fin58103 Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 The Ex-GF and I dated for 6 months before she broke it off about a month ago. She stated that she could not see herself falling in love with me and didnt know if she would ever fall for another. That day happened to be her birthday. I took the news pretty hard, trying to persuade her to give it time, asking her if this was rash decision, etc. Once I internalized her decision, it was pack up time. I went to my place and packed everything of hers, gifts and all into her car. Told her to keep everything she had of mine- they were worthless to me at this point. She gave the whole "friends" option- I immediately told her she's either a part of my life, or she isn't. Complicating the situation is that she is a co-worker of mine. Well, she will be for another 2 days. She put in her two weeks notice a week after the breakup. Not so sure as to why, apparently something to do with schedule. Being that we work at different locations in the same town, I have was pretty well buffered from anyone knowing about our relationship. That is- until we broke up. She told a few of her coworkers, and then the fire started. She made sure to tell a co-worker of hers that had a crush on in the past all about it. Why? Just let it go! The funny thing is that the girl asked the ex, "Do you honestly think you can do any better?" Though I got questions from other co-workers, they for the most part respected my privacy in dealing with the issue. I am on-call with her this weekend and was put in a position where I had to contact her for the first time since the breakup. Talk about my brain being short circuited the time prior and the short time after making the call. While making the call, I was very professional and to the point. Did not ask how she was doing- nothing personal. Glad I was able to keep my composure. I think I am going to sit a read "No more mr nice guy" by Glover again. Later going out with friend of mine who introduced to a couple co-workers of her a couple of weeks back. There were no expections, just went out and had a good time. Apparently, the both of the them have asked about me since then. Though I know I am not ready to date for the time being, it definately a confidence booster and reassurance. Breaking NC was tough, would NOT reccomend it to those with the option- don't do it! In the meantime, I'm going to focus on the future. The past is all behind me and come Monday I will not have to deal with the awkward ex/coworker situation. I really dodged a bullet this time. Thank you God and to everyone for the wise words- havn't posted much, but have read many threads here.
Author fin58103 Posted September 30, 2006 Author Posted September 30, 2006 Well, she called be bitching at me because the client was not home at the time I had told her. I told I her I was merely repeating the information I recieved and apologized for the error. Her response was "aren't we effiecient today" in a snotty voice and hung up. Is she trying to get some sort of a response out of me? What purpose does it serve her to try and turn me into an @sshole when I have done nothing wrong? Well, whatever, its a beautiful day out and my road bike is calling my name. I'm not going to internalize the label she is trying to put upon me. She is the one who did the breaking up, so why am I the level-headed one?
Diver012 Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 Well, she called be bitching at me because the client was not home at the time I had told her. I told I her I was merely repeating the information I recieved and apologized for the error. Her response was "aren't we effiecient today" in a snotty voice and hung up. Is she trying to get some sort of a response out of me? What purpose does it serve her to try and turn me into an @sshole when I have done nothing wrong? Well, whatever, its a beautiful day out and my road bike is calling my name. I'm not going to internalize the label she is trying to put upon me. She is the one who did the breaking up, so why am I the level-headed one? Maybe becasue you handleled yourself like a mature adult, and shes acting like an idiot? I wouldnt even sweat it man... Working with the Ex can suck, I know ive been working with mine for 6 months now...
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