justagirl1121 Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 I need a little help on clarifying a couple things. Maybe I'm just over reading it or something or expecting too much. I don't get out much. Don't date very much. But my friend kinda set me up with one of her friends to go to a baseball game. I'd never met him but he seemed cool. I had a pretty fun day. We grabbed something to eat after and he paid. That was really nice. The next weekend he txt messaged me and we talked that way a few times. A couple days later I messaged him myself. We talked a few times that way again and he asked about doing stuff later that week. So we did. (When it comes to things like this im never sure what i should be doing about paying. I can't just sit there and let them pay it (esp. since i dont really know him) though he is the one who asked me to do this this night. So after dinner when the check came, I asked about my half. And he was like "if you want to." so I paid my half of the meal, though I thought maybe he really should have been like "oh no i got it"....and there were a couple other things, like held the door open like once, but the other times he went through it first just like he was walking out by himself. I am not completely old fashioned, but I am thinking you'd want to be especially charming on a date...or maybe it wasn't a date...it really sounds like it was, considering I really don't know the kid, but my friend says he's real nice and fun to hang out with....we ended the night with a hug which is perfectly fine at this point. When I'm with several of my friends who have bfs, they are always paying not only for her stuff but for MY stuff...which is sooo nice of them but not necessary...it's just now I'm like...ok I go on my own date and I pay for my meal? But he requested to be added as a friend to the my space page i never visit because the internet is stupid but i happened to try to log onto today. And we went out wed and the myspace thingy was thur. so im not really sure where to proceed from here....i feel a bit awkward w/ it since it is my friend who is kinda trying to set us up but is really trying not to be all over it. but i also dont want to get any scoop from her and get some back and forth gossip going either. Any tips!?
Jizzosh Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 If it weren't for you two going out to each together it doesn't sound like a date at all to me. What'd you guys talk about? Was there any effort to really get to know each other?
luvtoto Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 I would think your girlfriend would know something. Does he talk to her?
Jane Doe Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 Does this guy go to school, have a job, etc.? Maybe he can't afford to every time. It sounds like he's interested. I think you should casually mention him to your friend and see what she says. You don't have to say anything or give up anything yourself; just see if she says anything concerning his feelings.
Author justagirl1121 Posted October 1, 2006 Author Posted October 1, 2006 He does have a job. He was going to school in another state and moved back home a few months ago I think. So I guess he is working a lot of overtime etc .I work full time too. He's like 2 years older so. We talked abt a lot of stuff. He actually used to work where I work, that's how my friend met him like 4 years ago. We talked about work, tv, what it was like where he used to live, odd stories, things like that. I only know what I know through friends and tv as far as dating, i just don't have a lot of experience with it myself b/c usually I make a good guy friend every once in awhile and by the time something happens, it's gone and they never talk to me again! This time is a little different I guess...got the little set up going on. I guess I'm not sure about who should pay for what and what's considered normal!
Hitman10000 Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 If it's the issue of who pays for the check, according to B*tches and "Dating Books" the man pays for it initlally and for the less assertive, submissive, house maid type of women he pays for it all the time. All i gotta say about that is, that the guy should pay for the first couple, and then afterwards go dutch or switch around once in awhile.
Author justagirl1121 Posted October 5, 2006 Author Posted October 5, 2006 i agree with you hitman! i havent talked to him since. i guess im just over analyzing it and being paranoid but at first i thought maybe hey he liked me, now after we hung out again maybe hes like eh nevermind. see i have a lot of friends who are GIRLS, i just never get any GUYS to be even friends its so annoying. like they'll tlak to me at work but i gotta go visit THEM. its been over a week i think ill just text him and say hi. if we just become friends thats fine. i just dont like being in the grey area.
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