Could my bf be a Misogynist?

[buzzie2]

I'm worried my bf may be a misogynist. A misogynist is a man who hates women. Well on several occasions my bf has made some derogatory comments about other women. He'll say things like "all women are stupid"; that we always need "attention"; that we are whiners; and that we all use men for their money. It's also the way he says these things with so much hate in his voice. He also checks out other women right in front of me and I know he has an attraction to younger girls. It's creepy because he is in his 40's and I've seen him out in public checking out teenaged girls. One thing I have read about misogynists is that because they hate women they treat them like sex objects and will use women. He will also put me down because I am 28 and he knows I'm sensitive about turning 30. He'll say that I'm getting older and past my prime. Also he makes comments about my weight that are disturbing. Do you think I'm right? And what should I do?

[britchick]

I'd say, yes he is. If I were you I'd finish it.

[Guest]

yeah i totally agree. If you don't want to end it then force him to sit down and talk to him about how you feel. The things he says and does are not acceptable and if his not willing to curbe his behavior at least when your there then I'd suggest you leave him and find someone who will treat you and other females in an acceptable way.

Also if you havn't been together long chances are his behavior will get worse as people tend to become more open as the relationship progresses.

[bluechocolate]

And you are with this guy because..................?

[stoopid_guy]

He's an a-hole, dump him!

[littlekitty]

Misogynist or not, he certainly doesn't sound like a loving, caring partner. As BC said, why are you even still with him?

 

And as guest mentioned often this behavior can escalate.

 

Wouldn't you rather be with someone who loves, respects and adores you? What do you get from this guy?! Does he do anything positive for you?

 

It sounds like he heading down the verbal abuse path to me.

[MsArtful]

Respect is soooooo important in a relationship, and if this guy doesn't respect women, he doesn't deserve to be in a relationship with you or any other women.

 

Dump him, Dump him, Dump him!

[typical]

He'll say that I'm getting older and past my prime.

and he's not? Read on:

because he is in his 40's

 

Sounds like someone is a bit jealous of your youth.....Don't waste your time. Seriously. It is too much of a precious thing, and I dont think this character defect can be readily changed. Men like this have a way of making us old beyond our years, and really doing a number on our confidence. He is most likely stuck in his ways and since he seems to lack respect for young women (well, women in general) he is not going to take your "relationship discussion" seriously, nor any other complaints that you may have regarding him and his attitude towards you. Move on.

[catgirl1927]

I agree with everyone else. Dump this loser before you waste any more of your time. What a jerk. It sounds like he's trying to destroy your self esteem so he can have control over you. No one who thinks that way about women needs to be in a relationship anyway.

[a4a]

I agree with everyone else. Dump this loser before you waste any more of your time. What a jerk. It sounds like he's trying to destroy your self esteem so he can have control over you. No one who thinks that way about women needs to be in a relationship anyway.

 

 

Word on that, and I would not be surprised if the damage is not already done to the point where she has a hard time walking.

[MadDog]

I disagree. This guy seems like quite a catch. You must be the envy of all your friends.

 

(100% sarcastic in case you didn't catch on.)

 

MD