Guest Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I am married with children. I have been very close friends with an older married man for about a year. We have flirted, but mostly just talk. Recently, we admitted to one another that we both want more from each other. I am consumed with these thoughts now. I don't sleep, I don't eat, I don't think about anything else except what it would be like to be intimate with this man! I want this very much, but I am cautious. I don't want to lose what we have. This man is very important to me and I don't want to destroy a friendship. I am already confused as to whether or not we are already having an emotional affair - is there such a thing? Now, I am trying not to complicate it more, but it is so difficult. I am so confused, excited, scared, sad, happy, etc..........
Rooster_DAR Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Ugggh!!! Stop before it's too late. Alot of people are going to get hurt.
Meaplus3 Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I am married with children. I have been very close friends with an older married man for about a year. We have flirted, but mostly just talk. Recently, we admitted to one another that we both want more from each other. I am consumed with these thoughts now. I don't sleep, I don't eat, I don't think about anything else except what it would be like to be intimate with this man! I want this very much, but I am cautious. I don't want to lose what we have. This man is very important to me and I don't want to destroy a friendship. I am already confused as to whether or not we are already having an emotional affair - is there such a thing? Now, I am trying not to complicate it more, but it is so difficult. I am so confused, excited, scared, sad, happy, etc.......... It' is VERY easy to be consumed by thought's of being with MM. The same thing has happened to me and I can tell you that if you continue to let yourself be consumed by thoughts of him YOU WILL end up sooooo VERY hurt by this! Ask yourself what good will come from this? I think you will find the answer to be NONE! I feel your pain! Good Luck and PLEASE move on! AP:)
whichwayisup Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Right now you're in the midst of an emotional affair. Really think about what life will be like if you get even more involved...Go read more threads by OW who've posted here, then go read some threads in the infidelity section about how betrayed spouses feel about their cheating husbands/wives. Are YOU sure you want to be involved, and be part of a big lie? One that will hurt so many people, just so you can feel good? To be with a man who isn't yours to begin with??? Let alone your own husband and children. Imagine your life without them in it. Or limited time spent with your children. Is being selfish and only thinking of yourself worth sacrificing your whole family???
Sup Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Why do you want to hurt your husband? If you do this you WILL hurt him. You hubby is most likely to find out about this. What would you feel if your husband did this to you? What would you do?
michelleryan Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 Oh good lord, please don't go there. At least ask for a divorce beforehand before you outright deceive your husband. Divorce is much more settling than adultery.
norajane Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 This man is very important to me and I don't want to destroy a friendship. But you do want to destroy your husband, your marriage, his wife and his marriage?
outofdarkness Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 I am married with children. I have been very close friends with an older married man for about a year. We have flirted, but mostly just talk. Recently, we admitted to one another that we both want more from each other. I am consumed with these thoughts now. I don't sleep, I don't eat, I don't think about anything else except what it would be like to be intimate with this man! I want this very much, but I am cautious. I don't want to lose what we have. This man is very important to me and I don't want to destroy a friendship. I am already confused as to whether or not we are already having an emotional affair - is there such a thing? Now, I am trying not to complicate it more, but it is so difficult. I am so confused, excited, scared, sad, happy, etc.......... i agree with all of the other posters...As the W of a cheater, I can tell you that you and your MM will destroy lives, your own included. Nothing will come of it in the end, and you will be left heartbroken and betrayed, as will the W...You just won't receive the respect or recognition that she will...Let it go...Let HIM go..and move on with your life. If you are unhappy in your own marriage, seek MC or even IC...Anything to sort through some of the feelings you're having so you don't go all the way with this. By the way, an emotional affair can cause much hurt and destruction too...It really hurts to know that your spouse has been confiding their innermost thoughts/feelings in another W/M...To me, this betrayal was just as damaging as the physical part. Good luck and God Bless!
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