Guest Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I know this is a horrible word, but I am friends with this guy, he listens to me, is really sweet and he is adorable. I don't think we could ever date (i am sort of clingy and he is independant), but I love spending time with him. I would love a relationship with him with no strings attached. Just meet up every once and a while hang out and possibly have a trist here and there, but that's it. I thought it would work because it give me my fill of emotion and his fill of "whatever". Anyone out there ever tried this?
Jane Doe Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 (i am sort of clingy and he is independant) This is exactly why this is a horrible idea. You'll end up falling for him and when he moves on to something else you'll be crushed.
SmoochieFace Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Booty calls don't work well if one or both parties are 'clingy'. The point of having a booty call is to have sex with no commitment, no strings attached, etc. Clinginess isn't a part of those.
amaysngrace Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I thought it would work because it give me my fill of emotion and his fill of "whatever". Don't expect having your emotions fulfilled by a F**k Buddy. It just ain't gonna happen. The beauty of this kind of relationship is no strings attached, and all that it implies. Sex, sex and more sex. That's about all you can expect from it. Of course in your case, if you can do this, you will successfully overcome your 'clingy traits'.
l2hvn Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Almost always, in booty calls, there's going to be one person who will want more at some point.
chill chic Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 I know this is a horrible word, but I am friends with this guy, he listens to me, is really sweet and he is adorable. I don't think we could ever date (i am sort of clingy and he is independant), but I love spending time with him. I would love a relationship with him with no strings attached. Just meet up every once and a while hang out and possibly have a trist here and there, but that's it. I thought it would work because it give me my fill of emotion and his fill of "whatever". Anyone out there ever tried this? just read all the posts/threads I've ever written about my booty call guy...you'll get the idea...nothin' but drama vi_pn_babe25
quietintrovertgirl Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 Finally the truth about casual sex.
Island Girl Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 I thought it would work because it give me my fill of emotion and his fill of "whatever". You will NOT get your fill of emotion. There IS no emotion. He will get his fill of whatever. You get used in the process. And any respect he now has for you will be gone in an instant. BAD IDEA. I really wish you'd talk to someone about self-esteem. I mean a professional. Becasue if you are entertining this idea you really need to work on yours. You are looking for emotional fulfillment but you are really going about it the wrong way.
Cherokee21 Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 Yes, I've had good ones and bad ones. I made the mistake once of believing that I could get over my boyfriend, and be emotionally fufilled by just f*cking some guy and talking with him about my life sometimes too. It turned out that I became attached because I was a) waaay too emotional, b) having sex with him, and c) dishing out my life story! I set myself up. Once I told him I had feelings for him, he started ignoring me and broke my heart. You're already having sex with him. He has nothing to "work" for anymore. So you either have to understand that you can never, ever be together or that maybe a booty call isn't right for you. You could have a friends/lovers relationship with him, and possibly still not develop feelings for him. As long as you know what you want, and you can maintain good communication... I don't see why it couldn't work. But if you think that you might be developing feelings for him, I'd say run! Its not worth the heartache, trust me.
Island Girl Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 Booty Calls NEVER work for the girl. Never. It always ends and usually badly. The guys perspective is he is using you. That is just how guys are. Girls that let themselves be Booty Calls are sacrificing their dignity and self respect. If you think the guy is even your friend you're delusional. As far as sex without a relationship, the second you sleep with a man it is over with for him. You mean absolutely nothing. Sure he'll ride it out as long as he wants to have sex with you but after the first time - to a guy - that is really all it is about. Men and women have basic differences when it comes to sex. Booty Calls are great for the guy. Not good for the girl, we just aren't wired that way.
Green Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 The fact that you used the crude term booty call instead of casual sex shows that maybe you already know this is a bad idea. He's only going to call you for sex if you start doing this and then leave the second he's done. But go ahead see for your self how exciting getting called at 3:00 am in the morning by a posibly drunk and sweaty guy who has been trying to score with other chicks that night but has decided to settle for you is. Best of Luck with what ever happens
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