blah06 Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 So, my bf and I split about 6 weeks ago after being together a year and a half. And also after me moving 1000 miles away from home to be with him. I've been nothing but miserable since the break up. I try to make myself go out with friends, but I still can't get him out of my head. For the past 6 weeks I've still been in contact with him. We've sent many emails back and forth during the day, and of course the friends I know here are his friends because I just moved here....so pretty much every time I go out he is there. We've had sex 3 times since the breakup. (bad idea!!) The hardest thing is when we hang out with friends he sometimes acts like "old times". He flirts. And of course all that does is give me false hope of things working out between us. I decided 4 days ago that the only way I was going to move on and get past this is NC, but I'm going crazy. It hurts. And it's hard because I've had to turn down invitations from friends to go out because I know he'll be there. And right now I need my friends most. I need encouragement. I'm tired of crying!
niko1999 Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 It takes time. It always takes time. First off, the thing that is making it harder, is the fact that you are emailing and texting back and forth, its making it worse. YOu should be, at the point of six weeks, starting to see a small little light at the end of the tunnel. Youre not becuase youre sitting there talking to him all the time. YOull never get over him that way. Just some advice.
Josalina Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 u invite the girls out 4 a girlie night out, explain whats going on, i know its hard 4 u right now, but having sex after u have broken up will go one of two ways, he will either use u or realise he still loves you, if u hae 3 times and still nothing, u r being used. my best advise is go out even if it is in groups, make sure u look glam and eben if he is there let him c u being chatted up by other men outside your friends circle, if this don't work, he isn't interested so i'm afraid then is the time to move on. as for nc that is the right thing to do but don't turn down invites go even if his there but make it look like you don't git a toot whether he was there or timbucktoo, u have to be brave and confindent, let him c what his missing, keep yourself looking glam and dont go out of your way to talk to him, if he talks to u, don't be rude talk back but make it known that u r happy and don't need a muck about. if he is still interested with this info he will c sense. take care of you and remember u r never fully dressed without a smile.
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