Ross_K Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 This isn't a matter of 'wrong' or 'right' anyway. A person's facial bone structure is just that - a structure. It cannot be classified as 'wrong', 'right', etc. Same thing with hair. You seem to have totally misenterpreted what I'm saying. When I was saying there is nothing really wrong with his face I was saying that I don't think he's too ugly.
SmoochieFace Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 You seem to have totally misenterpreted what I'm saying. When I was saying there is nothing really wrong with his face I was saying that I don't think he's too ugly. I understand what you are saying. My point is that there isn't a 'right' way to look or a 'wrong' way to look. It's what we are born with. We cannot change our genes, heredity, bone structure, etc. as those things are beyond our control. What bothers me about this issue is that some people use looks as the most important criterion for assessing other people without understanding the fact that a person's looks is something that, for the most part, cannot be changed. There are things that endure much more than looks such as character, values, goals, etc. that also have much more power in whether a relationship will succeed or fail. Bottom line: looks can only go so far and to exaggerate their importance does not allow the other things much of a chance when in fact they deserve much more consideration than mere looks.
pricillia Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 If a woman is attracted to a man, it has much to do with looks for that initial attraction. After that it is his personality, sense of humor, likes dislikes, ect ect. Bamaboy. You are attractive the pose where you are standing with the sunglasses on (the prom pic) is a very good pic of you and it shows some attitude. You are also very young and you need to experience life to come into your own. Everyone can improve on themselves, with a haircut, working out, change in attutude, having new experiences. But I don't understand why you would like to put a bag over your head. or is that just your sense of humor, if it is loose it!
Green Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Look you asked about if you looks could be your problem the answer has to be yes they could, I'm not trying to insult you but the worlds not perfect, I'm not saying I'm better looking than you or I think I'm better then you I'm just saying your looks might be your problem. So please dont act all upset when you ask the question and people say yes.
pricillia Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Look you asked about if you looks could be your problem the answer has to be yes they could, I'm not trying to insult you but the worlds not perfect, I'm not saying I'm better looking than you or I think I'm better then you I'm just saying your looks might be your problem. So please dont act all upset when you ask the question and people say yes. I don't think that looks are his problem, there are men out there that are not attractive at all and they have SO's or are getting some. Leave the poor guy alone
Author Bamaboy2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Author Posted September 29, 2006 Look you asked about if you looks could be your problem the answer has to be yes they could, I'm not trying to insult you but the worlds not perfect, I'm not saying I'm better looking than you or I think I'm better then you I'm just saying your looks might be your problem. So please dont act all upset when you ask the question and people say yes. I dont act upset when that happens, what upsets me is when people like you keep on and and on trying to make it worse by constantly posting negative comments towards me, and that my dear friend appears to be what you are doing. Obviously you must be trying to irritate me by doing this so much, but you know what? I dont care, lets just drop this right here and right now.
burning 4 revenge Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 You could have your hair treated and a good stylist could make it strawberry blonde and give you a good cut. That's what I'd do and trim down the pubes with clippers and don't wear the band outfit on dates.
magichands Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 and don't wear the band outfit on dates. !!!! But...have you heard that rumour about men in uniform??
Ripples Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I have to go with a couple of the other posters, I think your hair would look better if was shorter. I don't mean shaved, just shorter with more shape, and I'd say that if your hair was brown, blonde, skyblue or pink.
Ross_K Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I understand what you are saying. My point is that there isn't a 'right' way to look or a 'wrong' way to look. It's what we are born with. We cannot change our genes, heredity, bone structure, etc. as those things are beyond our control. But I was never saying that there's a 'wrong' way to look or a 'right' way to look.
SmoochieFace Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 But I was never saying that there's a 'wrong' way to look or a 'right' way to look. YOU haven't done that but several others here have 'hinted' that BAMA looks 'wrong' somehow as evidenced by their responses. Evidenced by their nitpicking about his hair, style, etc. I just think the guy should be left alone. Some of the posters here have been a bit harsh for reasons that I find interesting. He will find the 'right' woman (or she will find him) in time and when that happens he probably won't even be concerned with whatever 'flaws' he may have lookswise.
Ross_K Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Yeah but he was asking for everyone's opinion on his looks. It's a lot better for people to be honest than to just say he's perfect like you see happening a lot on other forums. I know I'd much rather people be brutaly honest if I ask them an opinion about me instead of just saying everythings fine. But still, saying his hair doesn't look too good and would look better being shaved short or whatever doesn't mean we think he looks 'wrong', just that we think his hair style doesn't look too great and he'd look way better with a shorter one.
Ripples Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 YOU haven't done that but several others here have 'hinted' that BAMA looks 'wrong' somehow as evidenced by their responses. Evidenced by their nitpicking about his hair, style, etc. I just think the guy should be left alone. Some of the posters here have been a bit harsh for reasons that I find interesting. He will find the 'right' woman (or she will find him) in time and when that happens he probably won't even be concerned with whatever 'flaws' he may have lookswise. If that were the case, everyone would go au naturel all the time. None of us would bother getting our hair cut, or wearing fashionable clothes, or make up etc. etc. etc. We all do things to enhance the way we look, in one way or another. Any critisism about his hair is meant to be constructive. I, personally, think he could look far handsomer if he got a decent cut. Nothing rude, insulting about it, I'm trying to help.
