JamesM Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I found this on my computer. It was a compilation of some posts that I found on a message board at the end of last year. This was when I was going through my "wake up" period. The following comments were made in answer to the question.."How much do you spend on the hobby in a year?" The hobby refers to escorts, massage parlors, strip clubs, etc. (When the number is followed by a K, this is thousands of dollars. Two $$ means one hundred dollars. SP means escort). And for the record, no, I am not one of these men, have never been, and know that I will never be. This was one of those things that brought me to this board. Read this and wakup. The majority of these men are married or committed. Notice how many lead a secret life. Women, keep your own eyes open. VINCEME How much is your monthly hobby budget. What is normal? I average about $1,200 per month. Average 4 appointments. $2-2.5 ea. and I treat myself to duos frequently. Mostly out of state, but I am planning to change this. Found a set of sweetheart sisters that I enjoy. Maybe I need professional help!! One month hit $1,700. Just curious to see if I am out of line with the norm. ALLRIGHTGUY Wow, you need professional help! Cheesy I try to keep mine between 500 and 750 per month. FULLMOON Probably around $4000 yearly. I will spend $200 to $250 for the right "date" and have had a few over the years that were quite pricey, one a porn star in California that was quite popular and I do fantasize about our date whenever I see her do an interview on tv or see her performance on a dvd, but it did kill my budget for about 3-4 months. Best value in my travels is Ontario, CA, from Windsor to Niagara Falls, but avoid the upsell in Toronto. In the states, mid-south from the Carolina's to Kentucky is the best value. Florida is nice, but I don't believe you can experience the true GFE "date" there. Arizona sucks and for the most part, California is pretty pricey. Stay clear of Vegas...disease and a lot of upsell around the strip and brothels are definitely over priced. I get to Detroit about 18 times annually and party maybe every other time. I never party at home, except with the SO and at our ages, (early 50's), not as often as I wish. All in all, I consider the value in Detroit to be quite good. Jim It's all good!!! RALPHIE1 on a good month it can run $1500, but i try to hold those good months down. lol every once in a while the stars line up, work is good, and everything just works and i go a little crazy for a while. then, back to work. pace yourself my boy, pace youself. HRA1 I figure that I'm pretty cheap..........I'm getting by spending about 650/mn, seeing 2.24 SP's. (Information taken over the last 4 months I've been back in the hobby). Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately Grin, I'm seeing more ladies, sooner, as time goes by, so I expect that I may have to start watching my budget. Being "downsized" 4 times over the last 15 years has kept me rather low in $. I had a higher yearly earning thirty years ago, before I "moved up" in the companies I've worked for. I saved up while I was off field for close to 20 years. After I reavaulated my life in 1999, I decided to go out with a smile on my face. So when the doc said I could go out and play again this year, I took him up on it. My friend builds & collects trains that you can ride on. A single engine costs a minimum of $50K. This hobby is darn cheap compared to his. JUICY LIPS I don't know anymore. I'm down 87% in appointment total. Last year it was over 45$. There's no budgetary limit, but a time limitation instead. I'm jealous of the guys here that are doing what I used to do. Keep on stroking fellas. SLAPOFSTERLING No such thing as a hobby budget any longer. Two kids in college and another one on the way at the end of this school year precludes me from participating as I would like. I now have to squirrel away whatever I can so it is not noticed until I have enough for one day of fun. When I could participate more freely I would try to see one to two ladies a month. Probably averaged about $4K a year for the first couple of years in the hobby. My question is, what the hell does everyone do for a living that spends the type of money being mentioned? I obviously chose the wrong profession to have a large amount of discretionary funds. HORSEFEATHERS My question, too! I am lucky to do 1-2 appts per month. Any job openings where you lucky SOB's work? MOJOMAN Budget? What's that? I just look to see if I have enough in the cookie jar. lol Seriously, I spend about $150 to $250 in a typical month, and that includes hobby related expenses, not just the lady's rate. JUSTAL I don't really keep track, but I think it was probably between 12 and 15K each in 2003 and 2004 including numerous trips to Vegas and Florida each of those years with lovely (escort) ladies. This year it has been much less, partially because of time constraints, but mostly due to a severe, unexpected business hit that has eliminated about 70K of annual income. Don't know what to expect for this year. I have a few new irons in the fire on the business front, but hobby activity will be severely curtailed until I see how they pan out. Fortunately I have been able to squeeze in one more Vegas trip that is set for this spring with one of my absolute ATF's. I hope it is not my farewell. VAJUXO I tend to have between 12 and 18 visits a year. about 1/2 to 2/3 are lovelies from the board. the remainder are typically visists to