Guest Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Without going to counselling and/or enrolment in social activities - what in your opinion is the best way to start getting confidence back? How do you start respecting yourself again?
dgiirl Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 pay attention to your internal dialogue and change it from negative to positive. Often we say the cruelest things to ourselves that we'd never say to anyone else.
amaysngrace Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 pay attention to your internal dialogue and change it from negative to positive. Often we say the cruelest things to ourselves that we'd never say to anyone else. Agreed. And the thing that helped me through my divorce was journaling. It really brought about much needed self-awareness and self-acceptance for me. Maybe you should give it a try.
Lor Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 A repeated littany of "I am a good person" will help. Also, doing things for yourself, whether its buying some new clothes a little different than your normal style, getting a haircut, or working out. Eating better and healthy is a good place to start, drinking more water. Its amazing how much these little things make a difference. You have to believe in yourself to rebuild your confidence and self-esteem.
luvtoto Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Set goals for yourself. After each accomplishment, your confidence will increase.
FlyingHigh Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 Keep on moving. You can't knock down a moving target. Do things you wouldn't normally do by yourself. For instance, I went to dinner alone on a Saturday night at a quaint downtown area. Had a great Lebanese meal with a glass of wine out on the sidewalk terrace and watched people. Most single women even men included would opt for take outs. I used to think that Saturday nights are exclusive to date nights. But it was no big deal. Even got to meet the people next to me. Fear of the unknown is what keeps us from doing things. Adopt the famouse Nike slogan....JUST DO IT. What have you got lose? You can't lose something you haven't tried.
ilmw Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Wow.... all the above posts is like a check list... I personally have done all of the above.... and guess what... all these super wonderful people above have... got a clue... Doing these things helps build you up when you have/ feel like you have been topled... you then start doing these things and you start to feel like you are climbing back up that sandhill until you are king/....or queen.. again I have lost weight... changed allot of my cloths/style... took a crazy a*s trip on my own.... taken my self out to dinner/whine...etc.... It works.... It did for me... so I could for you;) ilmw
CryingCanuck Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 I've also done some of those things, especially saying to myself " I'm a good person" hard at times to believe it but eventually you will, especially if you're using a 2X4 across the head helps too. Started bowling Saturday nights,just to get out, not to meet anyone and also making sure I'm doing something at least once a week on my own helps too. I really think though that TIME works best, TIME to find yourself again TIME to heal and TIME to simply like yourself again....... Again, my 2 cents worth.. CC
Spiderman Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Without going to counselling and/or enrolment in social activities - what in your opinion is the best way to start getting confidence back? How do you start respecting yourself again? Join a martial arts club. Can be fun, social and would definitely start to re-instil self confidence and respect for yourself/others.
ilmw Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 Spiddy... I am going to do that too:lmao: :lmao: If this was an exam.... I'd pass with an A+...
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