Pyro Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 big deal if thats the case then so be it. Im not changing my hair color just to get a girl. That wouldnt be natural. I dont want to just change it to another just because that is the popular thing to do. sorry but red it stays its my hair and that study did not say that EVERY girl dislikes red hair now did it? Sudies actually show that women find bitter and negative men to be the least attractive. There are plenty of women who like red heads. Its all about being confident in yourself and what you have to work with. Being funny and outgoing helps out as well.
Guest Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Theres nothing wrong with the way you look or ur red hair. Id say its your self-esteem thats stopping you from finding a girl. I had a look at your myspace as well and the comments on the pics and on other places on the page and your url being "loserboy06". Its like how guys like a girl who doesn't need to be told a million times their beautiful and special. People don't like it when they meet someone who constantly needs to be reinforced that their ok, and from your commments on your pics and your myspace it sounds like your that sorta guy. If you wanna meet a girl don't be a wall flower and stand in the corner, get out there, be confident (if this is hard have a couple of beers), and don't say any thing bad about yourself. If you start feeling nervous or self-concious when talking to a girl, give them a compliment, cause chances are they'll give you one back. Also CHANGE YOUR MYSPACE. No more negative comments!!! You should promise your self you will NEVER EVER say crap bout your self again, it'll do you no favours in any area of your life. I was majorly self-concious for years and it wasn't until I made an effort to stop being like and to be confident that I got the attention of my boyfriend. One quote I love is "Fake it until you make it." If you don't feel confident and don't feel damn sexy then fake it and one day you will!!
alphamale Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 I've known women who dig redheads. I can think of several cases in which women fell all over themselves for redheaded guys. Not me...I knew a couple red haired dudes and they always had trouble getting chicks. I have to question what you do with your time if you have time to follow research like this, Mr. I Have Mystery Studies To Back Up Any Random Comment I Choose to Make. these are not random comments. I have read numerous times that red-haired men with freckles and pasty-white skin are considered least desirable by the ladies. Some women will find them attractive but it will be fewer in number... There are plenty of women who like red heads. I don't believe so...I will start another thread and we will see what the ladies say.
quankanne Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 it's less about hair color and more about hair style. Mullets are creepy. Comb-overs are creepy. Toupees are creepy. Bama boy, with your face shape, look for a closer to the sides cut for a streamlined look. You're not a bad looking kid, and the best part is that those teenagers who think they're blah in high school often grow into their looks and end up better looking than the so-called hotties in their class.
pricillia Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 every study done shows that dudes with red hair are found the least attractive by women. do some research. He knows cause Alpha Male used to be a red head... Just kidding Alpha... You don't see many men with red hair these days though, maybe the study is correct. Anyway... I personally am not attracted to red heads, What turns my head is a man who is dark...with that said Stop bashing yourself, it is a mans confidence that seals the deal...
alphamale Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Anyway... I personally am not attracted to red heads, What turns my head is a man who is dark...with that said .. thank you for your input PRICILLA..could you post this on the new thread I just started on this subject?
Yamaha Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Is it really that women do not find them attractive or are they falling for the tall,dark and handsome ideal? Is it the pale skin or the red hair?
alphamale Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Is it the pale skin or the red hair? both, and the accompaning freckles don't help either.
pricillia Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Is it really that women do not find them attractive or are they falling for the tall,dark and handsome ideal? Is it the pale skin or the red hair? Yamaha, Looks are the initial attraction, all the men that I have had relationships with 1 yr plus, have all been different from being Greek to Irish with blond hair To Cuban, to Black. I have found what attracted me to these men was just a like factor that made me want to get to know them better. There is this one actor that has red hair that I think is attractive, but I can not remember his name. Oh well... Initially the Op's pics are nice, but the captions are horrible. You have to like yourself in order to be with someone else.
Green Posted September 27, 2006 Posted September 27, 2006 Look he's in Alabama the girls there are different then the rest of the country, they can actualy be pretty damn hot and alot easier to get in my oppinion. Now bright Red Haired white skinned freckles is obviously not the greatest looking thing or there would be more underwear models and super stars looking that way instead of the steriotypical tall dark and handsome. The point is your no stud and your looks may be what is losing it for you with some girls. Youve suspected it yourself, I mean ever heard the saying I'm going to beat you like a red headed step child. look you've only been out with a few girls and I wouldnt say it was your looks that screwed it up your young things end, but hey you wanted an honest opinion not some people who are going to blow smoke up you ass so take the advice if you want to be better looking change the hair color otherwise stop putting pictures up of yourself in Alabama acting like your in Irland trying to do a jig. With that said your not fat or short or balding right cause those would be the kiss of death as far as looks alone go and oh yeah take care of your teeth
alphamale Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 but hey you wanted an honest opinion not some people who are going to blow smoke up you ass so take the advice if you want to be better looking change the hair color otherwise stop putting pictures up of yourself in Alabama acting like your in Irland trying to do a jig. exactly KMT! he asked for opinions and he got one, at least from me.
pricillia Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 exactly KMT! he asked for opinions and he got one, at least from me.[/quote Hugh... Are we in the twilight zone?