a parlor now and again or something out of town. I seem to average about $210 per visit from the board lovelies and about $175 for the others. If you said $$ per, that would be between $2,500 and $3,500 or thereabouts. Add in the occasasional increase for a duo, extended stay and tips, I am in the $4,000 range. DAVE2 Personally I have decided to stop seeing anyone new and only setting up appointments with the ones I have seen before. Its working out good, my ATF visits me every 3-4 weeks, and about every other month I see a lady who visits from out of town. I honestly wish I could just find a decent girl friend and get out of the hobby. Its not a matter of the money, I just want to find someone I can do things with all the time like go out to dinner and catch a movie. JIMMYOSB I hear you buddy! I always wondered if the hobby hurts that pursuit... for a girlfriend... The hobby is too damn easy... I spent about 2k... but I'm cutting way back in 2006.. DIMEDANCE between strip clubs and sp.s and massages at least 3 to 4k per month, the strip clubs are a tax write off. now if i can only find a sp that will take a credit card i will write that off as well. SIDNEY It used to be around 1K per month, last several months approaching 2K per month. Im trying to pick up the pace realizing that im nearer the end of the road then the beginning.
Mz. Pixie Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 What the hell?????????????? :eek: :sick: :sick: I think these guys are delusional, seriously. Where does one find a board like that and what the hell were you doing there??? Sounds like a bunch of liars to me. Where are these wives who have no knowledge of their mens' income??? I'd like to meet them, truly I would- because all of the women I know manage the money in the household. In sharing an account with my spouse- and with his paycheck being direct deposited- my H could never spend even $200.00 a month on "the hobby" without me being suspicious of where it went. James do you think reading some of this crap that these guys posted might have made you even more unhappy with the amount of sex in your marriage?? Because it seems to me all they are talking about is "hitting it" and that could leave one with the impression that everyone is getting more *ss than you are.
grateful Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I think these guys are delusional, seriously. no kidding - - my favorite part was the use of the word "ladies" c'mon now!
bluechocolate Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Where does one find a board like that and what the hell were you doing there??? More to the point perhaps - (not directed at you Mz. Pix) what concern is it of yours, or any of us for that matter, what some men on some website say they do with their time & money? In the space of 5 minutes on this computer I could probably dredge up a whole host of horrible things that are happening to men, perpetrated by women, who are in committed relationships. But what would be the point of that? There's enough misery right here!
a4a Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Well this is like any hobby board isn't it? Sailing discussion boards - all about boats and places to sail. Maybe these guys don't get any at home and appears one guy is single. James why are you looking at these boards?
catgirl1927 Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I like how the word men is in quotes in the title. Hehe.
Guest Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Some people have a lot of extra money to "blow" Seriously though, I'm sure there are plenty of marriages where the guy is wealthy and the wife couldn't care less about finances or the husbands wherabouts as long as she has her pocket money. (and maybe a nice cabana boy) Is it that far-fetched really? Prostitutes have to make all that money from someone.
Jana Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 My SO (3 months before he met me) spent $10,000 on a 5 day trip to an Escort Resort in The dominican republic. They are called companions. When he told me this I could not believe it. I thought that was way too much for some strange P**** let alone the thought of going. he was single at the time so I guess guys do that. (What a lame excuse, if that is ever thrown in my face I would not argue I would just leave knowing you can not argue with ignorance) Now that we are together he will not be doing that any more. I often wonder if he is going to strip clubs on his business trips though. We have had out talks about it and my opininion is that I just don't intend to be with a man who wants naked chicks propositioning him. If he wants/needs it fine but I won't be around if he does. If I ever found out he was going to a strip club I would leave him. I am a very attractive woman with a great bod to match. any man would be happy to have me. I am not insecure or jealous because I have this attitude towards strippers. I just don't want it in my life. Its my choice. They are very seedy and low class no matter what type of atmosphere they are in.
a4a Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 My SO (3 months before he met me) spent $10,000 on a 5 day trip to an Escort Resort in The dominican republic. They are called companions. . OMG this explains why a guy I know that could not attract a toothless bearded woman from a side show; took a family pack of condoms with him on his trip there...... :lmao: Now he seems even more pathetic to me. I will have to ask him about "services" available in D.R.