SmoochieFace Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 If that were the case, everyone would go au naturel all the time. None of us would bother getting our hair cut, or wearing fashionable clothes, or make up etc. etc. etc. We all do things to enhance the way we look, in one way or another. Any critisism about his hair is meant to be constructive. I, personally, think he could look far handsomer if he got a decent cut. Nothing rude, insulting about it, I'm trying to help. You have a point here (yes, I get my hair cut as well ) but I am getting the impression that BAMA is not happy with himself and he is looking to others to tell him how he 'should' look when in fact there isn't anything 'wrong' with the way he looks. He doesn't look greasy, unkempt, scraggly, etc. He just looks like a normal everyday Joe and there's nothing wrong with that. It seems to me that he is wanting to change himself to please others, not necessarily himself. The core issue isn't his looks - it's how he feels about himself. He isn't comfortable in his own skin... and all the hair overhauls, plastic surgeries, etc. in the world won't change that. This is a self-esteem issue and that is what should be addressed.
Author Bamaboy2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Author Posted September 29, 2006 I knew I shouldnt have came here for help. Thanks a whole freakin lot those of you who have posted some not so positive comments. You say your not trying to do danything but thats bull, if you werent trying to put me down you wouldnt keep on and on about how ugly my hair and everything is. Should have known never to have went online for help. Thanks a whole freakin lot again people.
SmoochieFace Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I knew I shouldnt have came here for help. Thanks a whole freakin lot those of you who have posted some not so positive comments. You say your not trying to do danything but thats bull, if you werent trying to put me down you wouldnt keep on and on about how ugly my hair and everything is. Should have known never to have went online for help. Thanks a whole freakin lot again people. Nice going, folks. Congratulations.
a4a Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I knew I shouldnt have came here for help. Thanks a whole freakin lot those of you who have posted some not so positive comments. You say your not trying to do danything but thats bull, if you werent trying to put me down you wouldnt keep on and on about how ugly my hair and everything is. Should have known never to have went online for help. Thanks a whole freakin lot again people. This is funny now...... If I posted the question is my butt big and put a link to my butt picture and some people said....... yeah its big I should be offended? If you don't want people to say anything and be polite don't ask. If you do ask you may get comments that say "yeah that is a big ass, or no your ass is nice" ...... And I agree with Ripples BTW.
SmoochieFace Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 This is funny now...... If I posted the question is my butt big and put a link to my butt picture and some people said....... yeah its big I should be offended? If you don't want people to say anything and be polite don't ask. If you do ask you may get comments that say "yeah that is a big ass, or no your ass is nice" ...... And I agree with Ripples BTW. Well, A4A, there is such a thing as 'tact'. It's one of the few things that isn't harmful in high doses.
Author Bamaboy2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Author Posted September 29, 2006 I learned from it all, never ask for help with anything on the net. Easiest place to get shot down. People say they dont mean thethings they say but thats bullcrap. If they didnt mean it they wouldnt be saying it over and over like some of the people on here have. I know now i shouldnt ask for help on here again.
SmoochieFace Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I learned from it all, never ask for help with anything on the net. Easiest place to get shot down. People say they dont mean thethings they say but thats bullcrap. If they didnt mean it they wouldnt be saying it over and over like some of the people on here have. I know now i shouldnt ask for help on here again. Whoa, put the brakes on. First off, not everyone here 'shot you down'. Secondly, it may be of interest to know that those who 'shoot' others down are probably insecure themselves and that they do it to prop themselves up. So... it's more about THEM than it is about YOU. Try to not allow a couple of 'bad apples' here spoil everything for you. As The Riddler said... take the advice that works for you and ignore the bulls***. Being online really isn't any different from being in real life - there are always gonna be 'baddies' wherever you look. Ignore them.
Ross_K Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I learned from it all, never ask for help with anything on the net. Easiest place to get shot down. People say they dont mean thethings they say but thats bullcrap. If they didnt mean it they wouldnt be saying it over and over like some of the people on here have. I know now i shouldnt ask for help on here again. Did you want an honest opinion, or did you want everyone to lie? If you came here for an honest opinion then don't get offended when people give it you. I don't know if anyone has tried to be offensive to you but I know myself and others are A. Answering your original question honestly & B. Trying to help
a4a Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 I learned from it all, never ask for help with anything on the net. Easiest place to get shot down. People say they dont mean thethings they say but thats bullcrap. If they didnt mean it they wouldnt be saying it over and over like some of the people on here have. I know now i shouldnt ask for help on here again. are you trying to prove to us that it is not your looks but your attitude that is the problem? Really not joking now, you could have said "look at my pic and what would you improve on to make myself more attractive to women in general" But now you are being a cry baby about this.....not attractive regardless of hair, butt, or nose. You asked......you got answers.
Ripples Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 are you trying to prove to us that it is not your looks but your attitude that is the problem? Got it in one!
SmoochieFace Posted September 29, 2006 Posted September 29, 2006 Did you want an honest opinion, or did you want everyone to lie? If you came here for an honest opinion then don't get offended when people give it you. I don't know if anyone has tried to be offensive to you but I know myself and others are A. Answering your original question honestly & B. Trying to help I think you should reread the thread, Ross. I can easily point out the posts that could be taken to be 'offensive' by a person who is dealing with uncertainty. I don't think you or anyone else here is that myopic in seeing them. I also recall how you reacted when people were 'brutally honest' with you in your threads. You didn't seem to take it well yourself. Perhaps a bit of empathy is in order.
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