sweetheart21 Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Hi everyone! I was dating a guy named Tom but for different reasons it didnt work out.. even though I still have a big crush on him! We decided to be friends and he invited me to a party. He introduced me to a guy he knows called Dave.. me & Dave got along really well and ended up hanging out all night. We got a bit drunk and kissed too. Then he invited me to his house to watch DVDs the next day. I went but I felt kind of weird because I still had such a big crush on Tom. So when he tried to hold my hand or something I kind of got all funny about it. After I left he sent me a txt message saying "Thanks for coming over. If you want to just be friends thats cool with me I would like that. I'm just a little confused as to whether you want more though?" Then I wrote something back like "yeah I think it would be cool if we could just be friends." But now I regret saying that! So one morning a few days later I asked if he wanted to come over and watch DVDs at my place. He didnt answer so I called him later that night.. no answer.. so I sent him a message saying "Aw Dave r u mad at me? I'm sorry if I upset u sweetie! :)" .. no answer. Then the next day he sent one back saying "sorry I left my phone at work yesterday... I'm not sure if I can come over tonight I might have to see my dad" So I sent one back a few hours later saying "Hey thats cool.. If your seeing ur dad tonight we can do something another time :)" But I havent heard anything back from him. I feel like an idiot txting and calling him 3 times in that one day!! Do you think I went a bit over board?? Have I totally blown my chance to see him again? Is there anyway I could date him now? I cant tell if he would be interested in seeing me again or not. What do you guys think??
moman Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Relax, you didn't blow anything. He is being coy because of what you said about being friends. If you want him you better work for it. If I was in his shoes, I'd probably make you call and text me for a week or two before I'd consider coming over.
Author sweetheart21 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 I guess so.. but i'm worried that if I call him or txt him again he might get scared off.. because I might come across as desperate. Do u think i should anyway? Or wait and see if he contacts me?
rina_r Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I ll tell you this: i personally am against resolving such questions through texting - too much is left unsaid and you lack all the non-verbal signs. Why didnt/dont you call him and talk on the phone?
moman Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I prefer a text message to a call, but that's just me. What does that guy prefer? I would do one or the other, but not both. If someone texts me and then calls, I kind of think they are nuts. But a text message is a sure way to get the point across without the agony of a phone call. Don't wait on him to contact you. If I were him I would specifically NOT contact you for a week or so just to make you wonder since what you said was kind of out of line to him.
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