Jizzosh Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 Like some days I'll be on top of the world. Like, everything is going the right way, whether it be relationships with friends and girls, progress in life, just enjoying the day, whatever else you want to put in. The next day I feel all energized and ready to start the day because it's gonna be a good one, then by the end of the day I don't feel accomplished at all. I get momentum going, then I fall back in the hole I'm trying to get out of. It frustrates the hell out of me. Mostly my situation is with a girl I'm trying to approach that I know likes me, but it can be about anything. This isn't the only thing that it's happened with.
Sparky Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Before I finished reading your post, I already knew what your problem is, and it's confidence and courage. Confidence is believing in yourself, and knowing that you CAN do it, not WILL do it. "I know this is gonna work" is just being plain cocky. You can't read the future. Courage, in my definition is "I don't know how this will work out, and I can't guarantee that I'll succeed, but I'll do my best to get the best possible result." You need to realize that it's okay make mistakes. We all make them. But most importantly, you have to let go of the past! You can't undo what's been done, do don't beat yourself up over it. Just learn from it. Now onto your sweetheart... "Mostly my situation is with a girl I'm trying to approach that I know likes me, but it can be about anything." If you are 100% sure that she's at least comfortable talking to you and being around you, then all you need to do is believe that it's possible to get her to like you, and it will show. You need to realize this... If she likes you enough to be your gf, that's great. If she doesn't like you enough to be your gf, that's great too. Give me examples as to why you think she likes you.
Author Jizzosh Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 Thanks man, that sounds like what my problem is. It's really weird, like today my day started out like **** but by the time I came home everything's prefect. I know, I tell myself that a lot that I have to learn from it. You don't know how hard it is if you've never been through it though, but thatnks for the support. I'm actually moved on from my past, it's just that I've dug myself into a social hole somewhat. Like, I have a lot of friends and all and can talk comfortably with most of them, but I have problems reaching out to new people, especially girls. I have some girl friends, but mostly guy friends. Well, about this girl..we haven't even talked yet, but I'm gonna talk to her tomorrow cause that's when we have class together. It's one of those things you can just tell though, you know? Like, whenever I look up or turn her direction I see her staring at me. There are so many times I've seen her when she thought I wasn't looking too, like there was this guy right behind me and I turned around quickly to ask him a question. Turns out, the girl is sitting in a spot that's a couple feet away, so when I turn around I see her head quickly turn the other way. Kinda hard to explain. Then another time we were doing something I forget, but I was sitting with my group and she was sitting with her group and there was this big dude sitting between the vision of 'her and me'. He starts talking loudly and I turn my head, then I see past the little cracks her eyes staring at me. Aside from that, I see her sometimes in the hallways on the days I don't have her and I noticed she dresses nicer on days she has my class(maybe a coincidence) and sometimes when we've been by each other like waiting for class to be over she kinda scoots close to me. Like I said in some other topics, the only reason I'd believe she wouldn't want to be my gf is because she's just slightly taller than me. I've got a pretty wide base though cause I life weights, so I don't know..I'll find out in a little bit. I'm gonna play it safe and become friends first, so if she turns me down I can still hang out with her. She seems like a cool kid, not one of those pretty preppy girls who are pricks and only talk about makeup and **** like that.
