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lovestricken New Member

lovestricken

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Recently my girlfriend and I have broken up (I think). She moved in with a good friend of ours and seems to be doing ok. The reason for the break up was because her and I went out and got totaly trashed. When we got home we were starting to make love and she seemed as she was getting ready to pass out. Well she didnt BUT she was so drunk she did not remember coming home. During the course of us having fun, ther were some pictures taken ( naked) . Well she thinks I invaded her privacy. And it really hurt her bad. Belive me I thought she was totally aware of it.

 

Now I am in this spot where she wants to spend time apart to see if she misses me enough to think she still loves me.But she is at my house every day. She has made it clear to me she does not want to be together. She thinks I tried to take something from her.

 

When she found the picture,I did not tell her she was into it the way that she was because I didnt want her to think she was some kind of freak like that. And think bad about her self. Now i took the blame and it went over board.

 

I love this girl with my heart and soul...do I tell her the truth about that nite, and if so, how . Or do I go along with what is going on so she dont feel bad about her self???

 

PLEASE I will take any help I can get.

D-Lish Established Member

D-Lish

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Just be honest.

Tell her that you guys were both loaded and you acted in good faith. Tell her you didn't realize how drunk she was because you were in the same state as her.

 

Apologize for getting loaded and letting things get a bit out of hand- but reiterate you meant no harm and believed her to be an active participant. Then give her the space to think about the situation.

 

Women have the same crazy sexual urges as men- but are taught to suppress them, much in the same ways men learn from an early age not to cry or show emotion.

She is probably a little shocked and overwhelmed by her own behaviour and is looking to lay a bit of blame for it. Sometimes it's easier to have yourself believe that someone "made you do something like that" rather than face that you have healthy sexual urges.

 

Just give her some time to deal with it.

Oh, and think twice before drinking together like that again....

 

D

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