ajacks10 Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 So my wife and I have had threesomes (sort of), I don't touch the other girl, but she can. We have also had 4-somes, where the men don't touch the other girls, but the girls do whatever. It is a bit of a double standard obviously, and we have agreed that for now that is just the way it is. Thurs night, my wife had a girlfirend over for "Spa night"; facials, pedicures, hot tubbing, wine, etc. I was relegated to the bedroom to watch tv.. no big deal. I faded in and out of sleep all evening starting at about 930. The last time I woke up was around 2 am. I didn't hear them talking as I had the times before when I had awoken. I opened the bedroom door and heard them in the living room moaning, obviously having sex. "What to do now", I thought? After a few minutes of contemplation, I headed downstairs much to their surprise I think. The lights were off, I couldn't see much, but they were on the couch, both with not much on. I said Hi, and asked if I still had to be in the bedroom, as I walked to the kitchen and got a beer. She wasn't sure what to say or do I think, and I realized I had put them in an awkward position, so I went back upstairs. I finished my beer , and again wasn't sure what to do next. So I went back downstairs. Again asking if anyone needed anything?? She asked me to get a dildo and told me I could stay in the living room and sit in the chair. I did for a while and was strangely not aroused really. So as I thought on this lthe next day, I wasn't sure what to think? On one hand I have seen my wife have sex with this other woman before, and I was fine with it. However this time I was not aware. Had I not awoken, I am sure I would have never known what went on. My question is am I am hippocrite, or did I get cheated on in a way?
Tony T Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 What your wife did was just plain sick, this is assuming you aren't a troll since this is your very first post. (This is pretty wild stuff for my plate.) I may not be qualified to answer your post because I'm a bit older and things like this just didn't happen in our world 20 years ago. I'm truly sorry but if I was married and I walked downstairs to find my wife having sex with another woman, I don't know which direction I would head...to the courthouse for a divorce or to the city dump to leave her off. Your wife has absolutely no class and no respect for you. If she's so hell bent on doing her lesbian thing, she ought to go away and get a hotel room. This act with another woman did not constitute any kind of threesome with you involved. She was clearly having a great time with a woman. That's OK. She's most likely bisexual. The respect comes in where those kinds of things are private and made certain you and others can't walk in on them. There...you see just how old fashioned I am. When I was growing up, married people honored and had respect for each other. Now they bang people in their living room while their spouse is sleeping upstairs. Just sounds so primative to me. It's like the human race is marching backwards. Good luck!!!
alphamale Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 She's most likely bisexual. no...she's a lesbian.
whichwayisup Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 You've opened the door to many things by having threesome's and foursomes. You and your wife should be setting up boundries and rules, what lines CANNOT be crossed. Her going off on her own, with a female (or male) and having sex is a no-no. That is cheating because she didn't discuss that with you...And judging by your reaction, it hurt and made you feel uncomfortable. TALK to your wife, and get things back on track. Maybe you two need a break from involving other people in your sex life and spend some alone time together. Maybe even take a break from sex and enjoy the other aspects of couplehood.
Guest Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 and things like this just didn't happen in our world 20 years ago. Yeah they did. I'm truly sorry but if I was married and I walked downstairs to find my wife having sex with another woman, I don't know which direction I would head...to the courthouse for a divorce or to the city dump to leave her off. See, you need to read the post. This guy usually WATCHES HIS WIFE HAVE SEX WITH OTHER WOMEN. Right there in his post he says it. It's just time wife did it without spectators. So what's the deal? You were asleep, she wanted to go ahead. Decided to let you sleep. How is it different this time?
lindya Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 So my wife and I have had threesomes (sort of), I don't touch the other girl, but she can. We have also had 4-somes, where the men don't touch the other girls, but the girls do whatever. It is a bit of a double standard obviously, and we have agreed that for now that is just the way it is. Whose idea was it to get involved in all this? Thurs night, my wife had a girlfirend over for "Spa night"; facials, pedicures, hot tubbing, wine, etc. Given the lesbian nature of these frequent swinging sessions you and your wife engage in, it's not hard to predict what happened next... I faded in and out of sleep all evening starting at about 930. The last time I woke up was around 2 am. I didn't hear them talking as I had the times before when I had awoken. I opened the bedroom door and heard them in the living room moaning, obviously having sex. Dear oh dear. "What to do now", I thought? After a few minutes of contemplation, I headed downstairs much to their surprise I think. The lights were off, I couldn't see much, but they were on the couch, both with not much on. I said Hi, and asked if I still had to be in the bedroom, The two of you really haven't worked out the fine contractual details of this swinging relationship situation, have you? She asked me to get a dildo and told me I could stay in the living room and sit in the chair. This is very depressing. I did for a while and was strangely not aroused really. So as I thought on this lthe next day, I wasn't sure what to think? On one hand I have seen my wife have sex with this other woman before, and I was fine with it. However this time I was not aware. Had I not awoken, I am sure I would have never known what went on. My question is am I am hippocrite, or did I get cheated on in a way? The impression I have from your whole post is that you and your wife have just wandered into this lifestyle. Didn't you have any kind of discussion in order to establish how to protect the marriage from the threat that having sex with other people inevitably entails. No boundaries in place? That doesn't convey a sense of either of you having much respect for your marriage, for eachother or for yourselves.
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