly. Take your baby and get the hell out. If you don't have a place to stay, there are temporary shelters for women in your position. Call the non-emergency line for the police department in your area and get help. Good luck.
Buttaflyy Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 It's definitely better to leave! If all you could do is wish for him to change (which is exactly all you could do) there is no solution in this. Unless you have a Genie in a bottle, you can not change him. Please think about your child. If you stay in this relationship, it is YOU who is in a sense abusing your baby by causing her to live in this enviornment. Take your child and get far away from this man. If you don't your baby will suffer the consequences of your choices. I know you don't want that right? You seem to know that you can't change him. Things will not get better with him. Please do not take this abuse any longer.
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