Author JamesM Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 I think these guys are delusional, seriously. Where does one find a board like that and what the hell were you doing there??? No, I don't think they are all delusional regarding the money spent. And yes, I wondered why i was there as well. The "Google anything" works wonders...that is how I stumbled across it. What it did do was wake me up to the pathetic reactions some men have to a marriage that is or isn't up to their standards. From my reading, I discovered that many of these men are not only married, but they have "good" rationalizations as to why they deserve to be in the hobby...as they call it. Sounds like a bunch of liars to me. Where are these wives who have no knowledge of their mens' income??? I'd like to meet them, truly I would- because all of the women I know manage the money in the household. These men have intricate ways to "squirrel" away money. There were threads that gave ways to do so. There were also threads that explained how to keep the hobby a secret. Truthfully. it was scary. In sharing an account with my spouse- and with his paycheck being direct deposited- my H could never spend even $200.00 a month on "the hobby" without me being suspicious of where it went. Good. That is the way it should be. However, if you read some of these guys' statements, they would put away ten or twenty dollars at a time not two hundred. James do you think reading some of this crap that these guys posted might have made you even more unhappy with the amount of sex in your marriage?? Because it seems to me all they are talking about is "hitting it" and that could leave one with the impression that everyone is getting more *ss than you are. Maybe. But these guys could only get this if they paid for it. This was the eye opener for me. Notice that even some of the single guys wondered if it kept them from getting a girlfriend. The kind of *ss that they were/are getting wasn't what I wanted anyhow, because I cannot fantasize that well. None wanted affairs...in fact, many explained how this hobby was better for their marriage than an affair. My main reason for posting this was because recently some women have just discovered that their husbands have been going to strip clubs etc. and spending money without their knowledge. I wanted to show that this can be a bigger problem than some women want to believe. There were thousands of members on this Board mentioned above. Many of them were the escorts, many were just lurking, but if I read correctly, yes, many married men also were big participants in the hobby. More to the point perhaps - (not directed at you Mz. Pix) what concern is it of yours, or any of us for that matter, what some men on some website say they do with their time & money? Are we so delusional to believe that this is not something that isn't going to affect someone's bf or husband here? Sadly enough, many of these men DID have wives of many, many years. And these wives could not have had any clue of the extent that these men cheated on them. Older men of fifty and sixty posted "reviews" of their experiences. What they are doing with their time and money affects their family. And women here may have a husband who does such a hobby. I agree there is alot of misery here, but there is so much more. There is a community of people who have a good common goal...the building up of family, marriage, and relationships. If my thread could at least "out" one such man who enjoys the secret life of prostitutes and brings honesty and restoration to somebody's life, then good. This Board and its attitude made me angry enough to find a way to solve my marriage problems last Novemeber...so I guess it did serve some good already.
Jana Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 OMG this explains why a guy I know that could not attract a toothless bearded woman from a side show; took a family pack of condoms with him on his trip there...... :lmao: Now he seems even more pathetic to me. I will have to ask him about "services" available in D.R. Ask him about the Vikins Resort in the D.R. and watch his facial expression. Strippers/Escorts are low class no matter what atmosphere you put them in . be it the south pacifc beaches or a club. same seedy style.
Jana Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Ask him about the Vikins Resort in the D.R. and watch his facial expression. Strippers/Escorts are low class no matter what atmosphere you put them in . be it the south pacifc beaches or a club. same seedy style. If you want to know what goes on inside the club go to: striperweb.com it gives a very explicit description of what goes on inside strip clubs. there is a pink side and a blue side. Pink is for strippers and Blue is for customers. Customers do not want air dances they want contact dances. don' ever believe your man if he says "They only give air dances" that is bs. Most every stripper has there price and if they don't give extras some other girl in the club will. Just change nake chicks that is all.