Sparky Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Hey buddy, just let me tell you that I DO know how how hard it is, because I've been in these situations more times than I can count. You're not alone. Well, about this girl..we haven't even talked yet, but I'm gonna talk to her tomorrow cause that's when we have class together.. Reading this proves that you have no f**king clue as to if she likes you or not, not to offend you or anything. It's one of those things you can just tell though, you know? Like, whenever I look up or turn her direction I see her staring at me. There are so many times I've seen her when she thought I wasn't looking too, like there was this guy right behind me and I turned around quickly to ask him a question. Turns out, the girl is sitting in a spot that's a couple feet away, so when I turn around I see her head quickly turn the other way. Kinda hard to explain. Then another time we were doing something I forget, but I was sitting with my group and she was sitting with her group and there was this big dude sitting between the vision of 'her and me'. He starts talking loudly and I turn my head, then I see past the little cracks her eyes staring at me. Aside from that, I see her sometimes in the hallways on the days I don't have her and I noticed she dresses nicer on days she has my class(maybe a coincidence) and sometimes when we've been by each other like waiting for class to be over she kinda scoots close to me. It looks like she's obviously attracted to you, but that doesn't mean she likes you. There's a BIG difference between the two, so don't get your hopes up. I think that Paris Hilton is sexy, so I'm attracted to her, but I think that she's does things for attention and is full of herself, so I don't like her. You Understand? Like I said in some other topics, the only reason I'd believe she wouldn't want to be my gf is because she's just slightly taller than me. I've got a pretty wide base though cause I life weights, so I don't know..I'll find out in a little bit. If you keep thinking this, then I can guarantee you don't stand a snowball's chance in hell with her, and never will. Who gives a s**t that she's taller? If she doesn't like you because you're shorter, or for how you look, then she's a shallow little bitch and doesn't deserve to be with you. It's that simple. You want her to like you for who you are, not what you look like. I'm gonna play it safe and become friends first, so if she turns me down I can still hang out with her. That's the spirit! She seems like a cool kid, not one of those pretty preppy girls who are pricks and only talk about makeup and **** like that. I'm proud of you for liking her for this as well, because it's the most important thing, and that's what women LOVE. No... wait... that's what ANYONE would love. Just remember this... If you wait for good things to come to you, you'll be miserable for the rest of your life. You have to get off your ass and go get it. She's sending you messages that she's attracted to you. Now all that's left is to get her to like you. She's no different than any of your guy-friends (with the exception of being a different gender ), so talk to her as if she were one of them. The only thing you should do differently if make her feel special. This doesn't mean buying her gifts and doing all her work. That would be begging, and that's pretty pathetic. She wants someone who she can go to for help, and who can support her in time of need. Even though she's a woman who looks and thinks slightly different than you, she's still a human being. Treat her how you would like to be treated. Check out this website: http://www.seduction.com, and view all the video proof. You'll find it incredibly interesting. This guy was the reason I am a stronger person.
Author Jizzosh Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 Hey buddy, just let me tell you that I DO know how how hard it is, because I've been in these situations more times than I can count. You're not alone. Thanks, I knew there was someone out there who's been in that situation and could help me. Reading this proves that you have no f**king clue as to if she likes you or not, not to offend you or anything. Yea..guess we'll find out tho It looks like she's obviously attracted to you, but that doesn't mean she likes you. There's a BIG difference between the two, so don't get your hopes up. I think that Paris Hilton is sexy, so I'm attracted to her, but I think that she's does things for attention and is full of herself, so I don't like her. You Understand? Yep, it's all clear. I didn't even look at the difference, stupid me. I think I'm caught up too much in her, I need to kinda chill a little. If things don't go right, I'll just have to move on. Like you said, confidence and courage I'm just wondering though, if she goes out of her way to get close to me or dress nicer, why wouldn't she? Well, maybe not so much the get close but the dress nicely? If you keep thinking this, then I can guarantee you don't stand a snowball's chance in hell with her, and never will. Who gives a s**t that she's taller? If she doesn't like you because you're shorter, or for how you look, then she's a shallow little bitch and doesn't deserve to be with you. It's that simple. You want her to like you for who you are, not what you look like. You're right, thanks I really needed that. A lot. If she cares about what other people think when they see us together, then she really doesn't deserve to be with me. It's about us being happy with each other, not everyone else. That's the spirit! I'm proud of you for liking her for this as well, because it's the most important thing, and that's what women LOVE. No... wait... that's what ANYONE would love. Just remember this... If you wait for good things to come to you, you'll be miserable for the rest of your life. You have to get off your ass and go get it. She's sending you messages that she's attracted to you. Now all that's left is to get her to like you. She's no different than any of your guy-friends (with the exception of being a different gender ), so talk to her as if she were one of them. The only thing you should do differently if make her feel special. This doesn't mean buying her gifts and doing all her work. That would be begging, and that's pretty pathetic. She wants someone who she can go to for help, and who can support her in time of need. Even though she's a woman who looks and thinks slightly different than you, she's still a human being. Treat her how you would like to be treated. Check out this website: www.seduction.com, and view all the video proof. You'll find it incredibly interesting. This guy was the reason I am a stronger person. Thanks for putting time in to actually read this and help me, it means a lot bro. I'll check that site out too.
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