What do you think this means?

[Guest]

I have been l/w my s/o for 4 years. The first 3 years we had sex almost daily, sometimes 2 per day. The past few months the sex has declined to 2, sometimes 3 per week (with one of those usually being twice in the same day). We have had sex in every position, with the exception of hanging from a chandelier (mainly cause we don't have one) so I am no prude. We watch the occasional porn. The only problem that I can determine (that he has mentioned is he wishes me to be more aggressive).

 

The problem from my POV is when I do try to initiate sex, he is reluctant, and when I do try to be aggressive with the foreplay, he gets impatient and just wants to get down to business. I will define getting down to business the last few months as he wants to immediately get into some version of oral sex, with NO foreplay, other than immediately going for the oral sex. He told me once I didn't know how to act sluttly--he wishes dirty language--apparently, "I wanna suck you c***" or "f***k me" or "Lick my p***) doesn't quality as dirty language. I don't know what the hell he means then. Ok, but the real thing that really bothers me is he doesn't want to kiss me anymore (even during sex). oH i get the perfucntory peck, and occasionally during sex I will get maybe one frenchie, but then he turns his head, or says lets get into 69.

 

I have told him the no kissing bothers me. He will say he is tired or whatever and just wants to get on with it. He wasn't like this at all at first, there was tons of kissing and foreplay etc. I'm confused. Has anyone else got any suggestions by what he means by slutty and why he won't kiss me anymore? He has also grown more cricitical of me in other areas, you know like I don't wash dishes correctly or water plants correctly or its my fault he went off and left his wallet--just stupid ****.

[stillafool]

I hate to ask this but do you think he is having an affair? This sounds like the symptons. Ask him what his idea of slutty talk is?