Jana Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Ask him about the Vikins Resort in the D.R. and watch his facial expression. Strippers/Escorts are low class no matter what atmosphere you put them in . be it the south pacifc beaches or a club. same seedy style. That was Vikings Resort Sorry
lasan Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Apparently I am in the wrong proffession! Of course it might be a little low pay for the occupational hazards, Stds, being arrested, getting the pimp hand when I don't make enough money..... On a more serious note, I cannot imagine spending this sort of cash for sex.
Mz. Pixie Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 We must be talking about very wealthy men! Where my husband works nights some of the women come in there that are like this- or basically they will whore themselves out to be kept up in the "style to which" and the like. It's just disgusting- all of them swarming over these rich guys. So I guess in some ways it's prostitution too- wanting to be some rich guys mistress. Just goes back to what i said about how some men will give up everything they have- their homes, their families, their positions and their status for just the right sex partner. I've seen it happen to even members of clergy! As far as the woman who's partner spent a week with some escorts at a resort?? My dad was in the Korean Conflict and while he was there he did that for several weeks. That was YEARS ago, so I guess it's been going on for as long as time.
a4a Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 On a more serious note, I cannot imagine spending this sort of cash for sex. For some spending it and bragging about it is half the fun. Wonder if there is some form of power that comes from paying a person to have sex with you? I have a friend that pays for BJ's from strippers on occassion and may even treat his buddies to one. For him he feels like the "big man" who can attain such services I guess?
lasan Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I don't think a guy coming up to me and saying "Hey guess what, I paid a hooker 1500 this month to have sex with me" would impress me much. And I would be insulted if someone offered to buy me sexual services LOL. I can see what you are saying though. The question is, Why pay for it when so many people are willing to do it for free? Ever been in a yahoo chat room? They should rename them Yahoo hook up rooms.
blind_otter Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I can see what you are saying though. The question is, Why pay for it when so many people are willing to do it for free? Ever been in a yahoo chat room? They should rename them Yahoo hook up rooms. I would venture to guess that the willingness to engage in sexual acts that are largely considered deviant, or the level of technique and expertise. And it's up front. Payment for services rendered doesn't involve any extraneous emotional issues to dance around.
a4a Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I don't think a guy coming up to me and saying "Hey guess what, I paid a hooker 1500 this month to have sex with me" would impress me much. And I would be insulted if someone offered to buy me sexual services LOL. I can see what you are saying though. The question is, Why pay for it when so many people are willing to do it for free? Ever been in a yahoo chat room? They should rename them Yahoo hook up rooms. It is obvious here on LS that many a man is not sexually satisfied at home. Getting laid and paying for it could be a sport of sorts to these men. Two dudes chatting about strip joints: Glen I just paid a hot whore $500 to suck me off in a booth, man she was good. Tits were outstanding on her. Well worth the $500 ..... and hell I am loaded so it's only money.... next time go with me I will treat buddy! - oh dude, way to go!
lasan Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Good point a4a (Still kind of lame though, whatever happened to playing basketball for sport? lol)
a4a Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 If you think about the thought and time put into it- to make an appt. and be looking forward to it. It probably almost feels like a first date and thrill to them but they know they will score (conquer)......but the thrill of anticipation must be a real good feeling....... hours or even days of fantasy for them. Heightened sexual excitement for days even waiting to do the act.
CrushedOrgans Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 i love how they call it "the hobby". like a secret code. if there is nothing wrong with it (to them), why not call it what it is? must be some shame in there somewhere. the hobby. lame. makes sense to me though, some of those guys sound like they couldn't get laid getting of a plane in hawaii...even the married ones.
lasan Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I understand about the heightened sexual excitement. It's something new, dangerous, exciting. But I am pretty sure that handing out a couple hundred bucks would put a damper on my mood real quick. Namely because I would have blown my house payment for a quick lay. I understand these Men obviously don't have themoney issue, if they can spend 1500 a month on hookers I suspect they are bringing in a serious chuck of change for income. If I were to be a person who was interested in that kind of sport, I would be more interested in trying to get laid with my own charm. 50 year old dude throwing a couple thousand for some young good looking hooker, not impressive. 50 year old man getting laid because he's got that swerve, slightly more impressive but not really, Get a new hobby! lol.
stoopid_guy Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Hmmm... cheaper than a wife... (Sound of stoopid_guy running for cover!!!)
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