Kyo Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Well, i've got past the part of talking to girls, but my problem is how to keep the conversation...i feel like i'm hella borning which i probaby really am. anway it seems that i keep asking them questiont too fast and i should stop but if i don't there be a big slience between us..i can't seem to know how to keep the conversation up.. my belief that talking to more girls might give me more experience but without the right way of talking i don't think experience can help me. i know that being funny is a good thing..but when i talk to a girl i get to nevous..can't i get a girls's view on this? any tips anyone?
Guest Posted September 30, 2006 Posted September 30, 2006 sounds if you can have a conversation.. maybe theyre just boring?
Author Kyo Posted October 2, 2006 Author Posted October 2, 2006 i don't no...lol maybe i just pick the borning girls to talk to..i don't no..anway u got any tips on keeping a conversation?
Jizzosh Posted October 2, 2006 Posted October 2, 2006 No..you're dictating the pace of the conversation. Here's all the guy's job is. Let's say you went up to a girl you never knew. Get her comfortable talking to you, so become her friend. This isn't gonna happen instantly obviously. Just be sure to make the first conversation short, get to know her a little and show off a little of what you're all about. Basically, spark an interest in her. Next time you see her say your little hi, ask her about her day and then get to know her a little better. This is when it gets easy. I don't have many girl friends, but they can talk, and talk, and talk, and talk... So naturally, you're going to want them to talk. Ask them about one of their interests and act interested in it. So casually throw in 'so what do you like doing when you're bored', and then go really? Sounds cool, what's it like or whatever. I can't give you specifics cause different hobbies require different questions. Just ask a question that gets her talking more about that and pitch in a question every now and then to keep her talking about that. After that first time she opens herself up to you she'll feel a lot more comfortable opening up to you again and you can pretty much open up to her too. Just don't make the mistake of talking about yourself first, you've gotta act interested in her cause you're the guy.
Author Kyo Posted October 3, 2006 Author Posted October 3, 2006 lol..yea i trying to get to the phase of the relaationship where the girl talks, and talks, and talks..i think the thing i doing wrong is asking too many question when i first meet someone new.
JCD Posted October 3, 2006 Posted October 3, 2006 It's also ok to take a breather and both of you not say anything. Gives you a time to think what to say next. I have a girl friend at work and she and I both make the conversation flowing. When it's going one way, mainly you doing all the talking then it isn't fun and you should look for new people to talk to. There are some girls that are hard to talk to so get used to that. I think your first or two girls will make you anxious and self aware but after that as you get more practice you will know what to talk about since you've done it before. It's the same thing again just with a different girl. You can talk about anything and most girls won't mind. I think it's all about opening up yourself and then the anxiety goes away as you don't feel awkward around her and can say what's on your mind without being judged.
Author Kyo Posted October 4, 2006 Author Posted October 4, 2006 I'm still not sure how to act interested because..girls are..well i do listen to the girl when she talks but sometimes i don't no how to response to her..like when she tells me about something..i just nod and agree and say "yes" and "yea" are there special words i should no about? and when a girl makes a joke..and i don't think it's funny should i laugh at it? i mean should i not say anything or do a fake laugh?
Author Kyo Posted October 5, 2006 Author Posted October 5, 2006 how do you tell if a girl is not interested into you? i mean like dating like. can u tell if a girl just don't like u in that sense of a relationship? [dating] but they be nice like and friends, and thats normal right?
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