loveinlife Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 Although, I have learned to make peace with myself and the situation between my ex and I, as she has made it clear that we are merely friends. She did sorta bothered me last night. What happened was... 11:45pm, Sat night, I was clubbing with some friends just looking for a night to hang out and have some fun, with a lil mixture of alchohol. After getting our first drink, I walked to the other side of the dance floor just checking out some girls. THen there she goes, I saw my ex dancing with her friends. I kinda was shocked to see her, as she doesn't go out as much as I do to the clubs and she was wearing her hair like the way I liked it before. She was looking pretty with her nice taken care body. I backed off and just talked to my friends and told them my ex was here. They were trying to help me focus on having fun and telling me that this is my time to shine, let her know that I am over her. 12:00am, I saw her walking to the bathroom with a guy following her and him waiting for her outside when she got in. After she walked out, they both kissed, as she wouldn't have with me before. Kinda struck my mind of her change. Later on that night she kept on walking by me with her new man following her. The whole time she didn't say hi and looked as if she was such a stuck up person. I was bothered by the whole situation of how she reacted, as we were friends and we had contacts every other day. The guy seemed like a nice guy, sorta reminded me of my old self, he looked sorta attached to her, like he loved her. I am happy that she found a good replacement. Perhaps a better guy What also was interesting was her going to the bathroom multiple times and her current bf looking so unhappy, as he was disturbed by her behavior. It was an awkward situation, ex ignored me(although we were friends), played stuck up, went to the bathroom multiple times, and her current bf looking disturbed as to why did she reacted the way she did looking like she wasn't having fun. I guess I am a lil bothered too.
Teacher's Pet Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 Sounds like you handled yourself well, bro. I don't know if I'm emotionally ready to run into my ex at a club yet. Fortunately, she has a limited number of bars/clubs she goes to, and I've discovered some cool new places since the breakup, so the chances of running into her are fairly slim. Running into her is one thing...seeing her with her "new man"... I just don't know how well I'll handle it at the moment..... The one thing working in my favor is that when I do go to a club, I'm usually with women (most of my new friends are women), so she'd see me surrounded by chicks and well... it's an ego boost, I guess. Well, you made it throught the first "encounter"..that's a huge step for ya.. Good job! -tp misses his old hangouts, loves his new ones even more
joriel Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 I'm with TP here. Not only did you do well but cheers to your friends for keeping you focused on having your own good time.
Author loveinlife Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 THanks TP and Joriel, my heart is shaping everyday and found out that love is within ourselves. If we love ourselves, love exist, and it exists everyday. We don't need to wait for it to come. It feels good.
TheSilentType Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 The guy seemed like a nice guy, sorta reminded me of my old self, he looked sorta attached to her, like he loved her. I am happy that she found a good replacement. Perhaps a better guy Something about what you said here really struck a cord with me...seems like something I'd say. You seem like a good guy and I hope things work out for you....whatever happens in the end...whether you get back with your ex or not. Good luck.
silentcharon Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 I would have done the same if I was in your shoes. I'm glad that your friends were there for you, to help you ignore her. I'm sure she wasn't expecting to see you there at all, and wasn't sure what to do. Even though you guys are "friends" now, she probably felt uncomfortable with her new guy there. I mean, if she wanted to talk to you, she would have to introduce her new boyfriend (as common courtesy dictates.), so maybe that's why she seemed stuck up? I don't know what I would do if I saw my ex with a new girl. Even though I say I'm moving on, it would still be a shock for me. Hopefully I can handle it as gracefully as you did! Good Job!
Author loveinlife Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 Thanks everyone, you guys/girls are so encouraging, I wasn't even sure if I did the right thing. I was just hoping that my ex is doing alright and for me to get some advice for my situation, which I got and appreciate everyone's kindness. I didn't mention that I am not planning to have contacts with her anymore... feels awkward to get in between their relationship as they looked very happy together.
Author loveinlife Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 Just about an hour ago, my ex called me. I didn't pick up. Although my intentions were to pick up but I was on another phone conversation with my friend and we didn't get to end it soon enough. This is what I feel after I saw her with the new guy. I feel a lil disgusted by her for moving on so quick and her kissing the guy, was awk :sick: . You guys know what I mean. So my feelings for her is changing. I dropped down from loving her 100 percent to only 30 percent. I don't think she is that great of a person anymore. I am no longer waiting for a second chance to get with her. My second chance right now is to give myself a break from this total mess I have created, my self destructive emotional behaviors feeling like beating myself up like a punching bag; Instead, I should be my own friend and love myself and give me the respect I deserve. Good luck everyone!
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