Author Bamaboy2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 Ok thats it some of these posts i have been reading have really been offensive to me. Lets end this discussion right now. Supposed to have been looking for help but instead, a few people came in and harped on how ugly they think i look thanks a BUNCH guys that was a whole freakin lot of help. I know who NOT to ask now.
Pyro Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Ok thats it some of these posts i have been reading have really been offensive to me. Lets end this discussion right now. Supposed to have been looking for help but instead, a few people came in and harped on how ugly they think i look thanks a BUNCH guys that was a whole freakin lot of help. I know who NOT to ask now. Try not to take there advice personally. Soak up the advice on here that you think is best for you and just ignore the BS.
magichands Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I know who NOT to ask now. Okay...hear me out. I think, when asking for advice, that you have to take the good and the not so good. It's just advice. For example, I was really impressed by this. If girls dont like my hair colour and would use that as sole reason to not want to like me then who needs them So come on now. Have confidence in yourself. And show everyone that you're not influenced by their opinion of you. Be your own person. Be yourself. And don't be so sensitive, haha. Okay?
Author Bamaboy2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 Point well taken. They can downplay me all they want to, if they think its going to make me feel bad they are mistaken. As a matter of fact by refusing to crumble under their barrage of derrogatory comments I feel better about myself.
magichands Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 As a matter of fact by refusing to crumble under their barrage of derrogatory comments I feel better about myself. You'll feel even better if you shave your head. Feel free. I think the girls will love it, but if I'm wrong...it will grow back. Your mum will hate it though. (Only adding to your rebel mystique.)
Author Bamaboy2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 I am not going to shave my head, like I said if its the hair they dont like and they use that as a base reason for not liking me then no need to bother with them anyway. If all girls were like that Id appreciate being single by far then.
magichands Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I am not going to shave my head, I guess Kittiekat liked it. Good call. (I still think I'm right, but don't let it bother you.)
Author Bamaboy2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 Look what I am saying is this. I would rather keep my hair like it is cuz thats the real deal with me. I dont think I would be happy i got a gf because i shaved my head because to me that would mean she only likes me for what i am not. Red headed is what I am and I shall not change it. Better to be liked for what you really are than to be liked for something that you are not.
magichands Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Better to be liked for what you really are than to be liked for something that you are not. If you shave your head you are still you. Anyway, forget it! I'll shave mine instead.
Author Bamaboy2006 Posted September 28, 2006 Author Posted September 28, 2006 ah well thanks for all the input its all been nice to see what some folks have had to say. and then of course there have been those who made comments that really grind my gears, i just pay them no attention.
Guest Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 hey i checked out your myspace again and all those negative comments are still there. You really need to change them. Just writing something good bout yourself even if you have to force yourself too, will make you feel better and people will respond much more positively to a nice comment rather than one that just puts you down.
Ross_K Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I'll be honest. There isn't really anything wrong with the way your face looks, and it definatley shouldn't stop you from getting women anyway. I do think though, and I'm sure most people will share my opinion. is that red hair just doesn't look good when it's long, and I dont think your hair style looks too great anyway. I think you'd look a lot better to have your hair shaved short, like a number one on the sides and back shaved high up and get the top cut down a real lot.
SmoochieFace Posted September 28, 2006 Posted September 28, 2006 I'll be honest. There isn't really anything wrong with the way your face looks, and it definatley shouldn't stop you from getting women anyway. This isn't a matter of 'wrong' or 'right' anyway. A person's facial bone structure is just that - a structure. It cannot be classified as 'wrong', 'right', etc. Same thing with hair. BAMA, instead of seeking 'opinions' from others as to whether you look 'right' or not perhaps you could concentrate on and make the best of what you DO have. There are plenty of people who have much less than you - no need to point out any specifics as I believe you are an intelligent person who can figure it out - and always remember that those who put you down for your looks are people you probably wouldn't want to associate with anyway. That behaviour demonstrates to me that they place higher value on looks instead of who you are as a person based on your personality, intelligence, character, and skills/talents. Looks are only a very small part of the entire package and you seem to be exaggerating its importance. I noticed that from your less-than-flattering comments you made about yourself. Now... to those who cite 'studies' about redheads being supposedly 'unattractive' to women... look, we've all heard this sort of rubbish before. Such 'studies' do not speak for ALL women and to infer that they do is absolutely ridiculous. I have not, and never will, subscribe to such useless drivel. Back to BAMA... something that worked for me long ago when I was struggling with the 'looks' issue is this: when you are out and about, look at people. Look at couples. You will see that he majority of people out there are just regular ordinary folk. If they can be in relationships... so can you. It isn't all about 'looks' and please do not let others con you into thinking that.
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