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Calling guys, how much is too much?


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Ok, So I went to my (guy) friend's apt and we talked for about an hour we talked deeply about our lives and stuff, we had a really good time together and I can tell he likes me. But he made a comment about how once girls start calling him all the time, it over. I tend to be that kind of girl. I want to talk all the time and share stories about my day. He isn't that kind of guy and I don'y want to freak him out by being overbearing. I got worried, when after we left each other tonight I called him (he said he is very honest and he is) He answered the phone, "how did I know you were going to call?"

 

I said "what do you mean?" and he said "you always call me right after we leave one another" I apologized and said I didn't want to be "that girl" and he said "that's OK" But he is not the codependant type and I don't want to be overbearing. We will see each other again with friends in a week, so should I wait for then to give him space or should I call before then? I want to find a good balance so he knows I am interested but not overbearing.

 

Thanks

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Is he a "phone person" or does he rather talk in person?

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He secretly likes it, but he's probably had a past relationship where he spent many hours talking and the relationship ended sourly.

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He knows you are interested. From your comment about not being 'that girl' he knows. - Even if he didn't know I can tell you he is the kind of guy that if interested he acts on it. That is why he doesn't like clingy desperate women.

 

You are going to see him later in the week. Don't call. Leave him thinking is she going to? And then not.

 

He has already told you that a girl chasing him and making it too easy for him, it is over.

 

Guys generally stick with the girl that isn't too available and doesn't make it too easy. They like to chase, so let them.

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who knows whats going through his head its probably a bad idea to call

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We will see each other again with friends in a week, so should I wait for then to give him space or should I call before then?

wait until he calls you. men like a challenge (as do women)

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