Vhann Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 Met a girl 4 years ago through some buddies. Amazing girl... she was taken at the time so we just became friends. every night we talked online and one night she broke up with him and came to me for support. So i helped her through that and told her she was better off cuz her ex was controlling. We dated for 2 1/2 of the best years of my life. I have never loved someone this much and had this much in common with a girl. Things got rocky towards the 3rd yearand she said we were better off as friends and she left me. A few days later got with another guy. Didnt talk to her for weeks but saw her daily at school. Hurt me really bad and i ate it all that year. She called me up one night and we started talking about how she wanted to be back with me and i just shrugged it off even tho i still loved her as much as before. She has a lot of trust issues cuz her dad cheats on her mom. so we got together after working out stuff out and i just took her for granted and didnt pay enough attention and she said i needed to grow up and get a job but im a full-time student so i didnt think it was a big deal but ok. so she found me talking to girls online and i promised i wouldnt do it again which i didnt. she left for her grandparents house for a weekend when i had a party with some friends (some girls yes) i lied about the girls like a dumbass and she assumed i cheated on her. i told her everyone there could vouch and most of the girls there had bfs. i told her i want to change and i want to make things work. i wanted to propose to her on my bday before all this happened so i told i wanted to earn her trust back and i wanted to make things work. Shes my first 1 true love and i wasnt gonna lose her without a fight cuz i am sure that this would be the last chance i had. so i fought and gave it my all and tried to explain to her i wanted to change and i wanted to make her happy and be with her forever. I guess she didnt believe me or just didnt want to try to work things out so she dumped me a few days ago and for some reason calls me every night like she used to. i dont answer cuz im scared to hear another guy in the background or something and i miss her SO much. I want her back and i am willing to do anything to earn her trust and make her happy. She makes me happy like no other. I dont know what to do... do i answer? to i continue to ignore? why does she call? >_< im hurting so bad the only reason im here is cuz my faith... my grandpa died today which made things worse and i really need her here. i need to hold her in my arms again. she was my first and in my mind/heart my last. Please help me someone... i feel like she just stopped loving me.
Josalina Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 i am so sorry to hear about your gradpa today. u sound like u r going through it a lil, well what do u feel is right, if u answer her calls u may start up the friends again and maybe progress or she may hurt u, i dont know her so only u know what she is like. if u have told her how u feel and ahe has rung i would answer but if she doesn't have a convosation about u or being with u or not what u want to hear, ask her outright what is the point of this conversation and y did u ring? she will have to answer and if she has upset u, she will now feel pretty silly, u sound quite young as hard as it is remember if it didn't work out everything it done for a reason and U WILL find someone better, u may not think it now, in fact u may think i am a lil harsh but i don't mean to sound that way, i do understand how hard it is, but if she don't want u the u don't want someone who don't want you. if not just make her jealous. keep smiling and be happy, that will annoy her a whole lot more. take care.
Author Vhann Posted September 30, 2006 Author Posted September 30, 2006 I have tried being her friend before, the 1st time we broke up and couldnt really handle it cuz i feel more than that. I love her too much to just be her friend.
Josalina Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 does she know this, do u want it to end?
Author Vhann Posted September 30, 2006 Author Posted September 30, 2006 she knows how i feel... and i didnt want us to end but... it did. and i cant handle just talking to her as a friend
Jizzosh Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 Well, if you want her you can't ignore her dude. I'd pick up the phone to keep in contact, but what you really need to do is set up an arrangement where you two can have a serious conversation and tell her how you truly feel. If you just ignore her your pain won't go away bro.
Josalina Posted October 1, 2006 Posted October 1, 2006 u need to tell her this, tell her u love her, if she still don't make any point of saying it back u can go on knowing u told her how u feel. good luck.
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