Teenie Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 ok. So I've liked this guy for 4 years now. But the time that I've known him he was with this girl for 6 1/2 years before him and I finally got together this past May. Well, we were doing GREAT right? And totally in love and always telling each other that we loved one another. And than suddenly, just a month and a half ago, he goes and has sex w/ his ex girlfriend while him and I are still together. Well. He came to me about this right away and explained to me that he didn't know why he did it. it just happened. And so I gave him a second chance and told him that if he's willing to work in this relationship than I am. And he's never been on that side of the situation b4. It's always been his ex, who is a completely manipulative, mind f*ck and will stab anyone in the back to get what she wants. And just treated him like trash and I'm pretty sure messed him up in the head. Well. Anyways, after all this happened, things between him and I started going down hill and he's just seemed disinterested in me anymore. We stayed together for another month and half after the situation and just this past Monday, he broke up w/ me because "he needs time to think." and "I was just rebound." Well I asked him how long he needs and he said "could be a week, could be a month, could be longer" and what else I don't get is, how could he get so mad when he thinks I'm cheating on him, or he thinks other guys are hitting on me? I personally think he DOES care for me, otherwise he wouldn't get so angry and possessive. I just need help on this situation. I love him to death and just don't want him to leave me. Any input would be greatly appreciated and sorry this is so long.
buzzie2 Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Sorry Sweetie; I tell it like I see it. It's obvious that this guy is still in love with his ex gf. He wouldn't still be sleeping with her otherwise. If he was totally in love with you and really over his ex he would NOT still be hanging out with or sleeping with her not matter what he's told you. He says she's "manipulative"? Oh please give me an absolutely fricken break. He's just saying these things about her to get you and everyone else to believe that it's all her fault. He's not going to leave her to be with you; if he leaves it's going to be a temporary deal. You don't need this. Find a guy that's emotionally available who's not still with his ex gf on the side. And here's another thought to pounder: Once a cheater; always a cheater. He can do it to you again too. Move on Sweetheart. This guys has too many issues. Find a nice available guy- there are lots out there.
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