New Man

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Ok, long story short, last year I was with my b/f, he ended up braking up with me, when he did this I slipped the neighbor guy a note letting him know what happened and I left my number on it.

He called me that night and made sure that I was ok, he asked if I wanted to come out and watch a movie, I went. I had a wonderful time, he was so nice and caring we cuddled for hours until we both fell asleep in each others arms. When we woke up he told me that I could spend the night it was already about 4 am, I thought I better just go home, so I did, he said he would call me ( I never asked for his number)

 

Two weeks went by I had not heard from him and I ended up getting back with my ex for another year and three months. I would see him and still talk to him when he was outside, then one time he said I cant believe you got back with him. I had told my b/f that I had left the note and went over there, he was pissed but that was that.

 

The ex and I are now done for good, I left another note, he called as soon as he found it, invited me over and I had another wonderful time. In my letter to him I talked about how much it meant to me that a almost stranger took the time to call and make sure I was ok and then to top it off have me out. I was talking about the first time he had done this. In this letter I talked about how I pick my friends wisely and that I would like for us to become friends.

 

When I was out there we messed around some,(no kissing, I kept my head turned or down, just a little feeling of one another) he was very respectful of me, not wanting to push the line on anything I didn't want to do. We talked for hours had a great time, then he came and sat next to me and we cuddled and messed around some, then cuddled some more. I gave him a nice long back rub and he kept saying how great it felt, then cuddled some more, then I sat up while we were talking and I was rubbing his leg softly, again he was like don't stop every thing you are doing it feels so nice. I was there for six hours, by this time it is the wee hours in the morning and we both had to get up for work in two-ish hours he offered for me to stay but again I left to go home, before I did he gave me his number this time =) ( I wasn't going to ask him for it, I wanted him to give it to me )

 

We hugged he held on for some time, I pulled away then I went in placed both my hands lightly on the sides of his face and gave him a short nice kiss on the lips, then I pulled away, he had a look like wow she kissed me, but it could have been he was just tired..don't know... then I did the exact same thing again only a little bit more passionate one, I could tell he wanted to keep it going, but I pulled away again and we ended our night with him saying for to call him and I said to him, I will wait for you to call me, but again being so late and tired I am not sure if he remembers what I said.

 

Ok now for my problem or question, in that letter I talked about how much him doing that meant to me and I would very much like to become friends with him (he must have some good qualities in him for taking the time to do that) What we did was past the friendship line, at no point in time did we have sex...but still it was past that line of friendship.

 

I would love to date this guy, I would assume he has figured that one out, how ever we all know what assuming does. He new the risk of getting involved with me as my ex lives right next door, this hasn't stopped him as we can see, but is he only after sex is what I wonder.

 

He had told me a few months before when I asked if he had a g/f, that he hasn't put himself out there, but that he would like to find someone to have a relationship with, the girls he had met were either weird or had bagage and other problems.

 

We talked some about sex and he had said it had been a little while, so he must have someone to do it with.

 

He knows every last detail of my relationship with my ex, as I feel I can be very open and honest with him. He knows what I want or what type of man I would like and what qualities I need in one, he has those qualities and knows this, said that it would have never worked with me and my ex because he doesn't have these qualities that I need. This is true.

 

Arrggg...I don't know what to do, I don't want to get used or hurt again, but I really really like this guy, but again what if he is only looking for sex?

 

I know I should have a talk with him on where I stand and what I am looking for and as well as where he stands and what he is looking for out of this.

 

My gut says he isn't in it for just sex, otherwise he could go be with whom ever he was getting it from, and not have to deal with my ex being his neighbor and the **** that may come along with that, as my ex is fumming and told me he was gonna talk to this guy and tell him one time and only once how he feels about it. My ex said he asked one thing of me and that was NOT to see HIS neighbor and if I didn't listen then what ever happens is my own fault.

 

I lived over there, I know this guy never has any girls over, I only seen him one time with a girl and another guy, but I could have missed some, not sure, he also said you know I never have any girls here.

 

Thoughts anyone on this?

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Ok, long story short, last year I was with my b/f, he ended up braking up with me, when he did this I slipped the neighbor guy a note letting him know what happened and I left my number on it.

