Guest Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Hi a few weeks ago I met a girl in a club, got her number, e.t.c so texted her the next day and we sent about 3 or 4 messages to each other in about the 3rd text I said maybe we could meet up and she replied with well i'm busy this week because i'm going back to uni on friday (Which did all work out it was when uni started back up again so its not as if she was making it up) she went on in the message and said "I can text you when i' back though" so I sent her a message saying something like yeah ok, text me when your back, have a good time, blah blah blah...anyway I havn't sent her any texts since and she hasn't sent me any texts since, so was this just a kind way of saying she doesn't want to meet up although on the other hand I think if thats the case why did she give me her number in the first place, and reply to my texts so that makes me kind of think she's intrested... Anyway thats one question I want people to try and answer for me lol. Also its a few weeks since all that happened so should I now think about sending her a text sort of asking how she is, and then may be asking when she is back from uni next?! I'm thinking if I send a message now she might think i'm abit pushy but at the same time if I leave it she might think i'm not that bothered... Cheers for any views/answers/replys in advance! Matt.
bluechocolate Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Also its a few weeks since all that happened so should I now think about sending her a text sort of asking how she is, and then may be asking when she is back from uni next?! I'm thinking if I send a message now she might think i'm abit pushy but at the same time if I leave it she might think i'm not that bothered... If she thinks that one text message a few weeks later is a bit pushy then she has real issues! It wouldn't be pushy. Just text her, keep it light & breezy (like what you said above) & wait to see what happens, if anything. Who dares wins.
Cheshire Cat Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I'm thinking if I send a message now she might think i'm abit pushy If she decides you're too pushy because of a single message after a few weeks, it's her problem, not yours. Text away, ask how she is doing. (I'd wait to ask her when she'll be back from uni until she replies - but that's just me)
gfto Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 so was this just a kind way of saying she doesn't want to meet up Yes. If she was interested in you, she would have made sure she met up with you before she went back.
Art_Critic Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 You might try and pick up the phone and talk to her instead of texting her.. Verbal communication works wonders for getting a date. Something tells me that when she gave you her number it was so you could call her and she could speak with you. Although I could be wrong...
alphamale Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 she's blowing you off buddy. find someone else.
Yamaha Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 If she was interested she would have gave you a specific time she wanted to meet up with you. She would not be vague and leave you hanging. Women give numbers even though their not interested. They think their sparing your feelings.
alphamale Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Women give numbers even though their not interested. They think their sparing your feelings. I met this chick Sarah a few months ago. She was quite pleasant and a elementary school teacher by trade. I chatted her up, she asked me to dance, we flirted. I asked for and got her number. Called her about a week later and left a msg. She called me back next day and left a msg that she's going out of town for a few weeks (this was in summer so she was off). So I called her again two weeks ago figuring she's back. Left message for her to call me. Nothing. Good thing I was scamming on multiple women simultaneously.
Yamaha Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Good thing I was scamming on multiple women simultaneously. It's a numbers game, Alpha. I can usually know when a gal is giving me the slip but every once in a while a gal I'm into will broadside me because my brain was clouded by the conquest. Keeps life interesting.
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