I think MM I have a crush on likes someone else and I'm devastated

[RecordProducer]

:lmao::lmao::lmao:

OK, now that I stopped laughing, I may say something about this ridiculous situation...

 

You're lucky if he is NOT interested in you, because he has something that you don't - a wife!

 

The smart fatso is probably his mistress already and your observation that he has a crush on her may be very ignorant.

 

If you get devastated because someone married you have a crush on has a crush on someone else then life is really difficult for you.

 

Your attitude you fight against two women is very wrong. What makes you think that you must have this man so you must fight for him? How about forget him? Or are you one of those people who only want to have what they can't have and the more they can't have it the more they want it?

[BlueEyedGirl]

I'm just feeling incredibly depressed tonight and it's not even about MM. There was another guy that I really liked and was friends with and I have found out through someone else today that this guy is GAY. I can't beleive it, this is just so tragic. I'm 100% alone.

 

So yet another guy that I have been friends with for ages has been consoling me all day. I know he has always liked me, but I just don't feel attracted to him one bit. He invited me to his place to cook me dinner, but I don't like him as anything more than a friend and I know he really wants more. Part of me thinks am I just scared of being with someone that is available. Another part of me tell me that I'm just not into this guy and that I would be settling. I really don't know what is true anymore. I'm just so lost.

[KrisMuseumGirl]

Blue Eyed Girl, If this is true, you have the right to be hurt. Regardless of him being a MM, your feelings were probably genuine and to find out his may be much less meaningful (flavor of the month type thing) hurts. I'm sure he wasn't up front with you about you're being the "flavor of the month" rather it was probably more like "you're so special.." "never met anyone like you before...." "If only I had met you first, I would've married YOU instead of HER..." etc.

 

It sounds like he dosen't know what he wants. Be grateful that he showed is true colors before any REAL damage was done. You're pain is real, but when you think of what COULD'VE happened, you're getting off easy. Hold your head high, realize he dosen't deserve your spit and walk away. You'll get over it - trust me, you will.

[outofdarkness]

Thank you all for trying to discuss this with me without attacking me.

Outofdarkness, you wrote your story beautifully. I have been cheated on by long term bf, no marriage and kids involved and it completly broke me. So I can relate to some extent to how you were feeling. See, I didn't even consider this when going for MM. How foolish of me. This morning I'm having one of those "What have I been thinking?" moments. I'm dreading seeing MM tommorrow at work as we have to work on a project together for couple of hours. I really will consider getting another job.

 

It might be a good idea to see a therpist at some point (I have never been to one), as when I think back, even though I have gone for different types of men, they all had one thing in common, they were EMOTIONALY UNAVAILABLE. I probably should work out why I'm doing it.

Thanks..I know you are feeling confused..and I hope and pray that you will feel some inner peace soon. STAY away from this loser...He does not treat you right at all. At least you can get out of it w/out having to go to court, etc...imagine how is W must feel. He is definately playing the field, and this could be dangerous for you emotionally AND physically...

 

I will be thinking of you and praying for you...

[laniwill65]

I have even told him that all the moving around can't be good for the kids, and he just said that they are still young and they don't care . Well, I come from a family where we moved around when I was young, and settling into a new school and starting over was hell. The only person he cares about is HIMSELF. Sorry I'm getting off the topic I just need to vent I guess.

 

 

This is uncanny. BlueEyed - I'm experiencing the exact same thing. It's like you are living my life. My family moved around a lot too when I was a kid. The only thing with my situation is that I am not being pursued. It is just a crush. I knew this man on my job since before he got married and liked him then, too. I will never pursue him because I think of his wife and kids. I was an unwilling ow years ago. I had no idea I was the ow until his fiancee came to town then I received the blow. Then I guess I was paid back when another woman came between me and my bf and slept with him before he even had a chance to touch me (if he even wanted to). I watched them get close and lovey dovey every excruciating day until a few months later when I saw him throw her away the same way he did me. When I think about it I can still feel the pain. That is what helps me (and this forum, too) not to ever think of pursuing a MM... especially THIS MM.