He called me that night and made sure that I was ok, he asked if I wanted to come out and watch a movie, I went. I had a wonderful time, he was so nice and caring we cuddled for hours until we both fell asleep in each others arms. When we woke up he told me that I could spend the night it was already about 4 am, I thought I better just go home, so I did, he said he would call me ( I never asked for his number)

 

Two weeks went by I had not heard from him and I ended up getting back with my ex for another year and three months. I would see him and still talk to him when he was outside, then one time he said I cant believe you got back with him. I had told my b/f that I had left the note and went over there, he was pissed but that was that.

 

The ex and I are now done for good, I left another note, he called as soon as he found it, invited me over and I had another wonderful time. In my letter to him I talked about how much it meant to me that a almost stranger took the time to call and make sure I was ok and then to top it off have me out. I was talking about the first time he had done this. In this letter I talked about how I pick my friends wisely and that I would like for us to become friends.

 

When I was out there we messed around some,(no kissing, I kept my head turned or down, just a little feeling of one another) he was very respectful of me, not wanting to push the line on anything I didn't want to do. We talked for hours had a great time, then he came and sat next to me and we cuddled and messed around some, then cuddled some more. I gave him a nice long back rub and he kept saying how great it felt, then cuddled some more, then I sat up while we were talking and I was rubbing his leg softly, again he was like don't stop every thing you are doing it feels so nice. I was there for six hours, by this time it is the wee hours in the morning and we both had to get up for work in two-ish hours he offered for me to stay but again I left to go home, before I did he gave me his number this time =) ( I wasn't going to ask him for it, I wanted him to give it to me )

 

We hugged he held on for some time, I pulled away then I went in placed both my hands lightly on the sides of his face and gave him a short nice kiss on the lips, then I pulled away, he had a look like wow she kissed me, but it could have been he was just tired..don't know... then I did the exact same thing again only a little bit more passionate one, I could tell he wanted to keep it going, but I pulled away again and we ended our night with him saying for to call him and I said to him, I will wait for you to call me, but again being so late and tired I am not sure if he remembers what I said.

 

Ok now for my problem or question, in that letter I talked about how much him doing that meant to me and I would very much like to become friends with him (he must have some good qualities in him for taking the time to do that) What we did was past the friendship line, at no point in time did we have sex...but still it was past that line of friendship.

 

I would love to date this guy, I would assume he has figured that one out, how ever we all know what assuming does. He new the risk of getting involved with me as my ex lives right next door, this hasn't stopped him as we can see, but is he only after sex is what I wonder.

 

He had told me a few months before when I asked if he had a g/f, that he hasn't put himself out there, but that he would like to find someone to have a relationship with, the girls he had met were either weird or had bagage and other problems.

 

We talked some about sex and he had said it had been a little while, so he must have someone to do it with.

 

He knows every last detail of my relationship with my ex, as I feel I can be very open and honest with him. He knows what I want or what type of man I would like and what qualities I need in one, he has those qualities and knows this, said that it would have never worked with me and my ex because he doesn't have these qualities that I need. This is true.

 

Arrggg...I don't know what to do, I don't want to get used or hurt again, but I really really like this guy, but again what if he is only looking for sex?

 

I know I should have a talk with him on where I stand and what I am looking for and as well as where he stands and what he is looking for out of this.

 

My gut says he isn't in it for just sex, otherwise he could go be with whom ever he was getting it from, and not have to deal with my ex being his neighbor and the **** that may come along with that, as my ex is fumming and told me he was gonna talk to this guy and tell him one time and only once how he feels about it. My ex said he asked one thing of me and that was NOT to see HIS neighbor and if I didn't listen then what ever happens is my own fault.

 

I lived over there, I know this guy never has any girls over, I only seen him one time with a girl and another guy, but I could have missed some, not sure, he also said you know I never have any girls here.

 

Thoughts anyone on this?

 

Update, no contact the next day, the day after that I called him, it was later in the evening, he had just got home from work and said he would call back...he never did last night Guess I will wait and see, I tried, now it;s in his hands to contact me.