Cold Feet?

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Hi All,

 

I'm looking for a little advice. I've just moved in with my boyfriend and it's set off the most massive panicking and stress for me. I've actually had to take time off work because it's made me so depressed (not that my work know that, of course).

 

When I knew our place was ready I started to get these feelings, like I was disconnected from my boyfriend. It's gotten worse and worse, and now I'm yoyoing between wanting to work things out and just wanting to run away.

 

Our place is REALLY small, which doesn't help either, and I feel really crowded and claustrophobic. I didn't realise until now how much time I like to spend alone, and now I can never be alone.

 

I've gone to my mother's for a few days, to try and think things through.\ My boyfriend drove me up there and both of us were in tears, I had to tell him everything I was feeling, that I wasn't sure I was ready, that I didn't know if I loved him enough, that I wished I felt more sure and how much it was tearing me up inside.

 

I am so afraid that I have fallen out of love with him- I don't feel as much for him as I used to, and I wish I did. I don't want to be falling out of love with him, I really don't, but I just feel so terrified. I don't know what to do to get into a better place, where I feel more comfortable.

 

Does anyone have any advice?

 

Thanks

 

Penny

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Moving in with soomeone seems like a big move. Maybe you just need to get acclimated to the idea and it has nothing to do with falling out of love. Then again maybe it does. Forget about your heart and your head; what does your intuition say?