susiw2007 Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 first that at all, I want to request your excuses if I cannot express me with clarity, but the english is not my native language. I have been married for 4 years. When my husband and i were dating, he lived hear in USA and i lived out of the country. when we got married i moved to usa with him but i live in one city, and he lived 2 hours for home ( only during the week ) for one year. one year later i was cheking my email and for error i opened his. 6 months early he had a course out of the city for 3 days and i could not go. I read and email ( which was dating 6 months ago) that he was inviting one coworker form the office ( 2 hours form my home) to the course with him, additionally he said THAT THIS IS A PERFERCT OPORTUNITY BECASUSE IF I do no this now i will not do this later ( becouse OF ME ). she answer that she could not go. i wanted to die. i want to say that i never had a doubt about him no rares phone call, he did not came home after hours he did not changed his behavior. i always each 2 week spent time ( one week ) in his apartment out of the city and i met all his coworker except his women friend. I conforted him an and he told me that nothing happen she was only a friend thar he had like little game words with her he wanted that i forgive him. according to him he loves me bla bla blaaaa.................. i was very angry, but i pardon him, and i do not have anything what to say about his behavior since then. but i am scare that he lied to me and the thrue is he was cheated on me that is no bad but my problem is he can do it again. please what do you thin about it
whichwayisup Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 well it seems she refused him when he asked if she was interested. Though that still means he's pursuing women while being married to you. Tell him that he has to go to marriage counselling and fix the marriage. Obviously he's unhappy. This could be a good thing as it will get you two talking, and together you can make sure BOTH of you are happy, getting all your needs met. How is the marriage in general? Do you two fight? Does he treat you well? Do you two have children?
Author susiw2007 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 thanks for anwser. i do not have children and expect with this detail ( the e mail ) i do not have any big problems with him. he is always in home and we go out frecuently but this e mail is killing me
whichwayisup Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Then continue to talk to him about this. Let him know that he can't keep intouch with other women like that, desiring them, flirting with them, while he's married to you. How long have you two been married? Because if he doesn't change his behaviour and stop what he's doing, could you consider leaving him? Would he go to marriage counseling with you?
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